Why do people get so defensive when someone disagrees with them?

I always hope that, if you disagree explaining why, it can help both party to reach a new, wider agreement.

i think they get so defensive because they think that they have a valid point and if the other person is wrong then they would feel that if he is not going to put his point then he will not be able to sleep on that day. lol that may be ego as well.

This is because people have this universal need to be accepted. Many people have a hard time accepting that rejection of their ideas or opinion does not mean rejecting them as a person. Those who have experience rejection many times in their lives have the most difficulty accepting more rejections, even if it only mean their opinions. They also find it difficult to relate to people.

it is because he likes to stand pat on what he believes. well, each one has his own beliefs and opinions and this should remind them that each of us is unique.

Because some people are mean when they give out criticisms.

People like acceptance instead of rejection. Disagreements mean some kind of rejection, which makes people embarrassed and annoyed. One's manner to a voice of disagreement represents his upbringing.

hi jen14ed hatley here.that is what I have been wondering since I first started on my lot.a discussion should be about all our different views. not cussing but discussing and not getting angry because someone does not Agree with you.would not the world and'mylot be awfully dull if we all agreed on everything? it would get' boring indeed. All we need is just to respect each others rights'to their own view point. I dont dis you and you dont dis me when we disagree on something.