Is it right to cheat if you have the green light?
@stephenmathies (41)
United States
November 13, 2006 4:55pm CST
Is it right to cheat if you have the green-light?Meaning, if your girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband give you permission to have another just to satisfy your Lust or craving for that person is it right to do so? I mean after all you love the one your with, but you could lust after another. So would I be justifiable on pursuing that right that she gave me? She said that she just wants me to be happy.... sort of like having your cake and eating it too:-)
Is it really cheating if you have permission...
5 responses
@queen_bee (221)
• United States
13 Nov 06
do me a favor bake a cake, eat it and see if its still there....that should answer you question
@stephenmathies (41)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I hear ya, but she's really into that sort of thing, we've been together for 8 years now and she just doesn't want me to grow board with her I guess, I told her to get a girlfriend :-) I don't have a problem with it, you know, someone to come over once in a while spend a night or two... something like that. Seems good for the relashionship! Spice!
@queen_bee (221)
• United States
13 Nov 06
well i will answer you honestly my boyfriend and i have this pact the only way we are allowed to be w/ another person is to have a threesome...i think this is the only way if you are in a commited relationship and want to have some extra fun
@tallslimguy100 (265)
• United States
14 Nov 06
It might be all right, but it's not as exciting....just got to cover your tracks...Later
@jennie2665 (683)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I don't think it is right and would still be cheating. She is probably just testing you or else she is cheating herself. Maybe even wanting a reason to get out the relationship with you?!?!?!? Who knows!
@stephenmathies (41)
• United States
14 Nov 06
naw, that's not it. She's really down with it if you know what I mean. I see what she's trying to do and all it is , is adding some flavor to the relashionship, we've been together for 8years now and have 4 children, after all I understand, it can get old fast and she doesn't want that...
@apalachee (490)
• Australia
13 Nov 06
i dont know i think it would depend on you and where you think your loyalties lie, personally its not for me, and i think if my partner says i can do that, i would have to tell them, that its not for me ..
personally i wouldnt be able to make myself happy while making someone i love unhappy.. thats just me..
here is a question, if your playing cards with friends, and your friends saw you cheat at cards and said dont worry about it and you won the game because you cheated.. does that mean you won the game fairly (because they saw you and knew about it) or does it make you a cheater? and would you still be happy with your win, since you didnt really win?
It all comes down to what you can live with and what you cant, if you can live with it and it makes you happy, then go for it..
@stephenmathies (41)
• United States
13 Nov 06
To tell you the truth, I really couldn't live with it if it made her unhappy as you said. I'm just not that type of person. She on the other hand has this sort of like game play or should I say (thrill seeking mission) out of seeing just how happy she can make me. Well that's what I get from her, so I told her "that's okay, I would rather not go there if you know what I mean", she just keeps insisting it like when we're in the bed, having that bedtime talk before we go to sleep, you know, the playful time when you just chat and play with your other, well that time, that's when she kinda brings it up. She goes as far as telling me what she's looking for for me??? can you believe? Wow, I know some guys would love to be in my place right now, but let me tell you I know everything that gitters isn't gold, and another thing"WHY" is my happiness that important? or could it be another underlying something at hand... something to really think about if you know what I mean. even if I do just forget about it, somethigns you just can't forget about until you have an answer...
@baysmummy (1637)
• Australia
13 Nov 06
Honestly i think that if your partner has given you permission to be with someone else then it isnt cheating! But knowing what us women are like she is probably just saying it to see what you say and how you react and to see if you do sleep with this other person! But yeah if you were to do it and your partner has said go ahead and do it then i wouldnt class that as cheating because she is fully aware of you doing it and has told you to!
@stephenmathies (41)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I see what your saying, if she told me that it was okay, then I guess it is. I really think she just wants to see my reaction, and see if I would go through with it. She also likes females so I was wondering what if I offered only to go through with it if she joins me... :-) sounds good to me? My motto: whatever we do we do it together if we love one another! Yeah!
