How to communicate with your mother-in-law?
By melly1125
@melly1125 (10)
China
September 2, 2009 10:49pm CST
I and my husband are working in a different place. As he is a soldier, he can come to see me for ever four months. Now I am pregnancy and his mother has come to look after me for a week. His mother is a silent person and she knows no people here except me. I feel she is alone here, but I am buzy with my work so that I have a little time to accompany her. I do not know how to make her happy. Do you have any good idea?
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2 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Hi Melly. If your job takes you away from home, perhaps the two of you could rent movies she likes or get library books for her to read while you are gone at work.
If you want to connect with her when you are home, yet she isn't into conversation, again, you could watch a movie together, or perhaps play card games or board games or go out to a movie.
That way, you are keeping her company in ways that don't require a lot of conversation.
Karen
@melly1125 (10)
• China
4 Sep 09
Thank you very much. I will spend more time with her to make her happy here.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Why not try to make the time in your schedule, maybe on a day off to take her around a bit and show her places she can go. Take her to the store teh next time you go, take her to run errands with you, anything that will help her get a better idea of where she is. Maybe you can ask her what she enjoys doing. She may be able to help you think of better ideas.
I know when I first moved where I live now, I only knew my husband and kids. I had to meet my new in-laws and get accustomed to a new place all at once. One in-law took me around and helped me get used to where things were for the first week or so, and it madea big difference to me.
@melly1125 (10)
• China
4 Sep 09
Thanks for your sugesstion. I have tried some methods that you said, such as taking her around, watching TV. But she always has some reasons for what she doesn't like. Additonally, she doesn't know literacy so that she doesn't like going to a strange place. Moreover, she always has a bath before 8pm and goes to sleeping befor 9 pm. So I just have a little time between 7pm and 8pm. In the rest day, I take her to the supermarket and buy some food. In spite of that, I always feel she is alone and she wants to find further work to spend the rest time.