Hatred, what a bad feeling to keep

i agree what your opinion,i think that we should spend more time to hate somebody,this often affect people's feeling,trouble his owned mind and make them heart sad,but i found we still live everyday,and time past,something would be changed everyday,we should keep the heart quite and think about this thing,you find that it is not important,the imprtant thing we still live for our work and life,struggle for our owned goal,buzy at this,we could not have enough time for our hatred to leave,so i think that we should learn to treat the hatred as right way,not see the part of bad way.

Hi dpauli, I could not agree more, hatred is a terrible feeling and does great harm to anyone who won't let it go. Forgiveness is very necessary for everyone but I know from personal experience that it can be very difficult. A great way to get started is to realize that you are only hurting yourself and usually the other person has forgotten all about the matter or doesn't care anyway. We are destroying our health over something that is better left in the past. Sometimes it helps to think through the situation putting ourselves in the other persons place. Another thought might be that it was a lesson that we needed to learn because we do learn from all of life's experiences. It is also important to stop talking about it and telling your friends that you hate the person or persons involved. Get busy with your life and expect a bright future. Blessings.

Hatred indeed is a bad feeling to keep. Read on so you'll know why, according to a homeopathic doctor, a person can also get sick when harboring heavy feelings. Have you heard of homeopathy? It's also called homeopathic medicine. It is uses all-natural remedies to treat illnesses. I hope I get this right. :) My friend attended one seminar on homeopathy and shared to me the reasons why a certain person can get sick. She said, the homeopathic doctor said, we human beings emit a kind of energy/force which we are not aware of. There are factors that can cause imbalance to this energy--- environment (pollution), food, family and work (stress). Now if these factors affect the balance within us, that will make us invite sickness. To connect this to hatred that we are talking about, you know, harboring negative emotions is also a stress. What you should do then? I know this is hard. But it is recommended that we always emit positive energy towards others. Does that sound hard? I mean, trying to be positive with someone you hate. Actually it isn't. There is also one maxim my friend shared to me. It said, "We are not responsible of other people's emotions/feelings," which is also the same with "They are not responsible for our emotions." When we hate someone, it involves only us, me, my being. It is me, feeling it towards the other person. But the other person is free. Does not care. So we are in control with our emotions. Simply put, we stress ourself because of harboring negative feelings. Therefore, try to be positive. If will be difficult at first. But later on, it will be so easy and your never regret the results.

I hate the feeling of hatred. Sometimes it comes up when I get jealous or very irritated so much that I lash out at a person by snapping at them. But I always end up hating myself later so I've found out that I've had to work on it.

This is a very good point of veiw.. you must first learn to release yourself from the things of the past, the past is something we cannot do anything about, but we can control what we do in the future, I strive everyday to do something good, even if i dont feel like it.. and if someone hurts my feelings, I just stop and think about the situation first, and then later when i have had time to decide what is write from wrong... i can address the issue with that person, there has been times that I have ended up seeing it was me that was in the wrong and had to apologize, and that is not always easy to do.. I always listen first, and not jump to conclusions, before someone even gets out what they are saying, and I try not to let another person ruin my good day.. I can not control what anyone else does or says but i can control how i react to the situation and if saying im sorry will fix the situation i do so, but in the same token, i do not become a push over and not stand for what is right, i just do it in a very nice manner.. that helps me get thru the day and being nice is better for your health then holding a grudge, forgiving is hard to do.. but how many times have we had to ask God to forgive us when we messed up. the bible says in MATT 6:14 FOR IF YOU FORGIVE MEN THEIR TRESPASSES, YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER WILL ALSO FORGIVE YOU. MATT 6:15 BUT IF YE FORGIVE NOT MEN THEIR TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL YOUR FATHER FORGIVE YOU.. Think of all the times you really messed up and needed someone to forgive you.. Did they forgive you ? and how did you feel about this..

So true. The only way to kill hatred is with kindness and forgiveness..not to mention a great relationship with God...Let the other person be the ignorant one. Hatred is an emotion we've ALL felt one time or another, so it's natural to feel this way at one time in our lives. I truly believe there is ALWAYS a life lesson from bad things that will or that has happened in our lives. He's trying to show us something and God doesn't make mistakes.

Have you ever heard of emotional freedom technique. it is eliminating the negative emotions in our life. take out all the stems of the big tree so that life will turn out as beautiful as it should be...

Hey, Yea I personally hate people who have hatred stored deep down inside of them. I don't really think that it is a good feeling. I personally don't really hate anyone at the moment, I don't think I ever will. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

I recently got dumped... first relationship is always the hard one. The thing is, I normally vent for the first day... but the hatred seems to fade away quickly. The best thing to do is to keep your mind off it. My friends definitely helped me with that. Also... hate is the worst thing to do, because all you would feel is wanting revenge. Forgiveness is the most important thing to do.

Yes,it is not easy to eliminate the hatred and have forgiveness in our heart when we are feeling bad.You know when you have the hatred and have the bad feeling take up you mind,we may do somenthing in the wrong way or hurt people that we can only regret in our life.So when I face hatred,I always try to make myself cool down and think it over and over again how to eliminate feeling and try to forgive others,although it is hard to do so,I do believe that what we do to other today,they will return us in the same way tomorrow.If you hate them all the time and do not learn to forgive,then they probably do the same to you;While if you try to forgive people,people will do you good in return,that's it.

Well said. Life is so short that it gets over in blink of an eye. But still its so surprising that we have time in that small gap also to indulge hatred in our lives. Its a beast that just wipes off everything we have. We need to get rid of this feeling and preach peace and harmony. But then humans are all not alike and they are influenced by many factors like religion, geography, color, race and other factors. As long as everyone as an individual want to have a peaceful life and want not to spread hatred, this world will be a beautiful place.