she BRAGGED the whole night...
By patofgold23
@patofgold23 (5069)
Philippines
September 7, 2009 7:13pm CST
my old classmate went to town for a visit. she called everybody, and got hold of my number from another classmate. I was surprised to get a call from her. She told me how much she misses me and how long it had been since the last time we saw each other and wants to know how's everything. She invited many of us to this place and promised to pay for everything. My car is in the shop so I told her I will try, but then she offered to pick me up. So I got dressed and came with her.
I was excited to see so many of my old classmates, and realized how much time had passed. Wow 15 years since I graduated from high school... so many have changed... their looks, their status, their lives..
Now my friend here, who is now a doctor, and married another doctor too started talking about how successful she is now, and was able to buy nice cars, and travled to this place and that...
When she started that, some of my classmates started bragging about what they have achieved in life too..and it had been all about bragging and bragging about money, and cars, and houses, etc... NON_STOP! One after another...
I was laughing deep inside at how everybody was trying to outdo the other...
If I only had my car with me I could have left early and have done something more worthy of my time...
I would have been happier if I was mylotting that time...
but then, I had to wait for everybody... She has to take me home...and I don't wanna ruin everybody's night.. so I listened to theig outrageous stories,,
I have made a few achievements in my life but it's reallly not as much as they have..or say they are... so i have little to share and just listened the whole night.
I told them about my life, and how we manage to get by and have a few savings..but is struggling to earn more so I can give my son a better life...
But some of my classmates are not married and don't have kids yet so they have made a huge jumpstart in their lives and I'm happy for them...
I did not feel that they were rubbing it on my face though, but it was kinda annoying somehow...
When I was finally taken home... Believe it or not---i felt so tired!!!! To think I was just sitting the whole night and listening!
But okay, I had a wonderful dinner! LOLZ!
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51 responses
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
oh some of your high school friends are like that too?
I though about it again and I was laughing and can't believe i lasted the night!lolz
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
if you have an idea how's it gonna turn out..and it's not anything exciting..better not!
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@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
8 Sep 09
Well, some people define their success by the amount of money or material things that they have in the bank.
Sounds like your reunion ended up being like a pi$$ing contest. I tend to just listen because I laugh deep inside thinking how shallow they can be.
On one hand, I can understand that their achievements were not just a fly by night thing because after all, they must've worked for it but I would have more respect for them had they been more humble about their achievements.
It's nice that you don't feel the need to brag. It just shows that you're secured with yourself and with what you have. I would've done the same thing you did. Just let them out do each other. That itself is entertaining enough because people like that always have a lot to say about how great theyre doing.
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
no one could have said it better rg...
i am truly happy for them...but the need to brag about what they have or achieved was unnecesary...
but I didn't let it ruiin my night... i tried to enjoy myself no matter what..the food was great.. I let them be...
I never though the night would end,but it did! whew thank god!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
8 Sep 09
At least you found a way to have fun hehehe but I understand. It was one of those "I wish time would fly quicker" moments.
Well, if your "friend" is a doctor, good for her. Seems a bit immature though to be bragging about it. Then again, school doesn't teach you to be humble, right?
Oh, least the food was great LOL
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
If ever I'd get into such a bragging occasion, I guess I'd just be quiet myself. Even though I don't seem to have anything to brag about, I would just try to listen to everyone's so called achievements. I'd be honest with what I have done and be proud about some of them. I might be even sarcastice in recognizing their own achievements to the extent of making a couple of people laugh.
Meeting up with those that you have known, you would get to see if they have changed or just changed superficially. I have always been quiet with my batch mates during high school so they'd still expect that from me. And I'd be giving out remarks tha would throw them off every now and then which how I was back then.
Well, like how you mentioned on the last part, even though its just some bragging occasion, I wouldn't pass up a wonderful dinner. I might even ask if I could pack some back home.. (^_^ )
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
If everyone would be there, I guess me and those that I use to be with would group together again. Talk about the common things that we all know about and see if we guys improved. I am not really competitive but, I will if I can out do some braggart. One of the things that I am proud of would be speaking English so.. well, not that I want to show off but, that's just something that I know pretty well that I am good at.
Long time.. how I wonder how I would be by the time our reunion comes.. 
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
i'll keep my fingers crossed for you ratyz!
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
oh i haven't thought of that ratyz!!! tsk tsk tsk!!!
lolz... that was good enough for a free dinner... i don't wanna be called a spoilsport too if i don't ... that was 15 years since i graduated form higcome... we haven't seen each other for sooooo long that was 15 years since i graduated form high school...
that was kinda traumatic though LOLZ!!! i'm so glad i made it through the might
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Hello my friend 
I felt like I was there with you lol you have just as much to be proud of you have a great career your only issue is that you are in the wrong place so she Doctor you Nurse where she work at? maybe she can help you out with a better job 
does she work in your area? you have her number give her a call she likes to brag let her brag about helping find a good job 
sounds good to me my friend what do you think?
I felt like I was there with you lol you have just as much to be proud of you have a great career your only issue is that you are in the wrong place so she Doctor you Nurse where she work at? maybe she can help you out with a better job does she work in your area? you have her number give her a call she likes to brag let her brag about helping find a good job sounds good to me my friend what do you think?@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hello there my friend kitty...
her mom is a doctor too that's why i guess she decided to be one...
they were already rich when we were in high school coz they own a small facility in their place...but it is very remote and it's one place I would never consider traveling to just to work...
but they have a good life...
she is a good friend of mine in high school...
it's just the night was all about everybody's achievements...
but i enjoyed the food lolz!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hi there Kitty...their place is not a very safe place..it's not worth risking my life for...
it is not anywhere i can travel in the morning and come home to my son the next day...
i have other plans, though honestly am still torn about what to do... my future plans are huge (moving to your country)...and it is somehting i have to prepare myself and my son for...
for now, i am happy about things...but thanks a lot friend friend..I know you want what's best for me..i truly appreciate that...
it's just different how things are here...
having a son and raising him alone makes decisions difficult...coz i always have to consider him first..
job is difficult where i live..that is why i now ended up working from home and making money from small businesses...
but moving to a different place is a big decision too, and i couldnt afford to get a house wherevr we will move..where we are right now may not be the best place, condition and situation..
but it's what works for now...
