Roses after sixty years…
By paula27661
@paula27661 (15811)
Australia
September 3, 2009 4:27am CST
North Wales 86 year old Joan Shovelton has had a fresh rose placed on her bedside table every single morning for the past 60 years by her 87 year old husband Tom. He kisses her first thing in the morning and last thing at night every day.
Isn’t that nice? I bet they still walk hand in hand together too!The Shoveltons believe that one of the secret for their long and happy marriage is doing selfless gestures for each other constantly.
I guess it is not just about doing romantic things but treating each other with kindness and consideration. To me having a partner who notices if I’m tired, does the dishes and makes me the occasional cup of coffee is the most romantic in the world!
What is the most romantic thing about your relationship?
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11 responses
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
I have to be honest, the food she presents me is high on the list, but really the way she cares for me. I believe I also take extra special care of her, simply because I love her.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
That is nice. Sometimes it is not anything in particular but just the feeling you are loved and appreciated. Thanks for responding mipen!
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
7 Sep 09
That is so lovely...It seems to be a rarity these days unfortunately...I think we need to do some work on our relationship, it would be nice to grow old together and be just as close as when we first met. Thanks for responding AmbiePam!
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
She must be fantastic in the sack! 
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I think this is wonderful and we should all be so lucky! So many of us fall into routines in marriage and aside from Anniversaries, Valentine's Day and other yearly events like Birthday's and Christmas, we don't tend to focus too much on romance and spontaniety. In my own marriage, we are good communicators and also very affectionate towards each other which I think is great!
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I think this is wonderful and we should all be so lucky! So many of us fall into routines in marriage and aside from Anniversaries, Valentine's Day and other yearly events like Birthday's and Christmas, we don't tend to focus too much on romance and spontaniety. In my own marriage, we are good communicators and also very affectionate towards each other which I think is great! 1 person likes this
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
5 Sep 09
Oh, James...
...Come to think of it, that may well be why she still gets roses...Uhmm...
Sounds you have your marriage on track and that's great. We allow 'life' to take over at times and we have to remind each other to make more of an effort but we're doing okay, thanks for the response!1 person likes this
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
That's romantic. .. How I wish my husband and I would be together and will reach that age and will be exchanging roses still .. .
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
I wish for that too. I think it takes work to keep the romance alive; life's mundane occurrences can just get in the way a lot of the time. Thanks for responding dorisday!
@freebird2009 (25)
• China
4 Sep 09
It is moved that there is so simple and strong love existing.for me,the scene of the story depicting is the most romatic in the world.Vigorous love is dreamed by young people,but it may be disappeared soon.the couple who can stuck by each other through all life's ups and downs must be the most happiness ones.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
I agree. The initial phase is not long lasting, it is the more peaceful contentment of that comes after the 'in love' stage diminishes that will endure if both people are committed to the other's happiness, I think. Thank you for responding freebird!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
That is a nice gesture! It is the little things sometimes...Thanks for the response misisbau, I appreciate it!
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Dang! they sure don't produce them like they used to huh? Now days men are just not wired to work that way mentally..
I would like it if it happened just once a month or every so often..
The most romantic thing about my relationship?..ummm, let me think..I gotta dig real hard to even remember what romance is in my relationship....(my husband forgot that it existed.)..Still thinking..He won't even pick me wild daisy's which I love..calls them weeds..but to me they aren't..it cold be way easy to list all that he doesn't do that is considered romantic..Seriously..Well, I am coming up empty..If I remember anything I will come back..
they sure don't produce them like they used to huh? Now days men are just not wired to work that way mentally..I would like it if it happened just once a month or every so often..The most romantic thing about my relationship?..ummm, let me think..I gotta dig real hard to even remember what romance is in my relationship....(my husband forgot that it existed.)..Still thinking..He won't even pick me wild daisy's which I love..calls them weeds..but to me they aren't..it cold be way easy to list all that he doesn't do that is considered romantic..Seriously..Well, I am coming up empty..If I remember anything I will come back..1 person likes this
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
I can't recall too many romantic gestures since we've married. My husband was hospitalised on our first wedding anniversary for an illness; it wasn't serious but he was unable to go out and buy me a card or a gift so he made me one with some coloured pencils he found at the hospital;that was sweet. That was thirteen years ago mind you! Thanks for responding mtdewgurl it might help to have a chat to our men I think!
@babykeka80 (2084)
• United States
3 Sep 09
My roses stopped before the first 60 days was up I think. My husband can be romantic its just so hard at times between stress, bills, kids, the jobs, the dogs, you know all that stuff that gets in the way. He calls me at random when a song comes on and sings to me. Thats kind of cute. Now that I am thinking of it we are both guilty of letting the "sizzle fizzle." LOL
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
I know what you mean, life has a tendency to get in the way like that! If my husband bought me flowers these days I would probably scold him for spending the money! We must work on getting that 'sizzle' back! Thanks for responding babykeka80
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
3 Sep 09
The most romantic thing about the relationship that iam in is..."THE RELATIONSHIP" itself....Everything about it is beautiful.....to say the least ...Its been close to 3 years (since we met) and things are better than before! Your topic makes a lot of sense since today every couple need to make that extra effort to keep the relationship exciting and intriguing.....
Take care
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
That is a lovely thing to say! You are very fortunate to be so happy and with the
right person, I wish you all the best and much more romance!Thanks for responding shankari_prabhu!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
3 Sep 09
That's so sweet! I can only hope that I find someone that loves me like that. My b/f says he does but 60 years is committment! My b/f cooks dinner and runs my bath. He also rubs my legs at night so I'll sleep well. He really goes out of his way to make me happy.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
He sounds lovely. That is what it's all about; making sure the other person is happy. If both people do that, you can't go wrong. I heard Dr Phil say once that everyone should decide every morning what positive thing they can bring to their relationship, not a bad way to look at things...Thanks Jen!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
3 Sep 09
They have and it's a shame that there are not enough lovely relationships like that around or maybe there are but all we hear about is people fighting and breaking up!
