children and parents relations
@yugasini (12893)
Secunderabad, India
August 31, 2009 1:23pm CST
hi mylot freinds,
we love our children when they are children, they also show the same affection with us,after that also in our old age also we extend the same affection to our children,but the children does not have that affection to us,if they remember that they have showed a good affection to their parents when they are children, we give away whatever the thing they want in them in child hood days,but after that they are not interested to invest a penny towards our health and food,do you feel about this ever?
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4 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Hello Yugasini. My daughters are grown now, and yes, there are times I could use help from them and they are not there for me. Other times, though, when I most need help, however busy their lives, they WILL be there for me, and I accept that. They are who they are!
A good discussion topic!
Karen@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
2 Sep 09
hi karen,
thanks for the response,that is correct they are our children,have a nice day
@Archie0 (5652)
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28 Sep 09
All is not lost, Parents absolutely forgive their kids, its hard not to. Parents ALWAYS have a tendency to blame themselves, "what did i do wrong" or "maybe I should have done this" Trust me it hurts the parent more then the kid because it is a shade paradox, we have to teach you a lesson and just letting you know we forgive you, is somewhat of a message that its ok what you did. We want you to learn. If your parent broke your trust, it might take you a minute to give your trust again and only because when the trust was broken, it hurt you. Parents are the same. We hurt, you kids hurt our feelings also, maybe you just don't see it. We want to trust you, we love you. when you talk about being sorry, you really need to mean it, and you need to open up and communicate with your parent. A parents job it to protect you and that is absolutely why we play hardball with you, out of love and protection!!!!!!!
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Archie...beautifully put! There is nothing my kids could do beyond love or forgiveness. And yes, sometimes that love has to be of the tougher variety.
Karen
@heikedear (17)
• South Korea
1 Sep 09
i believe as parents we should not expect anything in return ffrom our children. early on we must give everything they need to sustain themselves and we teach them how to love and care for their own children someday.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
1 Sep 09
hi heikedear,
thanks for the response,your words are quite correct that as parents we should expect anything in return from our children,have a nice day
@meapas (2436)
• India
1 Sep 09
I have heard these kind of things from many people. Luckily in my family these things doesn't happen. Actually mine is a dream family that you see in some films. I am very happy and lucky on that front.
@shantha_45 (332)
• India
31 Aug 09
Yes Yugasinit your observation is correct.
Nowadays the bonding between the parents and children
are becoming weaker.Of course the parents do not
bring up their children expecting something. But when
they have their own family they tend to forget
their parents. They will realise only when they themselves become parents.
Have a nice day
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
1 Sep 09
hi shantha,
thanks for the response,you said quite right,when they become as parents then they realise,have a nice day
