What upsets you?

@chenee08 (591)
Philippines
September 6, 2009 12:00am CST
I was doing really well for awhile. My depression was beginning to go away it felt like, and then all at once it all came crashing back in. All over one person. Somehow with all the other things that is going on, I'm worried about someone who could care less about me right now and wants nothing to do with me anymore. Why does that happen? Why do people let others effect them in such a way? The mind and the heart are so complex to me, I can't even begin to understand it. All I know is, my heart is hurting bad. I just want to be selfish and blow my brains out. Maybe goodbye is my second chance. What upsets you? If you get to the point of such a major depression what do you do to help yourself get through it?
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@sehlers (163)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I'm going through one now. I divorced my abusive husband. He's been lax about child support until they got to him. He won't cover our son with insurance, stole our tax money to pay off his credit cards, and just went on a trip with his girlfriend to California. The trip was the last straw for me. Shot me into a bigger depression than usual. Doesn't help that I'm fighting to keep my house and I don't have any health insurance, either. I'm doing several things to keep going right now. Number one is my son. I have to keep it together for him. I'm doing everything I can to work with the bank to stop foreclosure. I'm looking for a job with insurance, and applying for both full time jobs with insurance and also part time jobs for extra money coming in so I can try to catch up. I write in my journal. I call my friends. I make sure I do something I enjoy every day, like knitting. I make sure I take my meds. I put on makeup and take care of my skin. I basically do anything I can to keep moving forward and do little things to make myself feel better and that helps my self esteem.
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Sad to hear that. Hopefully things will go well for you. god bless
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
20 Sep 09
Hey, Nothing really upsets me that much. Like I have lost a couple of hundred of dollars on the internet because of all those scams that are out their, I was truly sad, but I wasn't really that depressed. Now I am trying to make some more money to cover that loss. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
I will not pretend like i know you, or your situation.. but i can relate a little to your friend.. If you are really depressed, i can relate to that too.. I was depressed for a long time.. So looking at it from your friends perspective, if she/he doesn't understand depression, it probably seems to them as if your not doing anything to help yourself.. but you and i know.. that goes along with depressions.. a sense of helplessness.. Now i can relate to your friend because myself, i fall into peoples lives and emotional problems too far, i get too involved and then i become how they feel.. It's too much for me to handle, so i usually distance myself from people if i know i can't deal with them well.. I dont know if this helps your or not. but good luck. Hope you kick the depressions @ss someday soon. Just know that.. someday.. you will feel better.. Find the negative in your life, and replace it with a postive, get outside, excersize, and find something new that you LOVE to do or are passionate about.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
what upsets me? whew, a lot of things actually. i get upset if the things or person promised me something and if ill expect something to happen then i dont get them thats the time i get upset. and it wont heal easily. it takes time for me to forget the incident.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
I am depressed too because of some financial problem with my family, also i am planning to resign to my work because my boss keeps on insulting me and scolding me infront of my officemates. She always makes me feel how stupid i am. These problems make me sad and depress, i cant even eat well.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Hello chenee08 I know what you mean in my case my family depresses me more than anyone and right now depression is knocking on my door but I refuse to let it in, being here at mylot helps me alot before this I talk to my self and ask the question how does the other person feel right now do they care that I am hurt and crying over them answer is NO,so I do something anything to get me out of the funk I am in, listen to music call someone that you know makes you laugh, watch a funny movie do anything to change your thinking and after a while it wont seem so bad, I been there so I know how you feel I also know we have to take care of ourself and not allow others to control what goes on in our head we are giving them too much power they don't deserve that, in my case neither does my family, I am upset right now but I gave them to much power in the past no more, I am a good person and I believe this is happening for a reason and I will come out of this happy and able to handle situations better than I have in the past Call up a friend or watch something funny on t.v it will help get your mind of whoever you are allowing to make you feel this way, bottom line they are so not worth it, I hope this helps you my friend, whatever is going on its all in the mind take control of it and you can handle anything or anyone in the future.
• India
6 Sep 09
I feel upset when people jealous of me try to humiliate me for nothing!I just try to look at the blooming flowers outside and feel relaxed!
@AJAntony (33)
• India
6 Sep 09
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@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
When my plans fail that really upsets me. I don't know but I feel like my decisions are not working out. This makes me feel very upset and angry too. I believe that is one way of making me upset. I can be upset in various ways depending upon the situations. I know that being upset is really bad, but I can control this emotions of mine. I hope you won't feel depress anymore.
• United States
6 Sep 09
I can understand what you are going through chenee, my little sister has the same kinds of thoughts. She is involved with someone that she just can't trust. She knows that he would never do anything to hurt her, but she just can't help how depressed she gets. A lot of those kinds of things usually come from something else that happened to you earlier in your life. I have mild depression myself, it isn't bad, not all the time, but I do have times when I can't help but think "What's the point?" I don't know how serious your depression is, but one of the things I do is I try to get some of my really good friends together, and go out to lunch or a movie and just try to forget, at least for a little while, about the thinks that make me sad. I'm not sure how would be the best way to deal with this person who makes you feel this way, but maybe the best thing would be to share how you feel with them. If they are truly a good person, they will try to figure out a way to help you through it. If they really don't care about you at all and don't want to help you, then the important thing to try and remember is, they are not deserving of your affection. No one deserves to suffer because of someone else. Your happiness is worth more than someone's petty dislike.
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Even though you did not stated what have been bothering you, still, I understand you. I've already felt that feeling and I know how hard it is to be in a situation like yours. I have felt that before for months. And it drove me insane. You know, I felt like it was the end of the world. But later on, all of my depressions got a solution. What I can advice you is to PRAY. Keep praying for prayers can move mountains. And remember that every problem has its solution. Keep smiling! :)
• India
6 Sep 09
me upset only when i get hurt by one who is close to me.otherwise i rarely upset.