How to deal with a cheating Husband, or Boyfriend..

Having a cheating boyfriend and then when you break up and find out from friends what he was really doing is the worst pain you could ever go through. May of this year was the worst pain i have even encountered while i was going through a hard break up and the worst one at that. After dating him for two years i went by his place to find a un-suspicious car outside and well it was a girl he was cheating on me with and its hard to see him still and wonder why he would have done this. He needed me in his life and i guess he wanted to keep me around but still cheat on me with other girls and 8 girls exactly. To get him back i took many things that belonged to me that he thought belonged to him, but after it all he knew i spent a lot of money on him and stopped calling the police and bothering them to have me give back his belongings, but they weren't his they were mine as i had receipts and so much more to prove they were mine in the end. Its the worst really to still see him out and about around town, but he had to sell his explorer and with no job he doesn't have anything now and not even a cell phone. Its pathetic because i was the one paying for all that in the end.

The punishment looks funny and nice. She wanted to send the message and she has done that. You are thinking about ....cut it off!!! Is it cutting the relation or Bobbitting. If you meant bobbitting, I think it is cruelty

LOL!! i loved it! and i'll tell you what he must realllly love her and want to stay badlyyy..for doing that, i know i wouldnt btu then again id never cheat on anyone im with,if im not happy i just talk about it or leave,which ithink everyone should,but some people especially men in my case just need the Variety of other women i guess and are never happy.Also i wish they would of shown the pic of the guy,that would of been just FABULOUS! LOL!

I gott say, that was a very creative way of punishing the guy. Now, if he didnt care for his wife, he would have just dumped her and told her that it was over. Like all cheaters, he was just a man thats stupid thinking he could juggle women as if they were circus balls.. the nerve. After you are done with the punishment though, then what? She probably felt very very good about it, but in the end, I dont think it made the situation any better. Now the real struggle begins, wether she forgives him and continues the relationship or breaks it off with him.

Taking law into ones own hand not a good thing to do. Of course the personal satisfaction that one will get will not be matched by any other punishment that the world will give. You are hurt and by taking your own revenge, no other punishment will match it. In fact, such personal punishment might even stop others from cheating. The only downside of it is you will be hurting yourself and your conscience till the end of your life. There is just too much gamble. Will your children think of the act as a bravery or something else. Will they be happy or starts to hate you. Will people you know console you or slowly starts distancing themselves from you. Will the learned peoples say it was correct or punish you. There's too many at stake....and such stories goes on.. :)

How to deal with a cheating husband or boyfriend?? I have dealt with this one alot, my ex-husband was a cheater. I began dealing with it by just ignoring it and telling myself, oh it's ok because he comes home to me and he loves me. I soon came to hate this man and I also found that the absolute very best way to deal with the cheating was to give him a dose of his own medicine! I almost hate to say it, but, I hooked up with his best friend. I don't feel too bad because he had done it to me, but, when he found out what I had done..the look on his face was so priceless. I have to say that seeing all the hurt and pain in his eyes was the best feeling in the entire world! After about a week of him being in shock, all the apologies and I understand how you felt now, and the I can't believe you did that, no one has ever hurt me so much, I made him think we were getting back together, then I hooked up with another friend. This was the best way for me to deal with the cheating

it's part of life, cheating. not nice, my ex-sister inlaw did it to her husband. to end the relationship, or something like that and the guy she did it with was supposed to be a family friend. both familes live up north now and nowhere near each other. then my uncle got busted the other yr having an affair, my aunt was a pain in the butt about for months after wards. all i said when told what happened was it was bound to happen cause it's so common now. it was decided between my partner and i if either one ever did it to the other that was it is was over.

hi jellymonty oh shades of Loretta Bobbet,wow good way to 'start' the day laughing my head off. good for you. that is the way to'go and I think if my husband had ever done that to me I might have'been tempted to uh "bobbit" leaving a tiny little stump. he he.If the would be cheaters knew we gals would take our little pinking scissors to their jewels they might actually think twice. he he he

Why even waste the time? There is no revenge like good ol karma. Taking matters into your own hand only makes things bad for you as well. I don't appreciate getting cheated any better than anyone else but seriously "cutting it off??" Thats going way too far and does not fit at all with the crime. Cheating is a breaking of trust. Removing that certain anatomy takes a way from a person much much more than cheating does. It doesn't compare in the least bit.

Hi Jelly, If you have already gathered enough evidence, it is probably time for you to confront him/her. However, make sure you are ready before you do that. Here are some points that you should consider. 1) Be careful if your spouse is someone who is prone to violence: This is especially true if you are a woman whose husband is prone to violence. It is probably a good idea to get someone to accompany you before you confront your husband. This is just a way to protect yourself from any harm. 2) Leave the children alone: Do not confront your husband or wife in front of the children. They can be traumatized by the experience. 3) Think about what you want before the confrontation: Now that you know your spouse is cheating on you, what are going to do? Do you want a divorce? Or do you want to save the relationship? There are probably many factors that you need to consider. This is especially true if you already have children, especially when they are still young. The decision that you make is going to affect them. I hope thing so alright and this will help all those who get cheated by either..

Well we were thinking on the same lines. I read the topic and was going to ask if you'd heard the name Bobbit (knowing that obviously you probably had). Of course I would never really do that...but I'd sure want to.

Revenge will never help anyone heal from the pain of being cheated on. Once someone cheats the relationship is never the same. Punishment and revenge will never stop the images in our heads, the questions, wondering why etc. The reason a person cheats is because they want to. They do it because they no longer care about the person they are in a relationship with and or care more about their own satisfaction than the other persons feelings. I just walk away from it. Indifference is the only way to begin the healing process. The cheater is just not worth the effort of the pain they have caused. I don't understand your putting 'mistresses' in this group. Aren't they the ones contributing to the pain and enabling the cheater?