Is it fair to the children to have a big family?
By dreamr802
@dreamr802 (985)
United States
September 1, 2009 12:05am CST
Now I want to start this off by saying I'm not saying you are wrong if you have or want a big family (I say more than 5 kids)...but is it really fair to the children? I was watching an episode of Super Nanny and she was helping a family that had 10 children and the wife still wanted 2 more to complete her dream of having 12 kids...but it was like the 3 oldest children were playing parents for the younger children as well...and took care of the kids and whatnot. I personally think that it is selfish to have that many children. I personally do not want more than 3 kids because I don't want to be stretched out too far and I would like to have a relationship with each one of my children.
5 responses
@meapas (2436)
• India
3 Sep 09
Not proper at all unless you are on the fortune list of wealthiest people in the world.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Even if you are rich, to have a huge family like that you still won't be able to give them all the attention that they need.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
3 Sep 09
Hi dreamr,
I absolutely agree with you 100% because yes I think it's incredibly selfish of the parents to bring that many children into the world. What inevitably happens is that they expect and take advantage of their older children by having them be regular babysitters for the younger ones. How is that fair? I think these parents are incredibly self absorbed with THEMSELVES, by thinking that they need to continually pass their genes along for their own self satisfaction/glory at the expense of their kids. These kids become "slaves"very soon by their regular babysitting, cooking and family tasks, and very rarely enjoy their childhood or teens the way they should. Also, you can't tell me that every one of those kids would have their emotional needs met by the parents. The parents would probably know very little about each one of their kids because how could they know? Too many kids to keep track of. It's fine and dandy if the parents bring that many kids into the world, but you rarely hear of them taking care of each one of their own kids themselves. They tend to rely on their older kids to take care of the younger ones. How is that fair to the older kids? It's not and the parents are egotistical and SELFISH! If you're going to have a tribe and bring that many kinds into the world, then you should take care of your own kids, get a nanny but don't use your kids. Idiots out there....
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
3 Sep 09
I completely agree with you. I do think that it is very selfish of the parents. It's almost as if they never want to have an empty nest...or that they constantly want to have a baby in the house...
@pormadi (1300)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 09
For some etnic, the bigger family the bigger money. But I do agree with you. Three kids is better. A good relationship between members of family is important to be realized. Family should have a vision to build a happy family in phisically and spiritually.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep 09
I think that 1 child could get lonely, 2 children would have company, with 3 children one might get left out and 4 children would have company. I know anymore than 5 children a couple would need a large house and a lot of money. Any more than 5 children I think must be a lot of work like washing clothes would be never ending. Super Nanny helps parents that they are having difficulty coping or that have really kids with extremely behavior.
