TBI's... I'm needing some help here, guys

Well, I've encountered quite same situation like this before. It's my cousin, he's got an accident before, and hit his brain. He's almost clueless about what's going on around him, just a little bit. So his family members gather all together to help him to recover. They keep on telling him past events, what had happened, and all about him. They also bring him to all places visited by him before. At the same time, they give him medications to increase the brain activity in him and also pray to God for him to recover soon. It's been 2 years now, and he's almost cured. His family members are so happy about it. He's now living normally just like other person. So, i think you should try their tips and see whether these helps. =)

I have heard of this especially in movies, bot of much help. Psychiatrist may help, but it doesn't come cheap. May I give a suggestion and it is free? Look for the best doctor in the world. When all else fails, look for Lord Jesus. No joke. Jesus heals. Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever. Look for Jesus now. God Bless You.

I have seen how traumatic brain injuries can effect a person in two people I know quite well. Both had injuries to their brains and both have had to re-learn everything they ever knew. THe older of the two, and the one who has had the most time to heal, still has trouble with thigns like reading, writing, and understanding many things. He still gets quite angry at times, but mostly because he needs help that he never needed before and he feels badly about it. I tell you this because I think that it is important that you, your boyfriend, and his family all uderstand that what he has been through, the traumatic injury to his brain is something that has altered his life. He may have fits of anger due to the injury itself and how it affected that area of his brain, and part of it may be because he feels helpless at times. He is probably afraid that because of what has happened and how he is struggling, he will never be able to do those things he once wanted to do. Maybe he is afraid that you will end up leaving him because of it. I assure you that over time, the more you support his efforts, the better he will do, but it does take time and a lot of patience. I think that you should take his family members aside and explain to them that they need to help encourage him rather than to remind him of what used to be. The fact is, he is never going to be exactly the same because he has experienced a serious life-changing event. If they cannot be supportive, you may have to tell them to stay away for a while. I don't think he needs to see a psychiatrist, I think he needs time to re-learn and find himself as he is now. I can imagine that every time they make those hurtful comments, his thought is, "I wish I could find the person they are talking about." I guess, the best way for me to explain what I am trying to say from what I have seen in cases like this is that pitying him is the worst thing any of you can do, but you should all try to put yourself in his shoes and think of how you may feel if it were you in his place. I am sure that his family is in a sense, in denial. They really need to look at it from a different perspective, his. If you cannot get them to ease up and look at it all differently, you may ask his doctor to give you ideas onhow to cope with them and approach the situation in a way that will be best for him.

Yes I have heard about acquired brain injury. Sometimes part of the brain are, together and sometimes the rest of the brain takes over the functions that are lost and the new parts require retraining. It usually does not come back all by itself and requires intensive re-training. I doubt that he will be exactly the same as he was before the accident. What you are experiencing is similar to people who have a stroke, parts of the brain die. Sorry I cannot be much help but I do wish you the best should you decide to stick around. The family should have been informed by the doctors on what to expect, obviously they have not been informed.

I am very sorry to hear what happened to your boyfriend. Frontal lobe injury sure did will effect is cognitive behavior. All he need is support from his surrounding to adapt to new "feeling". Yes, he need psychotherapy. It simply necessary for his health and wellbeing, doesnt mean his crazy. He can also discuss this with his doctor, and went into post brain injury rehabilitative center, where he can find support group, where people who suffer the same support each other.

Hi Zoey, First of all I am so sorry as to what has happend to your boyfriend. It's really sad that his family is not as supportive of him as much as you are. He needs as much support and positive vibes around him as possible. That's the only way he will feel better about himself. This is a tough one, dealing with his family. Depending on how close you are to his family. I would call a family meeting one day without your boyfriend being there and try to tell them that you think it's better for them to be a little more supportive of him. That by them telling him he needs psychiatric help will not make things better but make things worse for him. Tell them that he tells you how bad he feels when they treat him this way. And they should put themselfs in his place and see how they would feel. It's not by choise he is in this situation and God forbit anybody should be in his shoes. And hopefully they will understand. I hope and pray they understand. Good luck my friend and all the best to your boyfriend. Olivia~

yeah samething with my nephew, but he can still go and seek help to deal with the outburstes and all. i agree with you his family need to knock it off and be more supportive to him. yeah he's not the same person as before in some ways, but he's still himself with issues that he needs to work on. instead busting his chops they need to help him to deal with things. i also suffer from head truma and i am not the same either. but i worked on different things to help me to deal my wasn't as bad as his or my nephew's. they need to show him pictures of family either who passed or didnt this can help him to remember. but you just keep being there for him, and try to get him to seek help, and let him know there is nothing wrong with seeking help for this. it just means he's willing to do whatever it takes to help himself out. good luck to him and you

A psychiatrist might calm him down and make him feel better but that's not the problem. He has some brain damage. The brain can rewire itself with a little work. When you focus on something, the brain builds neurons to make things work better. Got memory problems??? Play memory games. It doesn't matter how good you are at first. KEEP THE FOCUS UP!!!! His anger probably comes from things not working quite right. He just needs to work hard on the things he is bad at.I'm sure his parents mean well but talk to them for they will only hurt him with the comments of getting the old guy back. The old guy is still there just that car don't run quite so smooth. With lots of work, things will get better. I wish you the best!!

First off, I would like to say how sorry I am for a loved one being injured. It is great that you are sticking by his side. I would talk to his family and try to explain how they are coming off and what the results of their actions are on their son/your bf. Bring to light what is happening.