Who Gives Who Away?

Yes I am so glad that we didn't hear the sound of crickets chirping, though I know your mom, my grandmother, and my father knew to say "we do"... I don't know that I told my mom, but I'm pretty sure I did. I think that it was definitely something different, but it was also a nice little tradition too, so I wanted to do that, and I felt it made our unity more profound for lack of a better word.

Yeah it would have been embarrassing to say the least if we had heard crickets chirping out in the audience,but at least at least a few people did know to say we do,and I agree it did add to the unity candle,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day, good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting Baby.

I'm glad you've heard about it, I wasn't sure how many had heard of it. Of course we're going to have a unity candle as well but that will be after (not immediately after) he asks who gives us away! It's unique, and it really does unify the family in a way that the unity candle doesn't. The unity candle unites (and gives permission) the bride and groom to their parents... Of course we use the candle of our respective parents then blow it out. We cleave unto each other, rather then to our parents.

The unity candle is a great way to show that as well. My fiancee and I are thinking of doing a sand ceromony instead of the candle to show our unity.

I think I have heard of not saying "congrats" to a bride to be. I can see where it sounds like luck to have gotten a man, so thanks for the wishes instead! lol! I thought it was unique and kind of cool, very cute too! I hope it makes an impression and our families will talk about it for awhile! I have a cousin who's getting married a week afterwards, who knows, if my fiance and I aren't working or too busy to attend, we may go and hear the same thing at theirs! lol! Well I appreciate the response.

It seems as if Traditional Weddings aren't as common as they used to be so the roles of the families aren't the same either. At our wedding the pastor asked both families who gives us away, lol....

My husband and I thought it was a very nice concept, and we think that it went off without a hitch. Everyone answered because the pastor worded it in such a way that there wasn't any confusion. We were happy to have added that in the ceremony.

Exactly, it includes the rest of the family and not just my father, or are parents like the unity candle itself will do. I am glad that new traditions are coming forth, though the old tradition is not bad either. In this way though the family will feel special, they'll have their special moment (and shock) at our wedding day! We've told his mom, my mom, and my grandmother about how the pastor will ask... Now we've just got to hope our families won't be too shocked to answer! Though we joke that they may not answer anyway!

cowgirl..now you don't worry about that. Im sure that it will go okay...just think what the topic will be at your wedding. I think it will be just wonderful. Make sure to let us know how it turned out. I really like that ideal..You have a nice day..

I am sure that it will go okay, after all the few that know will lead if no one else says anything, again I hope... but I know there's nothing to be worried about now, and shouldn't be at the actual wedding. You have a nice day!

Either I am confused, or I've confused you! lol! I am talking about during the ceremony itself not before the engagement begins! In the USA, though I think more so in other countries around the world, the groom to be would ask the father in law to be if he could take the lady's hand in marriage... but no I am talking about during the ceremony itself. It is common for the bride's father to be asked by the pastor who gives this woman (bride, name of bride) away? and the bride's father to say "I DO, or "the father" or "the dad" and something I've left out in other responses but now remember that the pastor also said is that the father will sometimes say "Her family does"... Well instead of my dad solely answering, the family itself will answer, and then the pastor will ask the groom's family. I know it's not traditional, and there's nothing wrong with keeping tradition. I rather like the old tradition but really liked the idea of both of our families giving their blessing for our marriage. Did I explain that better? I am sorry if I have confused you! Have a wonderful day, Happy Mylotting.