After divorce

It is problem to be honest.Like people said the situation should be taken with care and you should talk to your child, listen to them.

See them as often as possible. When you can't be with them in person then call them. Ask them what is going on in thier lives and tell them about yours. If they are old enough to use the computer then send emails back and forth. Contact them on Facebook etc....Just spending quality time with them is important. But the older the children get they may want to have alone time too. Just be there and be interested. You can never say "I love you" too often. Lots of hugs too!!!

No comments on separation between the spouses, but the link with the children can never be severed. For that part, either the mom or dad must behave professionally, giving the best possible attention to the children, physically through regular meetings, eating out, playing in theme parks, holiday travels, etc., and psycologically by expressing in words and letters how you care about them, your commitment, your requirements, and your anticipation. It is tough, but some people well manage it.

It is very hard as the children seem to always feel the brunt of it and when they are with mum they will want dad and when they are with dad they will want mum.My children were only 2 and 3 when i got a divorce and they found it very hard indeed when they went to their dads alternate weekends as that was something they did not want to do.

If the childrens were still very young,the situation should be taken with care.It shouldn't make the kids suffer,or else they will end up with shattered minds. Childrens must be well taken care of,just like the same family as ever,going out with them,picnic,malling and shopping.Must give time with them not to let them feel they are being neglected. And little by little,you can explain the situation with them,and as they grow older they will understand why the relationship(divorce)takes place and they will not blame either the two of you(mom and dad).

I'm going to respond to this based on what I'm going through right now with my ex-husband and our son. I'm the custodial parent and currently the ex doesn't have unsupervised visitation. First and most importantly, call your child regularly. When you are talking to your child, listen to them. Ask them what they're doing and such, but don't use talking to your child as an opportunity to grill them about your ex. Kids are smart and don't like being used like that. Also, don't insult the other parent to the child (this applies also to the custodial parent insulting the noncustodial parent as well). Don't make promises you have no intention of keeping. It all boils down to love your child and keep them out of the adults' problems.