Why does someone ask you to be friends, & then you never hear from them again?
By homeshoppers
@homeshoppers (6166)
Philippines
September 4, 2009 7:23am CST
I have a few friends who asked me to be my friend, its either online or not and I never even talked to them. They just invite you and ask if they can be my friend but it stop there. Some don't even bother to say hi or say how are you if they met along the way.
I wonder if they just counting friends or not. Though online, i'm not expecting any or all of them can be my friends coz its not easy to find trusted friend here though good thing is you can ask them question and they will answer. and that you can check for their post so you can participate their discussion. Its not that someone invited me here or i invited someone it means a friend already. those people are just to remind you that you are not alone in this site.
but then. Real people who will approach you is not acceptable. Does any one here know why people do that? It makes no sense to me.
5 people like this
15 responses
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 09
I think that this is a definite trait in My Lot! I have so many friends on my list and it's difficult to keep in touch with everyone. I'm sure that it's nothing personal normally. It just takes a lot of effort to try and communicate with everyone. There should be some kind of mailing list in My Lot whereby you send one message and this can be distributed automatically to all of your friends on My Lot, this would certainly make things that much easier. It's very difficult to make new friends when not online, there's always this barrier that seems to be in place. Anyway, there you have it. Andrew
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
i guess to participate in one of your friends discussion is already enough as you are right that since we have lots of friends in our list we are not able to message them all everyday.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
in mylot i communicate with them through discussion, and i think that okay. though i have a few of mylot friends that i knew their email and they know mine and we exchange a few his and hellos. but there are those who ican only have a chat through discussion. thats okay with me. but on other sires like friendster when i accept a friend i make sure i open communications with them. while at my facebook i only accept relatives specially the ones who are at abroad.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
yes i can see that. by answering their discussion. i also do the same. i guess its also good thing so you can check if they have new post so you can also participate than looking around to check for discussion.
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Sep 09
Just take it easy. Some people say something easily but they don't really mean it. It may be polite for them to say to be your friends, but obviously they are not serious to it. The people who want to be your friend won't say it, they will take actions.
I love China
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
yes thank you. and i really find it cute with your signature. the i love china things lol. cute.
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
ouch... I'm one of them.
....But because I have noticed that there are really faithful friends here who will respond to your post almost every time, it changed the way i think. it change the way i do my lot.
what i did, I just started to make discussions with them and eventually, visited the posts/discussions of my friends just like you.
Happy day homeshoppers.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
yes thats what other do even me. but i guess its alright here but not in real life, coz i remember some of them way back college and even at work. they will come and approach me to be their friend then after few days they find another friends and they will not bother to even say hi to you.
@taripres (1499)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I just sent you a friend request! Well, I can't say really other than it's too much going on, similar to offline! I try and keep in contact with everyone through discussions here and other methods in other sites! I do quite a bit of web promos, so I keep in contact that way. If a ? arises out of what I'm doing, I'm pretty quick to respond, or I'll contact them and offer something or just to say I'm droppin a line, how r u? Well, accept me (Ya Boy) 
and I'll keep in contact with ya, if that's whatcha want 
Taripre$@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
lol, not really what i want. i just wonder those. but thanks for the interest. i already added you.
@yoyokiwi (31)
• China
4 Sep 09
People who ask you to be their friends perhaps truly have a good impression on you.They don't neglect you on purpose,because if so,they have no need to invite you to be their friends.Stand in their shoes,you'll find maybe they are too timid,or they have no words to speak to you coz different orbits of life.You have no topics in common actually.And most of them don't realize the problem until they send out the invitation.Generally speaking,chances are that you can be close friends only when you get along with them for some time.
If you come across one of them one day,after hello and how are you,what would you say?Silence,eh?As far as I'm concerned.In my eyes,it's more embarrassed.Trying to enter their daily life,you'll have more surprises.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
yes maybe. or perhaps they approach me coz they need some company then if they find new friends they will just go to them and ignore me.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
hello homeshoppers,
same is true to me. but nevertheless, i still accept them if they ask me to be their friend. but i'm not expecting any from them. if they can say hi/hello to me, so much the better. maybe they are just busy like everyone else.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
you gave a very good point. many of my friends online don't even bother to say hello after wards. and i don't blame things in life like our responsibilities will affect our activities and sometimes as much as we would like to be in touch with people we will not be abLe to . sometimes people just lose the interest and so there are so many reasons and it is kinda hard to find real friends online not unless you are looking for romantic relationship that a lot of people will surely will just turn up for it. but if just ordinary friendship then it is kinda hard to have.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
20 Sep 09
Hey,
No I have no idea why people do that. It hasn't happened to me very often, but when it does happen, I often still don't know why the person went through all that time and stuff, and now you don't ever hear from them again. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
4 Sep 09
Some people are just friend collectors. It gives them a sense of worth to say they have so many friends for some reason. Personally, I'd rather be more selective so that I can interact with friends both online and in the 'real' world. I regularly go through my friends list and delete the ones I haven't heard from in some time. However, I really enjoy the exchanges I have with my friends here, so it doesn't bother me if some people don't want to join in with things. It's their loss, not mine.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
It's a common thing for Social-Networking Websites like Friends-ter and others too. It's a bit a few here in mylot where people add friends and don't talk at all. it's the pheomena that i don't understand either. but in case, if i do enter your life, will you accept me as a friend just like people off-line? i had a few here.
@allsheikhly (83)
• China
4 Sep 09
i encounter that situation before,in street we recognise each other,she(always she..)will not say hi to you first even gaze at you straight.....that always makes me mad ,but i understand gradually.they don't wanna lose face.
because you are new friends,she's afraid you don't recognise her,so she will never speak first.so everytime i encounter similar situation,i will say hi to her first.what subsequent is her brilliant smile.lol
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
maybe they have asked already a lot of people to be their friend and end up not remembering some of them.there are several factors to consider.maybe they really enjoy collecting friends but doesn't know how to cultivate the friendship they have started.or maybe they are just so busy to send you a hello.so better have a quality few than to have a bulk of ghost friends.lol
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
5 Sep 09
Some are just "Friend Collectors" or do it to feel a false sense of popularity. It's stupid but hey, in the realms of the internet, you can be anybody you wanna be, right?
I personally don't get it myself but I'm not too quick to reject friend's requests on sites because I don't take them seriously. 99% of the people you meet online won't ever get to meet you in person anyway. As long as they don't bother me, I don't bother them. They can remain a fixture on my page if they want, but they are nothing more than that.
If anyone so chooses to be a "real" friend, I would invite the opportunity provided that we get along and the person isn't "out of this world".
@srganesh (6340)
• India
4 Sep 09
I encounter this problem in mylot alone and not in real world.Here,I got a lot of friends request and I approve all of them.But only a few are visiting my posts and keep on responding.I wonder whether they like it to be one way traffic,that is they take us for granted to respond to their discussion alone?Yet,I am happy that I have so many friends in mylot,even if they are failing to turn up again.Cheers!
