Always give a second taught or Just speak out.

Hi there! I always tend to react faster than thinking that sometimes I regret what have i said to anybody in front of me. But the worst thing happened wherein I suspected somebody at home taking my wallet confronting him abruptly as he was alone with me that day inside the house. Only to find out that the wallet I was looking for was just under my bed, i don't know what had happened exactly maybe it had dropped on the foot of my bed and was dragged under while I was cleaning my room. Whatever it was, I feel so ashamed of confronting somebody who seemed to be innocent. From that day onwards I promised myself not to burst into conclusion or say anything without thinking twice or even thrice. Good Day!

because i know that words can have the power to hurt, i tend to process and think about what i say before i do. i extend this courtesty even to those who do not deserve it. i have been in situations when my kid brother has chosen to pick a fight with me because he is feeling bad about something or another. and even as he is hurling abuse and profanity at me, i do not stoop to his level. it also has the added benefit of deflating him after making him angrier.nothing irks ,more than calm irrefutable logic in the midst of a fight. radiate this calm and logic in most situations. this helps. if i was truly to say whatever came to mind, if my filter between brain and mouth was to erode, nothing but vitriol would gush out. my ex refers to me as being sometimes passive aggressive. well whatever, i surmise that it is best if i keep some thoughts to myself. i am however sometimes pushed to tell people about themselves. i do this is the same calm fashion, even as i am gushing vitriol and foaming at the mouth i am as polite as ever and do not use profanity. i figure the message gets across better that way. in my estimation it is always better to think before one speaks, because words are like bullets, you cannot take them back.

Well i think everytime you think just give it a second thought that what you going to talk on, because i think it is much safer to give your thoughts a second chance rather than speaking something wrong because they always say, a arrow which leaves the bow, and a word that leaves your mouth can never be taken back its just a mili second difference that can show up what you are.

Hi, Yes such a thing has happened with me also. So many times when some body has irritated me I had started shouting without thinking for a minute. But afterwards their sad faces havemade me realise what I have done. Since then I try not to speak out immediately. I keep quiet for sometime and think what I should say and whether I should say or not. This has brought down the number of unhappy moments for myself and others also. have a nice day

I used to say what goes in my mind when I was younger. I believe, I have mellowed since. There is a sticker that we find sold in supermarkets. We also see them attached on the back windscreen of cars. It reads." Gold help me to ensure my brain is in gear before I begin to engage my mouth." True, we must be tactful these days and watch our mouth. Once untoward things get out of our mouth, that is the end of us. People we know and care,will then have different impressions of us afterward and we will regret forever by putting both our feet in our mouth!

Yes,I do think twice before I Speak something to others,because it is important for me to do so.Everytime when I am going call my clients,to make a report or somenthing,I do think it over,sometimes more than twice,you know this make me become confident,and it always let me know how to start,what do say.Not only in office i do this,but also at home,even though I was angry about others,I try to cool down first and think it over what to say.

i can control my angry infront of others , so i think of first & then speak

I always try to think first before speak out because once the damage is done, there's no turning back. Apparently, sometimes I speak out before think throughly of what I was trying to say like when I was really mad. I can't simply apologize and expect the listener to forgive me. I hate it when that happen.

Hi,shankarbaddi.I can't remember whether I've hurt someone by words,but I'll never forget how my friend hurt me.One day I put a sentence which I like very much on my personal front page and my friend saw it.She commented on it ,saying I was pretending to be personnalit.I felt angry.Althouth we became reconciled at last,I still feel agrrieved till now.I truly want to tell you that when you are angry,try to calm down and think twice before you say anything,while when you are in a good mood,you needn't consider so much.Once broken,something might never come back or be as good as before.

yes i do think twice before comiting something officailly and when it comes for fun or with friends i dont even care for it. i always believe in whatever you say you are responsible for that and you should accomplish it. but many a times we may not be able to keep our words but atleast we should try for it

Speaking is what gives us as an real impression on others.The words we use while talking are noted by the people who listen to them.Even we have this habit,don't we. i usually speak less in public unless I find much of a reason to talk of.Giving my talks a second thought has always been so helpful,so many friends haven't misread me due to this rethinking. There are instances where you keep on thinking but the real words don't come out and that's when one thinks why think before we talk.

Hi shankarbaddi, When I was younger I would never think before letting rip on someone with my anger. I actually used to feel a strange sense of pride about it because the adrenalin of the fight would make my typing quicker and more accurately than I would otherwise be. When I started to use this err 'skill' against friends and people who had accidentally provoked me, I started to feel the guilt and have since changed how I do things. Now if someone provokes me in person I will walk away or ignore them (something particularly useful against my brother who is one of the people who does like to pick fights with someone to make himself feel better). If it happens on-line I may type an angry response, but I will never send it until I have regained control and can review my words, because I have learnt that I will only regret it, and I believe that there is only so many times a friend of mine will put up with the outbursts. All the best, Dranz

My personality is like I speak what's on my mind. Meaning I'm kind a Out spoken.

Hi Shankarbaddi. Very good subject you have brought for discussion. I am new to this site and more specifically it is the first posting. Literally it is said that think twice before you speak any thing. The stress that is made here is that you should be sure that you are speaking the right thing suitable and warranted in the situation and that does not irritate or wound the other party to whom you are delivering your speech or exchanging your speech. Outwardly it can not be cent percent accurate that what you speak would be correct if you think twice before delivering your speech. It also does not mean that somebody asks some thing and just you leave the place, sit and think twice before giving answer to the question of the person. You have to give your answer instantly without wounding the feelings of the person. Such a habit can be cultivated only by practice, experience and deep thinking. We should make it a point that we speak only to the point, respecting the feelings of the others and without hurting their feelings and standards. If such practice is cultivated you need not worry to think twice or thrice and that you can straight away respond instantly. I hope I have made it by this what I want to say. Thank you and the Admin for the opportunity.

I always have a second thought before I speak out. I very rarely speak out without thinking twice. As such I talk less.

Yeah I tend to just speak out when I'm really annoyed, angry or fustrated. I don't do it all the time. Just when something really annoys me. Sometimes people get offended and I apologize because I realise that I can't take it out on some people. If it's just normal conversation then I usually always think before I speak or if its a touchy subject then I also think before I speak.