How do you forgive those who have hurt you?

Forgiving and forgetting are really not the same thing. Just because you have made the choice to forgive someone doesn't mean you're not going to remember the situation, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. The reason you should forgive a person as that the longer you dwell on the things that hurt you, the more you're hurting yourself. Chances are the person that hurt you isn't feeling half as bad as you are, so why would you punish yourself because another person hurt you. I have made the choice to forgive those that have hurt me in the past, and I have taken those memories as learning experiences. I still remember what has happened, but I don't use it as an excuse, and I don't hold the past against people, but I am more aware that painful things can happen, and I am more cautious about who I trust and let get too close to me!

For me it might take a long time to forget or forgive if someone I loved hurt me so bad. But if Im in the same relationship then I have to forgive in order to work out together. I used to get hurt before and it took me almost 5 years to forgive him. I think if I still mad or angry with him until now, it means I am not over him yet... so let him go for good. he has move on , so am I