What are your expectations?

my luck is not in favour of me. from expectation i'm not get return positively at all. most of the time i got hurt, because my expectation are not fulfilled and i got, the opposite what i expect really. so i'm afraid to expect any good thing from other.

We are all human. Doing something and expecting something in return is natural. How we handle it when there is no returns for the efforts we put in makes us different from each other. And how we accept not getting any benefit from the effort we put in for something will depend on what that thing is. As for the woman who is in a one sided love affair, it is a very tiring relationship to be in. I pray for her that the person she is loving, will reciprocate soon. Otherwise, I pray that she sees the light and find someone who is more deserving of her love.

Its sad wehn no one respondes to the person giving the love and yes if they end up returning that love it might not be the kind she wanted. I owld always want love returned if I give it.

just like what the lord had asked, give thanks. and that is all that we can give to reciprocate his love to us, give thanks. and so, as a father, i would also wish to receive even thank yous from my kids for the love that i had given them.

We might not expect any material thing in return but a smile or a little thanks will do. When it comes to love, it takes two to tango. You love someone as you felt you are being loved as well. With the exception of the love for the family. We can express our love in doing things that would make them happy, though they may not reciprocate but in our hearts we know they love us.

when I am helping out a good friend,I don't expect for anything in return.if I am,I shouldn't have helped her in the first place.in a relationship with a partner,I tend to be selfish.I expect him to love me.if he doesn't,what's the point of staying in it?

I don't expect anything in return when I do favors for people. I don't expect a lot from the men I date....I'm pretty low maintanence. I do however, expect to be treated with respect. If I was with someone who had no feelings for me, then I would just have to move on. You can't force someone to love you.

hi zandi458 hatley No usually I dont as I liketo help someone just'for the sake of helping as it makes me feel good inside and thats pay enough. I havent kept score for a long time with what I have done for others and what they do for me.it seemed pretty childish to me. once I did several favors for a coworker who was in an accident with her mom. she was on crutches and asked me to pick up some books for her at the library where we both worked. I didnt mind doing that at all, but was sort of irked when she opened the door looked at me and said go away. I am tired. I was startled but said that I realized she was hurting but she had asked me to bring the books to her. she closed the door and locked it.so i set the books on the air conditioner and walked off.But I got over it as I realized she did have some sort of emotional problem over and above her injury.She had been hard to work with as you never knew how she would react.but now looking back I think she was bi polar and had never been diagnozed as she fit aLl the symptoms. so I got over being upset with her. the next week I got sick and she was off crutches. she brought a huge sack of fresh veggies from the farmers market and left them in front of my apt. door. so who knows.she could be very sweet.

An one sided love affair is very sad & hurtful, been there done that. If u will teach yourself to not expect more then u want be disappointed.

Existing with unreciprocated love is a sad way to live. I have learned a long time ago that in order to keep my peace of mind I should not to expect anything from anyone that way I won’t be disappointed. If I do a favour for a friend I don’t necessarily expect the same in return; it would make me feel better about asking for a favour for myself down the track perhaps but that’s about it. I don’t give gifts with expectations either.

We are always calling in favours where we live,it is just normal to help someone out.I have been helping my neibour with her daughter who is back home now and behaving herself,it is just a case of what you do suzzy.I have brought up three kids and I have been through most things with teenagers,so she uses my experiance.When i was poorly she picked up my prescriptions looked out for my youngest,if I was back late,so it cuts both ways.Our group of friends are always making each other lunch generally looking after each other,buying little presents if we see something the other would like,It is up to us girls as our husbands work long hours,we all have kids,some disabled,extended family at its best.The bit about one sided love smacks of being deperate,he will walk all over her,get her to meet someone else soon.Explain obssession is not love poor girl,you have to feel for her.

Hi zandi, I believe we always expecting something in return for everything we have done. We post here because we expecting some cents in return. We spend some money and expecting some thing from it. So, we always expecting something from our time, money or anything. But we must also aware that we can not get all what we are expecting though. Sometime we get more, sometime we get what we expecting and sometimes it is less or nothing at all. And we should prepare to all this situation. We can not force someone to fulfill every single wish that we have. And when it comes to feeling or love, we can force someone to love us. We might get their body but not their soul and heart. And it could be worst then that. So, in everything we did, just expecting for the best but prepare for the worst. Sanang bah tu ...

Hi zandi, I believe that help should be given without compromising on any personal necessities, comforts, and luxuries. If, and only if, a person can spare beyond that, should the person venture out to help. And even then, the help should be limited. There is no point in helping another person and then lamenting I denied myself this to help that person. Everybody is grown up when taking such decisions. As I was explaining to somebody, it is strange but any help given creates resentment in both help giver as well as help taker. Giver would remain happy as long as the person who has taken help does not progress rapidly. If there is rapid progress, the giver starts announcing to the world, this is because of me. The helptaker resents this, because he wants the world to recognize him for his merits and not pass on the credit to help giver. Moreover, the help giver, in that benevolent state of mind often asks the help taker to do some favors, which, had the obligation not existed, the help taker would have felt at liberty to refuse. At times, the help taker would have done those favors for the help giver, without the existence of such obligation. But when the samething is asked once the obligation comes into existence, the help taker resents it. This is because he starts believing that he is doing that because of his feelings of obligation, rather than any other reason. Hope I have not confused u too much. :) Ideally, people should avoid asking favors.

I may not expect anything in return but if I am in dire need of a persons help I might actually. Its not the case always though. There are somethings which cannot be reciprocated like attending a marriage. You might have gone to attend your friends marriage and bless the couple but then when your marriage comes, your friends gets really caught up in something very important and couldn't make it for the occasion. I would not actually be upset about it.

I can give to people without any expectations from them. I do not like to be used though. I do expect them to be there for me in time of need too though if it is possible. I have never had that happen before though so it makes me less giving.

mine is the nature where i expect only love n respect from the person am doing something. i am the kind who want respect,trust,sharing,openmind from the person am connected to. even if am doing something for the person unknown to me, i never expected in return. just happiness for the person, thats it.

When i do something for someone, i want him to be satisfied. And honestly talking about love,i want to be practical. The question is, "how would you love someone throughout your life if she/he doesn't feel the same?" Maybe it takes time for this matter but in reality, we need love in return.