How many do you want?

Octomom has issues of some kind. the kids she does have are not well taken care of and she relies mostly on the state and food stamps, I think. she should have used the money she saved on the kids she had first and not on producing more. The Goselins want one or two more and ended up with more. But they are the best parents on tv and have made the best of what they have, even after the separation. The Duggars are a faithful, family who do not believe in birth control and are willing and able to take care of any children that God gives them. They believe that children are a gift from God and are obviously very fertile. I personally, have five kids, not all planned. But I love each and every one of them. I am fertile too but could not have carried any more physcally inside my five foot frame. I support anyone who wants to have so many children provided they have the means to raise them.

I once wrote an article on this issue, which got a lot of attention in my office. :-) Well, I will repeat in brief what were the contents. If u dont have any kids - everybody will love u - because they get some freebies. U have one kid, they will still love u - even though freebies are down. When u have the second one - then the going gets tougher - wife has to take up full fledged employment - people become indifferent to u as there are no more freebies. The third child makes u the seeker of freebies and nobody would want u around! So should one restrict to one child! Actually, I am of the opinion that under the present circumstances for the next three to four generations - if we can restrict everybody to one child per family, then we may be able to bring down population to quite a manageable level. From there - we can have two children (replacement cost) per family and never more than that. I do believe that one child per family will hit us much later in a different way - the workforce will be less - and non-working force will be more (both children and elderly). But this is the price we have to pay for not having taken the right steps at the right time.

I can kind of understand the Gossilins- they couldn't really control having 6 kids in one pregnancy, but octomom already had several kids before she had the octuplets. The Duggars are just ridiculous. I personally think all people need to put a hold on having babies. The world is getting wayyyyyy too full of people. If you want children, please give adoption a chance. There's tons of kids that alreay exsist that need a home: we don't need to create more.

For me personally I don't want any kids. I know the job I want to go into will have be working at all hours and I don't want someone else watching my kids. I feel that if you think you're ready to keep your legs open and pop something out in 9 months then you should be ready to take care of that child for the entire 18 months - no daycare. Saying that - I think people also shouldn't have more than 2 kids. There is enough research showing that almost all of our problems in society can relate back to the rise in population. And the reason for that rise in population is people can't understand how you should only bring in 1 life for each life lost. Therefore a family has 2 adults, so 2 kids max.

I believe in the motto 'we two, for us two'. I think o have 2 children is perfect which includes girl & a boy. Most educated families won't usually have more than 2-3 children. You can have more, if you are really sure that you can provide each one of them with enough love & also if you have financially a very stable life. You need to provide a very good financial background to every one of them rather than making then suffer for any kind of their needs. Also we need to keep in mind that the govt has some kind of family planning programmes! Happy Lotting

I don't really understand why anyone would want more than 5 or 6 kids personally. That might just be because I'm one of 5 myself. If I have kids at all, I don't really want more than two or maybe three. I'm of the opinion that if you're going to have kids you should have more than one so that the one doesn't end up getting inadvertantly spoiled and so that they can have the experience of playing with each other and watching out for one another; however, I'm personally not interested in dealing with the stress of having more than two or three children.

The perfect number? The number that you are capable of taking care of well, both financially and emotionally. Some people are capable of handling, loving and supporting more children than others. Some people should have NO children! For me 2 or 3 is about right...

To be honest, I don't want more than 5 or 6 kids. I do want a reasonably large family, but again, I don't want more than 5 or 6 children. More than that is just a little too much for me. I don't know how I'd handle having 8 children like the Gosselins or 18 kids like the Duggar family.

I don't understand the need. We are having an overpopulation problem as it is in this world. I will have one or two. One will be adopted, maybe two. I feel little need to contribute to overpopulation.

Hi OpinionatedLady, I think I would start off with one child to see how well I could handle them, and then after they are over a year old I would perhaps think about a second as a sibling for the first, and to maybe have one of each so I have a daughter to dote on, and my husband would have a son to do random male things with lol. I definitely don't think I could handle a vast number of children due to space and time issues. It would be far nicer to have two who can grow up together and leave the nest at the same time, rather than a long list of them which leads to me never getting a spare moment as long as I lived lol. That said if I really enjoyed being a mother and was financially stable enough I would probably stretch to 4, but definitely never in double figures. I would need a castle for that lol!! When it comes to perfect amounts I think each couple would have to decide that themselves as only they can know how much love they can give :) All the best, Dranz