My Daughter won't listen to me?

baby of that age are very active. they are curious about everything they meet. so try to be patient. maybe you can be her model. they she will learn from you . nnot punish her. if will make her fell bad and not want to be close to you . try to tell her more things and when she made a mistake you need tell her slowly and slowly

riani2009 no dont punish her for being two years old and some months welcome to the terrible twos.hold her, soothe her, and talk softly to her. she is having a meltdown of information coming into her little brain faster than it can handle it so she gets frustrated. you would to if you could know how she is feeling , that is if you could feel that way as if you could not understand all the new information your brain is loading up. yes she was nice a long time ago before she started learning all the new information.right now she does not understand why shes so upset so she acts out. stop her running,grab her and hug her ,tellher you understand and just love her, in a few months she will hAve adjusted and once more be your charming little girl. right now she is getting more education than she knows how to handle. so be patient aNd loving and stop her dashing about just hold her sometimes a tot that age will be so overtired from all this that in holding her she will fall asleep.

I'm in a funk today, but the briefing of your discussion caught my eye, so I'm just going to be brief and to the point. I'm a mother of 6(5 girls, 1 boy). And one thing you should know is kids will usually listen to the father, grandpa(a male figure) when it comes to discipline before a woman. Don't scream and yell, just deepen your voice a little and you'll be surprise how that can change a situation that could've stressed you out.

You know what, I am not a mother myself but I do take care of a five-year-old kid. What I noticed is that kids nowadays are very hard to discipline. They have a way of doing things by themselves and they won't listen to their parents no matter what they tell them. They are very different from the kids before. Maybe it has something to do with the kind of milk that they use. Kids seldom drink from their mother's milk. All they have is cow's milk and making them super active. It also takes a lot of patience in taking care of kids. I think at an early age, they should be disciplined and we should not wait until they are all grown up making it late for them to change their bad ways.

Hi riani, I can really relate to your problem. There's nothing wrong with your daughter and if anything she's just being her age. At 2, she's getting to be more independent and starting to explore the world around her. When my daughter was 2, her favorite word was No. She'd say no to everything I tell her to do. Punishment won't do much good. She'll just learn to find ways to avoid being punished. She won't learn anything. Why don't you try rewarding good behavior. Tell her if she puts on her jacket, she'll get to play an extra hour at her friend's house or anything that she likes to do. Above all be patient. She's just a child still learning the ways of the world.

The same happens to my daughter, she's only listening to her dad's order. If she had done too far, punish her, but not too hard. I don't know,i think i'm not good in this answer.

Where did she learn to ignore you? She had to learn it from somewhere. I find it strange that you tell her what to do and actually expect her to be obedient. She's not up to that stage yet...she has a long way to go. She still needs lots of your attention...and she will need your attention more as she grows. If she is ignoring you then you must ignore her. Parents think they can make their kids self sufficient and that they will become obedient angels overnight....hahahaha...it doesn't work that way. You will need to be teaching her things in a hands on way till she goes to school and even then, you will still need to be physically involved in her learning and development. You telling her what to do and what not to do is simply not enough.

dear friend its nice to hear and see it is the nature of small children to do like this you dont want to worry that much it will be alright soon

I feel this way with my 15-year old son. I guess I'm pretty much resolved to trying to think that he should make his own mistakes since he is not listening to me and that any mistakes he makes are his own. I have warned him against all that could happen but there's not that much I can do if he won't listen.

It was hard for my parent's to punish me when I was younger because I didn't care about being put in time out or being sent to my room. I wouldn't run around, but I would just refuse to do stuff. It was more effective for them to take away the things I enjoyed (bed time snack, a favorite toy, a movie, etc) Hopefully she will grow out of it, but I think it is your responsibility as a parent not to just let the behavior go. If that happens, she may not learn that it is not acceptable. Good luck!

I think the easiest way with this is the fact is kids will be kids there job is to goof up have things repeated many times over. Kids have very short attention spans and ofter forget many things. On the other hand it is our job to keep reminding and reminding even when we think they are not listening. It may not seem like it now but they do hear and someday in the future when you see the fruits of your efforts it will then bring a smile to your face. Until then don't take it personally and just keep reminding as they will keep forgetting.

