When do you think it's right to move in with the person your dating?

United States
September 3, 2009 2:50pm CST
When do you think is the right time to move in with the person you are dating? I have currently been dating my boyfriend now for 6 months and he is ready for me to move in. I'm still hesitate because my last relationship I made the mistake of moving in early and I was stuck! Once you make a decision like that it's hard to get out.....
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6 responses
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Try to get over with your past relationship and move on, don't compare your recent relationship to your past relationship. I know it's hard to make a decision but you must follow your heart sometimes. It is fine that you commit mistake sometimes because that makes you grow and more mature.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
30 Sep 09
My husband and I moved in together after 3 months. Both of our families were a bit worried and they thought we ought to wait a little, but we took the chance and it went well. We are married now and we have been living together for more than a year by now. My ex and I waited a year and half before we moved in together, but my husband and I were both sure about out feelings and I don't regret moving into together after 3 months. It is hard to say it is the right time to move in together, because it depends on many things. If you are afraid that you will make the same mistake as you did in your last relationship, it might be best to wait a while.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Sep 09
When is it right? When you feel that it's right. If something is telling you to hold off, you're not comfortable about something, wait until you are comfortable. Or at least figure out what it is and what would make you comfortable. Don't discount your feelings.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
5 Sep 09
yeah 6 months not long enough i would say maybe over a year to two years. that's good you're not rushing in
• United States
3 Sep 09
I have now lived with two men that i dated. to be honest I wish I would have never done it. If you love this person and want a full term commitment and wash the get the ring and the bond after the vowels don move in with each other before. its going to be a better adventure once you are married. because before you are married it will be just reson to end what you all have.
@sredith (239)
• United States
3 Sep 09
I think that 6 months is definitely long enough for you two to have gotten to know each other, but if you're still nervous, why don't you talk to him about having a trial move-in? You can both agree to give it a shot for a few months and if it doesn't work out, you can move back into your respective places. The problem with this of course is that you're going to have to keep paying rent (or whatever) on a place that you're really not staying in, but if you are concerned with moving in and losing everything when it doesn't work out, it might be worth the risk. Bonus points if you live in a place that allows subletting though!