Would you love an adopted child the same as your own child?
By rksbigblue
@rksbigblue (115)
September 2, 2009 4:24am CST
I can only imagine this as I have never been through it myself nor have any of my friends. I have seen families with one adopted child and one of their own. "Their own" itself is a discrimination I guess. I wouldn't know how to express otherwise. They seem to live very happily and in peace. I have always respected such parents and they will have my vote all the time. Having said that if somebody asks me if I would adopt one, I would straight away say no. Howsoever noble cause it might be, I am sure I won't be able to give all the love the child needs and that would simple be unjust to him/her. I just wanted to know from this community, would you be able to love both chlidren the same way?
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@rksbigblue (115)
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2 Sep 09
Well said. Why bother fighting getting into the fields, when we already know that we are going to lose. Accepting ones weakness is the best strategy. I am sure that I won't be able to give the same love to the adopted child. So I don't even think about it but do respect people who take such noble initiatives. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
@Archie0 (5652)
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2 Sep 09
I have a dream of my own that when i start earning i adopt a child for me, i will love that child same as i do for mine, only thing i need that my husband should be with my decision always, i want him to support me.That is why i want to marry a right person so that i can take such decisions without hesitations and fights, because i have to take them at last.
@rksbigblue (115)
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2 Sep 09
Thats so true. The child cannot bear if one parent is not loving at all. I guess thats why it usually takes a lot to adopt a child and give all the love he/she needs. I really appreciate your good gesture. Not many (including me) have enough confidence to take this decision. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I wish you all the best.
@Fracker (177)
• Pakistan
2 Sep 09
No one can love equally same as your own child. You might love that child, care for him, do everything for his good, and protection. But fact remain same. A adopted child can't be your child.. Let suppose, you manage to have your own then you will feel the difference. Even you don't have your own, still there is thing running in your mind that he is adopted. I have seen many cases. Even in my relatives, one sister adopt her sister's child. And done everything, but in the end fact is still there. He is not her kid. neither she can give equal love to that child..
Ps: Love doesn't means support, ofcourse when you have adopt it then you will try to push it..
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 09
I have a son. And i dont think I can love someone that I adopt equally like I love and care my own flesh blood. Not that I dont want to. If I adopt, and I do want to adopt if I capable of such, i would try to give my best love and care. But to be honest to myself, I cant really love them equally like my own child.
@gossipzz (498)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
They are alot of children outthere who do not have someone to love and take care of them. I have children and plan to adopt another child when the opportunity comes. We feel we can give another child as much loves as our own. This will also shows my kids they can love someone else in the world rather than just their family. Happy lotting.
@vandana7 (100292)
• India
4 Sep 09
I would, and I could, provided of course people around me didnt go about coaching the child - hey look, she treats her child better, or she doesnt love u as u r not her child. If the child needs to be corrected, I should be the one who should be doing it, and doing it in right way and time. Invariably, comparisons are there. After a few instances, the child also starts comparing, and sees slights where none exist. :( In general, stepchildren, and adopted children become means for people to play such mean tricks, and eventually the child may leave the adoptive parent for the natural parent. That is why I would never want a child who has his or her parents alive. As long as that option exists, the child would never question me, and take it up with me following such coaching from outsiders, And this would make the chasm between us becomes deeper by time.
