The Duggar family pregnant with baby number 19....yes, I said 19.

@bonbon664 (3466)
Canada
September 2, 2009 8:53am CST
Are they kidding me??!! Are they starting an army? Need an ump for a baseball game? They are doing a huge disservice to their children. The older ones raise the younger ones basically. Let kids be kids. These people are amazing that they can handle a family of that size, but, will it ever stop?. The Mom is in her 40's, and is she going to contine to have babies until menopause? Isn't there a point where women should stop having babies? Especially when she has 19 already. What do you think of someone having 19 kids?
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I think that as long as the kids are happy and healthy and provided for it shouldn't be an issue. I haven't seen much of their story but I have heard of them. Does she make the older ones take care of the younger ones, or do they just do it to help out? It's not a bad thing if they help raise the younger ones as long as they are free to live their lives too. Like I said, I haven't seen much about them so I don't know how their family works. Didn't they have a tv show too about their family?
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
Yes, they have a tv show, I think it's on TLC. I have to admit, the kids are very polite and respectful, unlike some of the teens around today.
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@anuraa32 (2446)
• India
2 Sep 09
Kids being polite, good, well behaved -- That is an achievement in itself. If they have managed to do that, then why should there be a problem whether they have one, two or thirty kids. I mean there are people who have one kid and still cant take care of it, the kid is horribly behaved and selfish. So I dont think the number of children matters. As Long as they are happy and well cared for, then why the harm.
• United States
2 Sep 09
I really have no problem with them having another kid. Unlike many families, they are actually able to support their kids. My rule of thumb is, if you can support another kid and you want another child, then by all means go for it. If you can't support another child...DO NOT have another child until you can fully support them.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
Well that's their choice of course, and clearly they're able to support them financially. Personally I feel that is absolutely ridiculous in this day and age to have that many kids and furthermore a woman's body is not meant to product that many kids. That's my opinion and everyone is entitled to their opinion as well. I actually find it quite horrifying that the mother has been reduced to being a "baby machine" because that's what she's become. Now I know they're a religious family so that explains part of it. Does she have any education? I can't believe that every child's needs would be taken care of because that would be impossible. I actually do feel sorry for the older kids who would probably be reduced to being regular babysitters for the little ones & not able to live their own lives. I think that if you're bringing that many kids into the world, you should care for your own tribe yourself and now "pawn" them off your older kids when they should be kids and enjoying their lives, not stuck taking care of your rabbits. I have my particular views on this because I once had a friend who was part of an even larger family. Anyway, she had a lot of resentment towards her family, because there was never enough attention for all the kids, she was often stuck babysitting, never allowed to go out in her teens because who would look after the kids. I just think that if parents like that are too focused (selfish) to bring that many kids into the world, if they can't look after the kids themselves, that they shouldn't expect older children to be regular babysitters, and if the parents are that overworked from caring for them, they should have thought of that to begin with.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
3 Sep 09
Oh ok thanks for clarifying the education part, that makes a HUGE difference i think. The first thought that came to my mind when I read about it was that they're probably "bible belt thumpers from the south", and that they're probably country bumpkin "simpletons" with no education and I was right! Ha No, that does explain a lot because no college/University educated person would have that big a tribe today. Well, you're right about another thing, that at least the Duggan's can provide financially for their kids, as for emotionally I highly doubt that,unlike that ridiculous parody of a mother that "Octopus woman" or Octomom I think her name is. BTW My husband's great grandmother had 25 kids!! Yup and yes she was indeed a farmer. We all laugh about it in my side of the family saying that the great grandmother obviously had no self control.
• United States
2 Sep 09
I have often wondered how the mother was able to give birth to that many kids. She does seem like a baby machine too. I am almost positive the mother is not college educated. They do not believe in education. Ironically, the beliefs they have come from a guy who has a Ph.D. The older children must be taking care of the younger ones, and that is not fair. I agree with a lot of your points. I would rather see them have another kid, than a family that can't support the kids financially.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
This is absolutely ridiculous!!! I agree with you one hundred percent, the parents are doing their children a disservice. Besides when these babies are teenagers and need their parents where will they be? I hope still in the house in a rocking chair so they can at least give verbal parenting advice and not six feet under.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
Yeah, they'll have kids and grandkids the same age.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
To each his own, but, there is a difference from 4-5 children to 19. Consider the logistics for a minute. How do you do anywhere as a family? You'd have to have a bus. I just don't understand what motivates someone to have that many children.
