When being picked on by an office bully...
By Shebang
@Shebang (244)
Philippines
September 3, 2009 11:36pm CST
Office bully are not uncommon in the workplace. In fact, sometimes, they are needed make life a little more challenging. Isn't it? But then, to what extent are you going to tolerate them, if you are being harrased by them? I myself was picked on at work by a bully. She's the worst I think. She'll make you do her job. She complains a lot. She gives humiliating comments to you, from head to toe.
One day, I had an argument with an officemate. It was a simple and petty misunderstanding. Despite everything, I still consider him my friend and eventually, we reconciled. What happened was, this bully lass harrassed me just because I had a fight with this officemate, our officemate. I was really disappointed and shocked with the behavior because she was never part of the story. Even if this man and I settled our differences, this bully still had the same treatment toward me. And it goes on and on. She calls me different names. She's backfighting me. Name it. There wasn't a thing she did. It was hell. But then I really did not mind her. I just think she never existed. That was two years ago and I left the company.
Now, with my new company, here comes another bully. A fault-finder at that but she's manageable. As usual, I treat her like she never existed. Sometime I would ask myself, why they don't just disappear? But you know, at one point, they bring out the best in us in unthinkable ways.
Anita Bruzzese, in one of her books, mentioned how to deal with office bully. She said, you just have to IGNORE them. Do not try to answer them back. Because if you do, it will give them the drive to pester you more. If you don't fight back, they will eventually stop.
Would you rather fight back or will just keep your silence, never mind them, and think they never existed?
2 responses
@med889 (5941)
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4 Sep 09
Hello there! I have also read this sentence where it says that ignorance is the best remedy one can opt for and believe me it really works, it is hard because others will also think that I am arrogant or a reserved type but now I have also opt for the saying which says that "Whatever you think about me is none of my business" So I find myself a place now in my company.
@Shebang (244)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah. I agree. You're right. I like that. There is nothing that you can do about how other people think of you. Good for you found a place in your company.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
i have experienced fighting them back and i gained a lot of backbiters and i made quite a stir within the company! i am glad though that i showed them that i can fight, nowadays, no one dares to pick a fight with me.
but, still one lady who is playing favorite with the boss, throws innuendos in the air and i feel those are aimed against me. i cannot react because these were not really directed to me.
i tried the silent treatment and ignores all these things. what i did and still do when she does this, i play deaf and dumb by inserting earphones and listen to music from my ipod or cellphone. i felt that i have succeeded in doing this because at present, she never dares to do it again.
@Shebang (244)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
I really can't say that playing deaf and dumb is the only and best way to deal with bullies like I have said, but you know sometimes there's no other way but to fight them back like what you did. And it worked for you. Never mind that lady who is throwing innuendos because people like them are not confident in themselves. They are like sheeps in a wolves clothing. If you encounter people like them, just remember this "EMPTY CANS CREATE MORE NOISE." Let them be the empty can. (^_^).