Your daughter is still very young to stay still. She is having fun. She enjoys all the attention you give her. On the other hand what tone are you using when you talk to your child? Is it loving, caring, showing affection? She could be irritated by your tone.Try and find out if you are communicating to her or is she just hearing sounds!

well there is no problem with your child for sure i guess. but please dont punish her she`ll start hating her mother . it`ll be alright soon as she will grew elder :)

Human beings at the age of your daughter are normal to behave that way. They like to explore their environment. It is normal for them to pay no heed to parental orders. They sort of dislike being ordered and tend to neglect anything that implies dominance. Love and affection can however solve your problem. Instead of scolding or chasting your kid just tell her softly what you want her to do keeping in mind that you are showing no disgust for her disobedience. try to be friendly and sometimes be a kid with a kid. Just try it. i hope its gonna work quite fine.

I usually never allow my kids to run around while eating. I made it a habit of sitting at one place and feeding them and not to run after them for feeding when they were kids. Now since your daughters are older, I would suggest that you serve their dishes and then call them and make them sitdown even if you have to pick the younger one and tell her to sit then only put the dishes before them, dishes can be on the table but put them before them when they sit, if they move around hjust place the dishes back on the kitchen counter and tell them no diiner til you sit. Nothing more nothing less. Do no try and explain , just in firm voice say it once but make sure you have theiur attention before you say so. I usually advise parents to hold both arms of the child lightly but firmly and make sure that they are looking at you and then give the verbal command. You have to then wait for at least 5 to 10 seconds and then repeat the command. See thing is to allow them to process what you just said. your voice has to be firm and you must mean what you say. face should show that you mean what you are saying. Initially it would result in tug of war between you and your daughters, they will try all tricks to male you give in or give up ut if you continue doing it, they will start obeying you. Cut out snacks between meals and start this by cooking what they love most. DO so for a week and then try it with other things too. Kids have to understand that who is in charge at home.

well I have the same problem with my 4 year old daughter and come to find out she has ADD. Maybe should talk to her doctor and find out if she could have ADD or ADHD. Its very stessful everyday.

I work in customer service and also at a store. The most irritating thing is the parents that have children who dont listen and run around constantly. Not only could she hurt herself and others but it makes you look as if you could care less that your child is completely out of control. I am not saying that you have done anything wrong. In fact, you have done it toooo right. You have let her become the boss because you love her so much and want her to be happy. If it doesnt get under control I promise that people will stop inviting you places, you wont be included anymore, You will be avoided. No one wants to tell someone their child is a MONSTER. I have been there. If you dont get a handle on it now you never will. You will have those kids that yell and disrespect. YOu are too good to have that happen. ITS TIME! You must punish and stick with it. If you tell her to eat her breakfast and she continues to run around ignoring you, you give her ONE chance to sit. You make sure she knows that if she doesnt sit down in the next second or two there will be consequences. She isnt going to sit. She is going to test you. So you pick her up or take them by the hand and you sit them in a place that you know will be uncomfortable for them. Away from toys, crayons, etc. Maybe you should set up a little corner. I did. I set up a corner right in the Kitchen area. I made sure that she wouldnt like it. She didnt like it and at first she thought it was me being upset. When I kept doing it she realized that mom wasnt playing. I dont think there is any thing wrong with a spanking. That is me! I dont think you should spank unless its something you feel you can do without anger or force. I spanked my older daughter and never had to spank my younger. When I say spank I mean lightly but stern enough that it doesnt feel wonderful but she isnt disabled by it. I am just sharing a little of my experiences. When I was at your point people kept telling me what they would do. Nothing they said helped me. I realized that I loved my children and if I let them keep up the way they were going to end up hard headed and the type of people know one wants to be around. I didnt want that for my kids, nor do I want that for anyone elses. Its not cut for children to be disrespectful. Trust me when you leave they are talking about how bad your kids are. I know, I've been there. I am giving it to you straight. People dont like to be around that. Especially if the parent doesnt see it or allows it to go on. You know there's a problem so you're half way there. Good luck Mama! DOnt be afraid. You are the boss. You can do it! dl

It sounds as if your 2 year old is exhibiting typical behavior fr her age. You need to physically restrain her and make her listen to you. After you are she understands what you expect from her, you can take it from there. The 6 year old should be more receptive. She should obey most of the time, but will still be frequently forgetful.

I really don't know the answer to it. Punish might be a temporary determent to her naughtiness, but she will run again. Nonetheless, she still a little child, and give her some time and patience. I think that is the nature of every single child. My niece and nephew, they are wild in the house. They never stop running.

Hi there riani.. I understand you are confuse with your daughter, but i think your daughter is fine. Children usually at the age are happy to explore theirself. We as a parents, must be patient to face them. When you are talking with your daughter,align yourself with the child and face-to-eye, to make her attention to you.It works for me.. Good luck :)