I have a 13 year old daughter on strike

make sure she cannot snack and then at meal time cook her favorites. she will not starve herself nor will she stay on strike for long. CPS will not come after you either as long as you do have food for her you will be fine. If you give in she will just always take advantage of your guilt. Be Strong. You can do it. She is not going to do this for long.

Be careful how you react to your daughter's self-imposed starvation. This type of behavior may be a precursor to an eating disorder. My 11-year-old granddaughter spent 45 days in the hospital because she was severely underweight. She didn't have a body-image problem, but she had behavioral issues that led her to use food as a control mechanism. Perhaps your daughter felt powerless in the situation (missing the vaccine appointment), so she reacted by controlling what she could, which is the food she consumes. She is at an age when asserting independence becomes important. You might try giving her more responsibility over her own life, such as giving her an alarm clock so she can only blame herself when she doesn't get up on time. Consult with your pediatrician about your daughter's behavior. Eating disorders can be life-threatening, as they were in my granddaughter's case, and the earlier they're addressed, the better the outcome. Good luck!

I would start making her favorite meals, and keep acting like you dont care. I would take the family to her favorite restaurant. She wants control and you cant give in or you will have no authority. I would say that with in a day or two she should break. After three days, if your sure she isnt eating, take her to a doctor. Let her know she can fast but that she needs to take some nutrition, ie, vitamins.

i'm quite lucky in the sense that my psychology background made me learn that in disciplining a child it would help to know if the parents are aware who that child may have gotten that certain behavior from. surely the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. no offense there but a child may not be aware of the fine line of being outspoken and being disrespectful. in my case i deal with my child's misbehavior the way it worked well with my mother.

The teenage is a period where its much difficult for parents to deal with their kids.The kids start to understand thing faster and more effectively.If you actually don't care whether she eats her food or not,then please ,I suggest you have given her the punishment you would have wanted,she hasn't had her 3 meals,now convince her the taste of a good food,try and eat a delicious food item in front of her and that too watching t.v,may be her favorite show or something. Let your anger go and also tell a sorry loudly by creating a feeling that you are not talking to her directly.These are my suggestions only,don't worry of cps,because you do love your child and she to loves you.

hi. used to that way when i was a kid. went on a hungry strike because my mom had no time to fix some of our needs. like u, she was also working. i think i was 10 at that time. but reality bites, need to be responsible at that age coz i cannot expect her to be there for me at all times due to work. but i know she tried to be around the best way she can. im sure u feel the same. u r a mom. nothing beats that. ur daughter should also take responsibility for herself. it was a simple task. she could have set a very loud alarm. it's not gonna last long. just act normal as if nothing happened. u dont know, she might be sneaking around in the kitchen to eat when u're not there. ü

You can't force her to eat or that would be abuse. I think she will eat when she is hungry enough. It's so upsetting that some kids think they can tell us parents what to do and expect us to do it. I don't mean that we should be mean or anything but, WE are the adults, the kids just do not get to tell the adults off or what to do. We have enough to deal with just trying to keep a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs without their ingratitude. I love my daughter and I love my grandsons but I don't take orders from them. Ok, I moved in with my daughter and it's her household but still, a little respect is in order. Your daughter is probably eating at school or something. She'll be okay. If you give in though, she knows she can win and that will cause more problems down the line.

Do not give in to this little girl! If it were my daughter, I'd cook her meals and if she refused to eat them ...fine. You cooked them. Child protective can't touch you....you can not force her to eat. I would tell my daughter that I was concerned that she wasn't eating because I love her but I believe the punishment I gave her was fitting and it was her choice not to eat. At 13 she is old enough to be responsible for getting herself up & ready in the morning. Don't worry about Child services. They are aware of teens and they look at situations differently when they are older than when they are little kids. From what I've read here, you are doing nothing wrong. One of my girls once threatened to report me for not giving her her way. I was like...go right ahead. Maybe they'll remove you from here and do you really think I am going to stop them right about now? It is so hard when they are teens...especially girls! Hang in there. They grow up and they'll be your best friends.

I think that's kinda funny that she's that stubborn. She'll eat eventually. She won't just let herself starve. Maybe have a calm discussion with her about the issue, no fighting or saying whose right or wrong because nothing really gets solved that way. It sounds like your both really determined. I think that acting like you don't care that she hasn't eaten could make it worse because she could really think you don't care about her and it will make her continue to be stubborn about it. So if you did have a talk with her I would straight up just tell her that she's an idiot for not eating and it doesn't prove anything because it has nothing to do with the real issue. I think I have a sense of her mindset because I have had similar fights with my mom and have gone to idiotic extremes of stubbornness just like this to try to prove a point too. You just have to remember that neither of you like the current situation, but both of you are too stubborn to solve the problem. Now I'm not saying that you're wrong or should give in or anything. I'm just saying that if you refuse to accept the fact that the other person may be at least a little right, then you can't have a real argument, only a fight. And fights never solve anything. The fact is, most of the time when a kid does something wrong, they regret it that very moment, but they get defensive or whatever and end up digging themselves in deeper. Your daughter probably really is sorry for what she did and in her mind the issue may have completely shifted to something entirely different, like, for example, that you don't care about her. In my personal experience I have known this sort of thing to be true. She is aware that she made a mistake, but she probably believes that you reacted to her mistake inappropriately like perhaps, you didn't give her a chance to explain herself. It could even be stretched to be attributed to her siblings (if she has any) Maybe she is thinking that if her sibling did it, you would have reacted differently, more understandably. These are all just ideas though. I wasn't there, so I don't truly know the full story and can't really know the reasons behind it, but if you stay in fight mode, she will too. It's just a lot of unnecessary negative energy. People put too much weight in whose right or wrong and that's the true source of the problem. If everyone can stop trying to prove that they are right and stop getting so defensive, then actual logic can be used.

don't worry used to do the samething at her age because my mom made me mad. It doesn't last long. Once I found out my mom wouldn't give in I stopped. I agree with the others give her other things she can be responsible for to give her a sense of independence but not while she's being punished. Try sitting her down and talking to her and let her know that starving herself will not help her get her way it'll just make her sick.

hi.. im surprised dat this topic is even open for discussion... she is your daughter.. she maybe stubborn, but that is because ur also behavin in da same way!! try talkin to her n make her realise the point of view on both sides.. talk to her like a friend rather than an athoritative figure. n please let it be a discussion rather than an argument.. you have to understand that she is a teenager... she is bound to be confused. help her out of her dilemma. n 1 more thing, this is the age when parents have to become friends wid their children, especially daughters. if you dont do anything n remain stubborn then it becomes an absolute lost cause.. they will never open up ever. this is the age where they see life with a differnt perspective.. this is when they need their parents the most.. i hope you break the cold war n sort out ur issues... god bless..