How long would it take for you to confront your mate with infidelity?
By Realsmack
@Realsmack (155)
United States
September 7, 2009 3:59pm CST
I've been dealing with my friend and her cheating mate for about 2 months now. I've dealt with all the crying, spying and anger and I'm about fed up with the entire situation. I'm not trying to rain on the girl's parade but at the same time I think that it's about time she go ahead and step up her game and confront her usband about his cheating ways. I'm pretty sure she isn't going to leave him but how long is she going to drag this out?
I've been in this situation and me personally all I need is conceret evidence and I'm done searching. Continuing to drag the situation on is only going to spark more hurt, so why do it?
How long would it take for you to confront your mate with their infidelity? Would you drag it out until you were satisfied with the evidence or would one piece of evidence be enough for you? Would you not say anything at all or would it be the first thing that comes up at the dinner table?
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4 responses
@standbymeforever (887)
• Australia
7 Sep 09
Wow, well if someone was cheating on me r one of my friends I would confront them rigth away. you shouldnt beat around the bush. Stand up for yourself or them and tell the person the you are not going to take this bull and either leave them or try to work it out. If they were to do it a second time definitely dump their a**. I have been cheated on in the past before and I have confronted the person right away and ended the relationships because I cant deal with or stand cheaters. If you or someone is being cheated on just tell the other person that you know and that you wont due with their ways.
@Realsmack (155)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I'm in agreement with what you said. Everyone has their way of dealing with things. Some people are more tolerant when it comes to cheating but it all depends on how you deal with it and confront it.
I'm going to be honest, my husband and I had a situation where I caught him doing something that he shouldn't have been doing and it was a difficult situation to address. But the difference between him and a lot of other men is that he was actually remorseful about what he had done. It took him a long time to get back in my good graces but you best believe that he worked his butt off to make it up and get me to trust him again.This situation happened 3 years ago and I can be the one to tell you that I have one of the best men in the world. It took him almost losing what he loved to figure out what it is he had.
Sometimes this is the case, sometimes we have to almost lose the most important thing in our lives to realize just how important it is to us. Not every cheater deserves to be ditched.But like I said everyone has a different tolerance. He knows that cheating will not be tolerated and nor will it be forgiven again.
Every love is different but love can definately conquer the worst, if it's genuine.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
right away..
i am already angry.
now wait... maybe after i have a solid evidence and that would not surely take me long to get hold of that. i should not be dragging things, the more the delay the more miserable i think i will be.
i am already angry.
now wait... maybe after i have a solid evidence and that would not surely take me long to get hold of that. i should not be dragging things, the more the delay the more miserable i think i will be.
@Realsmack (155)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Thats exactly what I am trying to tell her. She is only making it worse for herself. She knows that she has enough to confront him with. But it's like she isn't convinced or something. I'm not sure what she needs to convince herself but she really needs to let it go and prepare to handle the situation head on.
@neededhope (1085)
• United States
8 Sep 09
If my husband was cheating on me and my friend had proof. I would first not tell him that I know. Actually I would get some money saved on the side. If i wasn't working I'd save some of the money he bought home on the side. Made sure I had enough. And than comfronted him. Because if I just felt like I hated him and I just want to beat the crap out of him. Instead of doing that. i would move on with my life. But during that time i would not have s.ex with him at all. I maybe a bit cold to him. But I would look out for my own benefit and not his. And leave his butt in the cold.
Me if he's cheating that's it we are done. Game Over!!
@Realsmack (155)
• United States
8 Sep 09
You go girl, you sound like myself. That is something women should really take into account. IF your man is cheating and you know you aren't going to be able to work through it together. Then save up some money because you are going to need it when you walk out that door. There are women who can take mjor tips from you!
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I think it would take some time to confront someone when their partner is cheating. I think you should get some evidence first and then present it to your friend when you're alone and when you have some time on your hands. You can also hire a private investigator to help you look for clues and your friend will definitely thank you in the end.
@Realsmack (155)
• United States
8 Sep 09
She already knows he is cheating, I've just been the partner in the whole thing. She knows she needs to say something she just wants to gather as much as she can but I don't think she needs to go any further. She has enough in my eyes.