• United States
2 Sep 09
what is wrong with having kids and Grandkids around the same age? Plenty of people are like that. Both of my parents are what you would call second families and they have siblings 18 and 20 years older. That was back in the fifties. Do you not know that until recent decades most families had at least 4-5 children and many had more? How many kids do you two feel is appropriate anyway?
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I think it's a lot better than if everyone had 19 kids! Can you imagine the world population and horribly overcrowded situations in all aspects of life if we did??? Personally, I think the way you do. Those kids are not getting the individual attention they should be getting from their parents. Children should be allowed to be children and not raised as built-in babysitters or junior-parents-in-training. I used to wonder how in the world they could afford so many children but have since learned about Jim Bob's many business dealings. All we can hope for is that they are all ethical businesses. Not much has been mentioned about them. Also, having all those children is a business in itself. It seems that they are unable to help the general public because they are so busy raising all those children. I'd rather see them spending more money to help others in need but that's just the way I am. Obviously, they have other priorities. There is also the risk she's taking of having a severely mentally handicapped child, now that she is over 40. The risk of having a Down's Syndrome child after 40 is too great a risk for me.
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
3 Sep 09
To each their own, but pregancy does a number on the body. A relative of mine had 11 pregancies and 8 live births, and she had major heart disease and other issues. That many pregancies stresses the body. And the older ones who are in charge in my opinion loose out.
• United States
2 Sep 09
I have seen this show and although the older children help out with the younger kids they are not raising them, that is over stating at it's finest. As they can afford the kids they have, who are all well fed, clothed, home schooled and obviously not in need of love and attention why should there be a problem with them having more kids? What right do you or anyone else have to tell her she cannot? We are not communist China putting limitations on family size. She's 40 now how many more years can there be before she hits menopause anyway.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
She could biologically have another 15 kids. Nobody's restricted what they can do, I just find it unusual. I don't know what the motivation is. I understand their religion doesn't allow them to use birth control. I must be really selfish, because I can't imagine this woman has a second to herself.
• United States
3 Sep 09
I don't think it matters how many kids you have time to yourself is a fleeting thing...lol
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
2 Sep 09
The older ones raise the younger ones basically.... These people are amazing that they can handle a family of that size, but, will it ever stop?. But IS IT really all that amazing since the older ones ARE raising the younger ones? thats just SO WRONG IMO...If a couple (or single for that matter) is goin to have children then as far as I'm concerned that child or those children are YOUR responsiblity..NOT the responsibility of the older siblings.... and the gods forbid if something tragic were to happen ot the parents and they both die...then what happens to all those kids? You think they'd be fostered or adopted out as a group?? HELL NO..they'd get split up.... I'd love to have a large family (I wanted to adopt 12 kids of varying ages etc before having my own but then lowered it to 10 after my kids were born LOL) but I'd have been finacially able and physically strong, sound enough to manage it and if I needed help i'd hire someone yes but I wouldnt do it and pawn the little ones off my older kids etc..thats just so wrong to me... and I personally think that if you want a family that size..ADOPT!!!!!! there are SO MANY children out there that have no family...if you can afford to have that many kids then bring the less fortunate ones into your home rather than continuously having your own ya know..
@Humbug25 (12540)
2 Sep 09
Hi there bonbon664 19? Wow that is a lot huh? You know I don't see the problem with having that many kids, it must be so nice to have a big family but it is the older kids I do feel sorry for. I have only 3 kids myself and occassionally I ask my eldest to go and get something for me or do something for me. If he says no because he is doing something then I don't have a problem with that because at the end of the day he is my son not my skivvy. Obviously there are some chores I demand that he does but those are like tidying his room, things that are for him and he should do. I can only see the older kids of this family helping the younger ones, they would have to, the mother couldn't possibly do it by herself. Imagine the amount of gifts at Christmas time and at least twice a month there has to be a birthday!!
@dmrone (746)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Hi! I feel that it is up to them when they wantto stop having children. If the children are being taken care of, then i don't feel it is my place to tell them what they can or cannot do with their lives. These children seem healthy and happy so who am i to pass judgement on their choice of how many children they want to have. I say more power to them. And Congratulations!
• United States
2 Sep 09
Well, I wouldn't want to have that many children. I'm not even certain I want to have one. But I agree with Ravinskye, if the children are healthy, happy and provided for, then I don't see any problem. The problem, in my opinion, is with people who don't have the means to support their children continuing to procreate.