Tell us your experience with Child Support Enforcement Agency....good or bad?

I think the system is a cold, inhuman and vicious machine. It is a state sponsored gestapo. It takes no account of individual situations, it is geared towards one thing, the vicious extortion of money, period. As a single father who has had to raise his teen daughters by himself, I found myself in another marriage. From this marriage, was born another child. This second wife then up and moved to the other side of the country, taking this child with her. She then proceeds to go through her state to have them work with my state to collect child support from me. No consideration is given by either state that I myself am raising children too, that I am already income challenged (dirt poor), that I am struggling to keep my family in food and under a roof. The fact that I am too a single father is not a factor in their equations. I didn't ask to be an "absent father", I was given no choice in the matter. Dammit, I'm not an absent father...I'm a father with an absent child that I would give my right nad to be raising. How DARE they lecture me about my responsabilites and tell me what kind of father I am, they don't know me, they don't know my children and they don't know how hard I fight and claw to raise the children I have been entrusted and blessed with. I am given no lawyer, though my ex has 2 appointed to her, at no cost to her, one attorny working for each state in their child support enforcement divisions. I am not privy to any of her financial information, income etc, yet she is given full access to mine. The entire system is rigged solidly in favor of the one seeking support. They have measures that even further restrict one's ability to provide for your family, such as suspending drivers licenses and preventing you from finding any meaningfull work, they can prevent you from getting hunting or fishing licenses, even put your picture on a wall of shame (no, Im not on one myself), yeh, that's great for your public reputation, employers LOVE to see that kind of thing in potential employees. As a single parent, I saught no support from my ex, my pride have ever allowed me to ask any thing of her, especialy money. I did it all on my own with out one single dime of her or her new husband's money. And much as I detested her as a person, I would never have dreamed of turning such a machine on her and putting her through the living helll I have been put through. sorry, thanks for letting me rant deb.

I sympathize with the last responder. His situation is not fair. But I come from the opposite side of the table. I am a mother of two children who suffer from an absent father and very inconsistent supporter. I have been in and out of court for most of that time trying to get him to pay. He owes us thirty thousand dollars of back child support. But has made no effort to make amends. He does everything he can not to pay and has very little contact with them. I know he resents me for whatever he thinks I have done. I know I am not blameless but that was ten years ago and he still hasn't gotten over it. I have an attorney in his state and we finally, just last year, got the state to take the money out of his wages. But the state has not made him suffer consequences for his deliquency and huge debt. I don't know if I/we will ever get what he owes. He does pay back support as part of his monthly payment. But in two years his youngest child wll graduate, not sure what happens after that.

Well I have no clue about what u r talking.... I just replied to this post is because before logging in I decided to reply to the latest post..I'm sorry