Does absence really make your heart grow fonder?

Hello my wonderful friend What a great question In my case absence makes my heart grow fonder, I worry all the time so if someone I know just goes away without a word I will worry until I hear from that person again, when I don't see my family for a certain amount of time I miss them like crazy then when I see them I say o.k enough is enough time to go lol not all the time just sometime, so you mean to tell me if I just left mylot out of the blue you would not miss me hmmmm, how sad is this,lol upon my return you will treat like we were never friends good thing I know this about you now so if for some reason I come up missing from mylot I will then return and stalk you lol (inside joke)

That is a very thoughtful question. A very sensative saying too : Absence makes the heart grow fonder. But, I would think it would all depend on the person. If it is a person one very much likes, then the saying would hold true. If it is antohet type of person, then naturally it would take the other direction. I have had experiences both ways !

It does both. If you're in a love relationship, and you're away for a while, you're going to miss the person and be back with them. But if you are away for too long, you may eventually lose the love and find somebody else. When I go away, I find that I don't miss most people and things until I am on my way back, because I'm busy or having fun, I guess. And then suddenly I miss everything and everybody terribly.

Hi there!For me,I think not really true that "ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER",there is an opposite for that saying:"ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART FORGET",this I strongly believe is indeed true and that happens always in all aspects of life: for friendships,lovers,except family relationship ( never will happen due to close-knit relationship).We can't deny that the truth speaks up for itself.When the days goes by so many things are changing which is beyond our control.The feelings of a person to his/her loveone gradually would vanish because of the"ABSENCE" of human touch.As we knew,there are a lot of stories we've been hearing till now about a relationship had broken up because of the distance from each other ( this i'm talking about Sweethearts).For they can't continue their obligation as completely the presence of someone not visible.So he/she ended up searching for another relationship and someone to be loved as well.Would you agree with my comments?

Hi DCLehnsherr Same with me, I think absence makes me feel distant and I need time again to know my friends. After separate for weeks and months without any news (even with news, I still feel it's different if I'm not see their face directly and talk to them in real life). I need time to feel familiar again, talk for sometimes and then after that maybe I can feel close to my old friend again. Honestly, I feel sad, because sometimes I found that she/he has already changed and that we can't as close as in the past But I know that's life, she and me have different purpose and preferences in life, thus we make different choice that affect our behavior. If I were close to her, I will really miss her in the first week or the first month, but after that time, if I never heard any news from her that miss feeling will turn into no feelings,,hehehe..

Whoever came up with that phrase of absence makes the heart grow fonder? I think you if you leave someone or have them leave you, that emptiness of being without them stays with you, making you miss them more. But i think you're right. After a while you get used to not having that person around. There are some who will hold on to that person forever, but most of us have the tendency to move on and make new realtionships. The heart is a difficult subject. Is it right to hold on to someone or let them go? Is looking back more difficult than moving forward?

It only on some issue. If it's my family, friends and special person, absent does make my heart grow fonder. I'll start missing them and I am want to be with them. But some people who I just meet or not having a good relationship with, absent is better. It'll grow a distant between me and them (I don't know about them but it does for me)

I think the opposite is more true. When I was going through an unhappy period in my first marriage, my then husband was working away. It was my birthday, and he wasn't due back, so I arranged to spend the evening with a group of female friends. He came back to surprise me, but it was more of a shock. I realised that I didn't want to share my birthday with my husband, that I would have preferred it if he hadn't come home. That gave me the strength to end the marriage and move on. When someone is out of the picture, you can rationalise your feelings for them more effectively. When it comes to friends I don't want to be parted from, I find that I look forward to seeing them again. That doesn't mean absence has made me fonder where they are concerned. It means that I appreciate the time I do spend with them because that time is at a premium. When you only see someone occasionally, you make more of an effort to enjoy their company, so absence can enhance the friendship, but I don't think it actually makes the heart grow fonder.

it is a double edged sword, it can have one of 2 effects. either you shall miss the person terribly and realize that you really need them in your life and that your life is not complete without them. or you start to see things clearly and realize that you do not really need that person, or that they are actually and adverse influence in your life and you cannot see it when they are there.

I think it will depend on the character of a person. Some people have a positive effect when they don't see someone while other people would find something to replace them. So we cannot say that this thing applies to all of us. As for myself, the absence of people i love makes my heart grow fonder for them. The excitability is rising intensely and the more i don't see a person, the more i am thrilled to see him again.

I don't know. sometimes i miss some mylotter when they're not around that i check upon their profile. even to some-one that hated me now a days..

Hi, I think I have classification of people and things. People I love a lot, I cant bear the thought of them being out of my life for long. But in general, others, I can adjust within no time, and dont really miss them either. Even activities are such that I dont really miss them. As of now, however, I am enjoying mylotting. But then, it is not even a month since I joined. And there are so many people sharing so many different views. I also find myself thinking in different directions and get a chance to express some of my ideas, which I didnt dare to tell anybody so far. And people are here to clarify some of my doubts! Its a lovely experience so far. Will I miss it? I dont think so. This is because there are ample other things that I can do. And I think that is what makes us like that.

For my personal experience, when friends and family move to other places, I miss them initially but eventually I feel ok. With the new technologies available to chatting, it feels like we are close anyway. In fact, I am closer to a cousin who live in another country than the ones living here with me.

It depends. If it does have a purpose for you to be away with someone or vice versa, at times you are probably busy. You keep thinking about your work while you doesn't know how is she/he is doing. Then again, at the end of the day you'll realize there's something missing and you've got to see that person. For a fact that you misses him/her.