How to help daughter to choose right friends/boyfriend ???

Hi, for handling such situations we should ensure that our childrens are aware of right and wrong things. We should teach them and make them aware of the things time to time. Whenever they are doing something wrong, instead of yelling at them and shouting, we should tell them politely and with love. Because the childrens at these age are very sensitive. We should gain their confidence by letting them know that whatever we are doing as parents is for their benifits only. They may feel wrong at this time but will surely feel good for the same in future. And it totally depends on parents how they tackle such things.

there isnt much you can do, you just have to hope the daughter was taught the right things from her parents. but you can help by telling her about "red flags" or bad things that can come up during any point in the relationship. like if he does or says something to her that seems too good to be true, it probably is. or if he is promising her nice things, and a good life or whatever, that can lead to her trusting him TOO much, and he knows that he's doing this, so he can get her to willingly run away with him so he can later have his way with her. ESPECIALLY if he is violent or too physical and doesnt respect her boundaries if she says no. its sad, but its hard to see whats really going on when youre in the situation. it may be easier for someone else to see that hes up to no good. you can help by telling the girl that its good to be picky in a guy and that there are more fish in the sea. she doenst have to settle for the first or second guy that tries to swoop her off her feet.

Wow! I have not heard any stories about these situations! But that is defeniatly no good! I would never run away with a guy like that! Whether or not he's a good guy, disappearing and leaving everyone else you love means that you don't have a healthy relationship. You defeniatly don't want to go over a line and get in your daughters personal space, but communicate with her! Talk to her like a friend, don't make it like a lecture--don't even make it seem like you're trying too hard. Make sure SHE knows that you are okay with her going out, and let her know that if she feels comfortable with it, you'd like to meet her boyfriend. Never try to control what she does, that will just upset her and she'll think that running away would be better! If she's happy with you and feels like she has freedom she won't see any reason too! Good luck!

i think as parnets we cant pick thier friends and b/f. but we can teach them that they should never worry about changing themself to make friends, but thier own self and that a b/f should treat them very well. also dont allow the b/f to control them and make then do things they dont want too

I think this problem is commonly happened to parents who their daughter is getting adult. The best way to teach our daughter how to find the right friends or boyfriend is by telling her about others experiences who had bad experienced with male friends. This is very important because we can tell her as case study on a fact, not fiction. Perhaps we will find difficulities on the first time when we tell her about this story, but as time goes by, i believe she can understand and she will follow our suggestion. No one want to be hurt, and no one want suffering on pains. Sometimes probably our daughter would got hurt by a boy, perhaps her boyfriend flirting, etc. I don't hoping such thing happened to our daughter, but if such thing really happened to her, probably that is the right moment to approaching our daughter feeling as show her about our care and attention to her and tell her slowly about how to be more selective when choosing a boyfriend or even friends. We know that teenager usually won't hear our advice when they are in good condition. It's a good luck if we can have children who will always listen and following our suggestion and advice. But on certain children, they usually won't hear their parents until something bad really happened to them. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.

No idea what the first phrase means. How to help? I suggest you let her choose her friends. Then ask her to introduce them by inviting them over. Then you check them out =D

In my own experiences, it's not easy to distinguish the good andd the bad guys. For a going-out in the evening, a good guy will ask you at what time you have to go home, and he'll take you home on time, without trying to delay. But the bad guys never care about it, even when the girl says that she has to go home, these guys will try to persuade that it's still very soon, and that the girl is old enough to go home late.

hello kanukrishna, having a teenagers is really hard. i mean, i have three teenagers now, two boys and a girl. keep on reminding them that they need to prioritize their studies. just okey to have friends but they need to choose them. having boy/girlfriends is a no no for now for they need to focus to their studies. good thing they are open to us. they are bringing their friends in the house and i think that is better for we'll know and be able to meet them. just keep on reminding them what they need to do and what not to do.

I think you can't make your kids choose a friend or you can't choose for her either. it is depend on her... and how well you treat your children. If you treat her well and teach her well... what should and what should not then she will know a lot better who she should be with. Now day, it is hard to deal with this but as parents, we should try our best to protect and hope they make the right choose. One main thing that I want to do are a good listen for my kids and be there for them. then they will feel comfortable to tell me everything

hi kanu fill really bad to head about this. I think if your doughtor/son feels friendly environment from your side. They will definately tell you averytng and not hide anythig from you. But just now she requires your moral support & if possible register complaint against those guys. Regards Viki

It is a big question to me, I have two daughters, although it is a little bit early to think it over. I will definitely face the question in future.

There is no right or wrong way. The important thing is that you have taught your daughter you values and these values will guide her to make the right choices. Tell her to follow her insticts and look out for the "red flags". She may stumble along the way (like all of us do) but she will learn from her mistakes and make better choices in the future.

Honestly, you can't choose your daughters friends or boyfriends. That's her decision. All you can do is to teach her the right things in life. Try to show her real men around her. But you cannot choose anything for her. That is her life, not yours. You just have to set good examples and teach well.