first love really hurts alot... don't you think so?

Hey there... Somehow I can relate well to this, having someone you really love who suddenly had another person in their life in just a short period of time. It wasn't my first love though, my first relationship lasted 6 weeks only and I think that was my own mistake. For this one, it was a guy I really cared about and changed my life. So it isn't easy to just throw the memories away and forget about him. Funny thing was that we never had a proper relationship, so he was never my boyfriend. Only that while I was with him, I might have mistakenly made him believe I didn't want him in my life when I really did but in my own way. He suddenly told me one day that he had a girlfriend already, though at the same time he told me he still loved me. No wonder that made me hope for him somewhat. Still he told me the relationship he had will be a serious one. Too funny... made me wonder what I ever meant in his life. Even till this day I cannot just get over it. I know it's hard getting over a person important in your life. But all I know is that everyday I keep trying.

Your first love is always the hardest to get over and really its life and everyone really has gone through it unless other wise they have never loved anyone but their first love. You know its been 5 years since you have loved this person, you need to get out with your friends and find yourself another great guy for you. If you have not had a date or a boyfriend in those past five years then you really need to get on with life and stop thinking about your past because your future is always so much more important and your life is way better now probably with out him in your life. In high school i dated someone that i felt for really bad but then i liked someone else too and really didn't know what to do and i feel for the other guy i wasn't even dating and i still to this day think about the guy i dated in high school that i liked so much. Hes doing great and hes got his own house and everything now and does so much and well hes had the same girlfriend that he dated after me in high school. Its life and i have moved on and been in love after that of course and have gone through rough times with a lot of different guys as they all cheat and hurt you in some type of way. Now i have two guys that I'm seeing and being 24 i think its the best way to be because now i know i can't just be with one guy and i need to choose who i like better and who is going to treat me the best at the end. There both different in their own ways i like each other for different things and i wish there was one guy that had there two life's together and everything would be good for me but i haven't met that person yet.

If you really loved him, it will take time. I think you need to stop hoping. Maybe by thinking about the bad side of things. ie That he gave you such a lame excuse when he was probably already interested in somebody else. Find a way to convince yourself that he's not interested and that there's no hope, and then you can hopefully focus on something else.

5 years?! Well, you have to let go some day.. I mean that's not really healthy.. And maybe he is just really not for you.. I think first love really hurts a lot, cause you experience new things together.. and when you try new things, you tend to always remember the first time. I had my first love when I was only in first year highschool. We were together for a couple of months, it was a roller coaster relationship, but I got over it eventually. It's really learning to let go, and learning to focus on the future.

I did not felt in love but it hurts really a lot,if we fell in love thinking and our mind will be unconscious in love only.I have to find a way for convinvcing for focusing some intersting matters needed.I never think about love till then its not a bad thing we have to control these maters.

I know that feeling all too well. I fell in love in 7th grade and we were together off and on until we graduated. Then he joined the army and said that he didn't want to have to deal with a girlfriend while he was away so much so we broke it off. He told me that he still loved me and wanted us to keep in touch. We had always talked about getting married and having a life together, but then out of no where he claimed he didn't want that and he changed his mind. Then I find out that he married another girl from where we used to live not even a year after him and I broke up. It killed me to hear that. Now they live in another state and they seem to be very happily married. I got into a new relationship shortly after all that happened and have been with my boyfriend now for 3 years. I love my boyfriend and we're great together but I still feel pain from my ex boyfriend. I'm not sure why and I've always wanted to call him and ask him what happened between us but I haven't had the guts to and I didn't want to bring up bad feelings. I think its maybe because I never had the closure to exactly why he didn't want to be with me but he wanted to be with that other person. Maybe it still hurts because I keep trying to tell myself that I'm happy where I am and the truth is that I'm not. These things take time I guess. Maybe you should confront him and find out what he was thinking. Don't make it sound like your desperate though. Bring it up politely. You never know. He might feel back for doing that to you anyways.

I know how it feels to be hurt. I loved this guy before and he broke my heart it has been 3 years and ium still hurting!!!

Yup! but second love hurts as well as long as someone broke your heart!

I understand you Opalian. The pain can linger for years, but one day, you must make the choice to go on with your life and make the best of it. Cherish the good times that you had and know that you gave a great love from your heart to another human being, and list the good things about it. Just the fact that you can love is wonderful. I know this hurts, but I learned that I have to go on or I would destroy my chance of ever making myself or another person happy. You can make someone very happy..remember that..just that thought...think of how happy someone would be to have you..just think of how happy they would be. You have the power to do so...make it happen Opalian..it can happen. Good Luck.