Buying Clothing for Your Children.
By gracefuldove
@gracefuldove (1668)
Malaysia
August 31, 2009 11:06am CST
Well,it has to stop sometime.These days children want to do their own shopping as far as clothes are involved. There are also stubborn mothers who will not let go of this so-called right. They insist that their children wear what they buy.A friend of mine told me her mother was absolutely overbearing and continued buying her panties,bras and shoes according to her preference to the dislike of her friend. She boycotted the items bought to send a clear message that it was about time that she be treated like an adult capable of buying her own clothes.When things comes to an impasse, the mother or the daughter will have to back down. So do you still buy clothing for your children?If you have stopped doing so, at what age was your daughter or son given the liberty to buy their own clothing? Hope we can have a lively discussion on this topic.
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6 responses
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 09
Hello Grace,
I still buy clothing for my 2 kids, they are still too small to buy clothing on their own. In fact, I enjoy buying clothing for my kids. I think I will just like your friend, I will buy clothing for my kids in the future too even they are growing big enough to buy clothing on their own. I hope my kids will like mummy to buy and choose the clothing for them, LOL.
Or maybe it is better for parents to bring the kids along when buying clothing for them. Let them select what they want and the parents can always give them some suggestions!
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@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I think the person who pays for the clothes is the one with the most power, at least that's what my mother always says "the person with the money makes the decisions." With that said, it would be nice for a parent to assist their child in clothes buying, steering them away from inappropriate clothing for their age or something that is grossly overpriced because its at the mall as opposed to the same thing much cheaper at Walmart. So, I don't think its unreasonable for a parent to always go along with their child, even into their teens, though I would hope the parent would let their child make some of the decisions instead of just choosing what they want them to wear. Cuz that's just mean. I don't remember when I stopped buying clothes for my daughter. She's an adult now and sometimes I do still pick up clothes for her if I'm pretty sure its something she likes. We buy clothes for the boys without their input but they are 10, almost 8, and 4 plus they are easy to buy for and they have to wear school uniforms to school anyway.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 09
Hi,
my son is 13. I brought him along and asked him to choose.
But normally he just look with no interest of his own.
So, that means I have to sheck around and pick up some
and asked him to try. Then he will come out and said
which one okay and which one NO. Then I will confirm
with him which one he likes. Then he will pick up the
one he preferred. Settled! But for shoes, he want to
choose his own...still cannot find one that suits him,
so he rather wear a pair of sandal...lol
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
1 Sep 09
gracefuldove, oh, my parents stop choosing my clothing since I am at the age of 13! They still buy the clothes with my consent (since I can't afford to buy myself) and for all undergarments, I settle it myself too..
If we are not out shopping together, I will ask for the amount and shop for the item myself! even at times, my mum will still buy a few piece for me, which she thinks I will be wearing (and of course those very 'safe' clothing) like T-shirts, but not something overly fancy which I will give a 2nd thought on it.
I think for me, I will be doing the same, when my girl grows older, and she has got the sense of dressing herself, and I will let her make her own decision..
@tintukm (1102)
• India
1 Sep 09
Children do become selective and much capable of understanding their own needs by the time get cross their teenage,many are capable of it during teenage too.Its the parents who must understand that they cannot keep on making up the things that they when they were smaller and unknown of their needs at times.Clothes are a special case ,right, the thing that one wear's is much more studied by the children.They start to be more of themselves during buying them,by seeing what others wear of their age makes them go with it.Its human nature to be frank.
Keep the distance too when a child grows older,otherwise there would be loads of troubles of small and silly matters.