Discipline.....To spank or not to spank.

I believe in spanking. We are expecting our first child in a few months and I do plan to spank my child if it is needed. When I was younger, my mother used the belt to spank us and we turned out just fine! When she was a child, they had to pick switches off of a tree to get spanked with and they turned out fine. Where was the government then? I'm sure you know of or have heard similar stories. I do believe there is a difference in spanking and violence. Violence should be punished; however, spanking should not. I feel that the government should be worried about more important issues and not so much about trying to teach us how to raise our children.

I think people really need to do their research on spanking and how spanking truly is NOT the best punishment for children. I think people need to realize that spanking actually has quite a few negative effects on children that people tend to gloss over. Spanking kids teaches them that spanking/hitting is OK and an effective way to solve problems. Kids that are spanked tend to have MORE problems than kids that aren't. It's quite intersting. Look it up you might be surprised yourself. I think the government needs to step forward and push families into a more positive form of parenting instead of a form of parenting that is based upon fear with the kids always being afraid that mom or dad is going to haul off and hit a kid if they screw up. The people that claim they are truly OK after being spanked are lying. After researching this independently, it's funny how people really remember down to the last detail about all the times they were spanked, how much it hurt, how scared they were of mom and dad, that kind of thing. Those people truly hate and resent their parents for that type of behavior but because they grew up in a family that pushes the idea of spanking, they end up spanking their kids because of pressure and because they can't see any other way of disciplining their kids. If parents aren't going to take the initiative to move away from smacking their kids around, someone has to push the idea. It's not right to hit your kids at all. Why do parents think it's OK to smack their kids around, but it's not ok for a boyfriend or a husband to smack his girlfriend around??

I am against beating the children. If not well controlled, it might even lead to injuries, and it will be passed on generation by generation. Spanking is easy, but its negative effect is hard to erase.

Not sure I can agree in the spanking of any child...unless it is a tender pat on the behind, displaying the dissaproval of the wrong action of a child. But it should be no more than that. Spanking can destroy a child's self esteem and cause great damage to the mind of the young ones. Communicating - giving them time out - simply saying "no" and sticking to it - taking privileges away - should be enough discipline that a child needs...and as a parent you would be respected for it, by your child.

To spank a child would breed violence in the fragile mind of the child.He would think that to hurt someone is the only way to have things properly manage.Lets not resort to any physical form of disciple. We could talk to them to let them understand well what should be their behavior in certain things. Children usually do their things. Thats part of their growing up. They explore everything not knowing they go beyond what should not be done.But if spanking is really unavoidable let them know what are the reasons for such action.So that it will clearly be installed in their mind that they are not being hurt for nothing.

Ah, spanking... something that I never thought I'd admit- it works! As a child, I was always spanked. Well, not ALWAYS, but when my sister and I were bad. My dad would get out his leather belt and spank us til we cried! It was horrible! Now, though, I see that it did simply punish us! He never got violent, just spanked us, left a red mark, and it was done. We never bruised. The problem though, is when the government can't really say what physical punishment is too much. If they say that you're allowed to physically punish your kids, some parents will take that too far. So, they say no physical punishment. Everyone does it though, it's just when certain parents take it too far that it becomes a problem. There is a difference between spanking your kid and beating them, and if everyone was allowed to physically punish their kids, everyone would translate the meaning a different way.

I believe that we dont need to spank a child to make him listen to us.... we can try other ways, but spanking should be avoided as much as possible.... but its the thing I only believe because I have to spank my son sometimes to get his attention, but I really feel guilty about it, as I said I dont like to spank kids....

The question is when and how to discipline (spank) your child. When is discipline of the rod appropriate? How do you discipline without damaging the child's self-esteem? I think the very near answer is we need to use the discipline of the rod when our child challenge us defiantly. tho this it is important to win the battle the child chooses to initiate. but how you triumph over your child's defiance is of utmost importance. even in a young child, the will is an iron beam within the structure of human personality. Yet, the will is malleable. It can be molded and polished. In contrast, the child's spirit and morale is a fragile vase. As it relates to the child's sense of personal worth. The task of parent is using the rod is to shape the will of his child while protecting his spirit and morale (self esteem.

When we are younger my mother spanks us if we are naughty but she choose where she spanks us whether in the butt or in our hands. I believe in spanking because sometimes children didn't listen or afraid to their parents. It should be done properly not too much because it is consider child battery. I know that in the US spanking is not allowed but I think there's nothing wrong if you spank your children to discipline them.

I spanked our kids and they turned out fine. Sons to be proud of. I tried the 'noncorporal punishment' route....yeah. THAT didn't work! They just used the time out to plan more mischief. If the government wants to step in and keep parents from spanking kids, then THEY should have to have them live at THEIR houses for a couple of weeks! Some kids I see nowadays should be taken behind the woodshed with a switch!

Spanking is a necessity when all the other means of discipline fail. It should follow a serious warning and should not be excessive. A couple of whacks on the bottom have not hurt anyone. What should follow is telling the child what brought about it and reconciliation by the way of love. Once the child understands that there can be pain at the end of the tunnel of mischief, it is not likely to repeat it. As far the Government is concerned if spanking a child is to be banned, then why punish the criminals? Both are in effect same.

i exercise extreme tolerance but when everything is exhausted, i give my child a slight spanking, just to remind him that he cannot get whatever he wants. personally, it is one way of disciplining a child.