What will you tell a friend who has been diagnosed with a fatal illness?
By suesan35
@suesan35 (478)
Sri Lanka
September 6, 2009 1:11am CST
If a very close friend of yours has been diagnosed with a fatal disease what would you tell her? Will you console her and tell her that the Doctor is stupid and does not know what he's saying or help her to face the inevitable while at the same time try to cope with the devastating news yourself?
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@AmbiePam (92803)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I definitely wouldn't dispute the doctor's diagnosis, although it is always a good idea to get a second opinion from another doctor. I would just be there to listen to her. To cry with her, hold her hand...And it is never wrong to share your sad feelings with a person. Saying how difficult it will be to lose her is something that is best shared- to let her know just how much she will be missed, if she does indeed pass on. And of course, I'd do a lot of praying. For a miraculous healing, and for comfort for all involved.
@suesan35 (478)
• Sri Lanka
7 Sep 09
That's lovely ambiepam. Yes of course, one just cannot ignore a second or third diagnosis, and if it's final, well you have to face it and have faith in prayer. In the meantime, all you can do is be there for her and help her overcome her own fears and sadness right to the end. Thank you my dear.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Good morning Sue, i think u just have to be honest w/her & help her in any way u can to face this horrible news. I have a good friend that is on her 2nd round of brain cancer so i know exactly what u are talking about. They just need all the support u can give them in any way u can give it. I wish u & her both luck.
@suesan35 (478)
• Sri Lanka
7 Sep 09
Dear antiquelady, how sad for your friend and you. When theres nothing you can tell them to change the situation all you can do is be with them and give them courage and show them love I suppose. What else can one do? I hope your friend will have better news soon. Take Care.
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
6 Sep 09
I will try to accompained him all the way until the end of his life and try to make him happy as i believe this is what i would want if i am dying yea .
@suesan35 (478)
• Sri Lanka
6 Sep 09
Hi Sir_bobby: that topic is rather morbid isn't it? But a friend of mine had to face this situation and she just didn't know what to do. I suppose you yourself has to be very strong and not show the extent of your misery. Your comment shows that you will be a good friend to the last but I wonder how many can do that? thanks for your response and have a great day.
