What are people really looking for?

i have since stopped communicating with people through the dating sites that i had become a member. it was because of one particular guy whom i thought would be him -- the answer to my prayers. but alas, i found out that he has told me so many lies and i always find these out. i now realize that it is not the best place to meet your lifetime partner. others are lucky to have found the right partners but this is only very scarce. me, i look at the picture first before deciding to contact them. i sometimes initiate chat. maybe that is so too in guys... they look at the picture first and read the profile.

Um, maybe you should give yourself a bit of a break. Why are you in such a hurry for? Why don't you remove your profile and just look closer to home. You don't know what you're going to find on the internet. Why don't you try your church or book store or home depot or the grocery store. Those are just a few suggestions, but just remember that maybe you don't need a man too.

I'm not really sure what people are looking for either. I've been on a couple sites. I get contacted a lot on tagged.com which is kind of like myspace i guess but i feel it more so for dating and meeting people in your area. i think myspace is more personal so i never use it for that.. but yeah, i check out a persons profile and see if we have anything in common, etc. i also look at the pictures if they have any but i have contacted people without pictures so looks don't really matter. i think a lot of people however on dating sites are looking for hookups and not anything real.. there are people who are but it seems like most of them are only after one thing. so its hard to find someone worth talking too sometimes.

Dating sites.. Right, one of the easiest way to meet people, especially if you're a type of person who is shy and can't express things to a person personally, now this goes to a deeper side. Anyways, I've been through dating sites, and I'm not gon' like I've joined more than twice. I've met few guys over the net, nothing serious.. But I must say that people look through a person's profile and base on their pictures. At least that's what I do. I mean, let's be real here, people care about what a person's look like, and yet still, pictures can be deceiving.. No matter how nice and cool a person is and his/her pictures is just something didn't like, will you talk to him/her? Dating sites are just all over the net, and there are too many fishes to net, and might as well grab the one you think is better than the other right, well I know it'll be hard to know, but again.. Everyone, okay, most look on person's pictures first, no matter how beautifully made your profile was, the chances is very minimal to attract someone unless you have a photo on that profile. Now going to your thing, you have put your photos and been real... However, didn't you just say that you have kids? I don't wanna be mean or something here but being more practical and real, nowadays, people would rather like to date single people rather the ones having baggages no matter how pretty and good-looking a person is. But still, I'm not saying all.. But some would still consider and would like to have someone who have kid/s already. Goodluck to you! =)

I'd like to know what guys are looking for as well because I've been considering trying one those online dating sites too, but I'm still undecided, hope you get some good answers to this one.

I am sorry to hear you having no luck. I have a friend who is also searching online for someone and she can't seem to find anyone looking for a serious relationship either. My advice is to not give up though - who knows, the next person you contact on there might just be the one for you - good luck!

I was going to write (a four letter word) that guys look at T*T* first but maybe that is too rude. I know that you must not judge a book by its cover but when it comes to social interaction people do tend to judge a person by her or his appearance first. I would be interested in everything, first of all in her appearance, then what she says about herself.

Hello humbug! I met my husband on a dating website. But I am not saying that it's good. I really think that if it's really for you, it's for you no matter how good your profile is or how beautiful you are or even how active you are. I do believe that the dating site is only God's instrument for us to meet because we are actually miles apart. Just imagine USA and Philippines. Well, I don't actually look at the picture first. I look at the profile and then the picture. When I met my husband's profile, he didn't have any pictures on it but I don't know why I like it..heehehe

lol. I like this topic .... I am much involved in friendship and dating site. Yea, I'm going to really seek soul mate or friend dating .... because my intention like that, of course I had show my real profile. And, I can attracted and fell in love when I look at the picture first. If I interest with picture it, direct, I will contact her

Honestly, if you're looking for guys, most will only look at your profile if you have an attractive picture. It's upsetting, but it's true most of the time.

In my experience with men, I've learned that no matter how they say that looks don't matter, they're full of it. They look at the picture first and if they decide that you're "do-able" or "remotely attractive" they might take the time to skim through your information to pick up a few keywords about you to bring up in conversation. Of course, I can't say this about all men because there are definitely some great ones out there, but this is typical of most of the guys that I know, and I've spent a lot of time observing and analyzing male behavior to avoid sucky relationships (and honey, no relationship is better than having to tolerate someone that sucks.)