@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Accomplishments are really best seen through the eye of the beholder. I think all our accomplishments in life are relative to our life situations. I look at my children and see two wonderful boys who get to learn all about the world around them, and that is satisfying to me. I can't imagine a trip to London, or a fancy cruise in the South Pacific would ever compare to what I see each and every day in my own life.
Sure, I wonder what it would be like if my husbands band, Shy Green, took off and made it big. If they went from playing in dingy bars around the area to huge venues with thousands of people dancing happily around. Life would be quite different from what I have now, that's for sure.
But, to be so self centered and only able to build myself up to everyone around. I can't imagine that in a million years. I would say; take everyone out to dinner, have some drinks, drive around in a limo. That all sounds like a blast. I can imagine some pretty awesome conversation starting given those circumstances. I think I would want to seize the moment, with my old classmates, and learn something new from each other.
I hope the dinner left you satisfied, and complete with your own surroundings!
Peace
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hi there joydee...
my old classmates eanred their success though and i guess they want to be recognized, i understand that...kinda a little annoying though lolz...
It is good to think how life would have been different if things were done differently..like you said what it would have been if your husband's band took off big...
but i'm pretty sure,like everybody else, we are hapy where we are right now... I am ... coz we can make our worlds perfect in our own ways
@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Well said! I am completly happy with all I have in this life. I can't wait to see what the years will bring for my future and for my families future! It is easy to feel blessed when you can get up each day and put a smile on your face!
@TheAmilet (52)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
patofgold.do not go out with them again..thwey are not nice to be around with.,..they sound like they are self centered...i do not want to be freinds with that kind of people
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
8 Sep 09
You know, bragging is one of the prime reasons (no, only reason maybe) why I avoid reunions. I have nothing to show for myself while most of my friends (at least the ones that come to reunions) seems to have done extremely well for themselves…they have even managed to marry the right guy (financially) while I have failed in that respect too!
Deep inside me, I know what my values stand for and what my aim in life is, I remember the times when food was scare at our in-laws house and how hubby and me struggled to bring home the basic necessities and then some little joy, too. I know that what these girls are bragging about ultimately does not matter but they just leave a bad taste in my mouth and a speck of doubt in my heart. Somehow I feel like a complete loser…even for marrying a poor guy who is otherwise my best(est) friend and the best thing to have happened in my life. I take days to recover and be my happy self…so I know exactly what you mean though you were wise enough not to fall for that trap.
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Remember..just because they were all bragging doesn't mean they are truly happy with their life. I'd rather be poor and happy than rich, successful and unhappy.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I didn't wanna think they were rubbing it on my face that they are far better off than i am..coz maybe some are..but I would never trade places with any of them coz I am happy with everything I am and everything I have right now.
if they feel they are better off than me in some ways, let them think so. I am happy with my son, and we are getting by. I just don't have so so much.
It just kinda annoyed me how it ruined a wonderful evening whre we're all suposed to reminisce and have fun...
the dinner was the only thing i enjoyed..besides the great food, it was free too.lolz
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
of course i want to be rich black.. but if it means i would be unhappy,,,i'll just stay where I am now...
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
besides, the measure of our happiness is our own perception... we could choose to be happy or not with what we have and where we are now... if we don't then we will be miserable...
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Hi there sissy!I don't let other people make me feel small. No matter how much they achieved in their life... I am okay where I am..no matter how imperfect my life is...
yea..it's nice to have the things thhey have...but if it means to trade lives with any of them,,,no way.
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Pat, what do you mean by bragged? Is that negative or positive? Well that is life was all about, even if you always fail or succeed, you are stills surviving and living. I am happy that you got to see your long lost classmates during highschool, did everyone change physically? Me, when we had our reunion, I was shock ofhow they looked like now. Some of my male classmates are bald and their six packs are gone, large tummy was left. The famous ones were stil famous at the reunion. I was still the average. Pat, I know you just enjoy your meal, but still be thankful that you are there once in a lifetime event. hahahaha. Have a nice day!
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Now i know the meaning of what happened to you, they bragged about what beautiful life they have now? I am seeing the same picture in our last reunion.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi there my friend! you are so right about the "once in a lifetime"... coz I don't think I would ever go out with them again...
unless if they promise me they would stay humble the whole night...lolz!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I think this is how people are after not having to see each other a long time, they'd always want to be the best or most successful in the end.
I've heard of countless success stories and nobody would ever admit they are bankrupt or have been scammed or something negative, they always want to be on the pedestal, and usually those who are absent are the ones these groups talk about negatively.
Anyhow, that usually happens after high school. But after a few more years, the need for attention by bragging slowly fades away, until you find yourselves noticing that more and more of your colleagues are dying, that's the time you'd realize that there's no more need to brag because after all, life isn't a contest on anything but how you lived it.
That's what my grandmother told me, she was never successful in terms of material possessions, finances, and status. But due to her humility, she has gathered a lot of friends who'd like her to be there in their reunions, not because she has a lot to say, but because she'd rather dance and party than talk about people's lives.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
There's what you call 'doctor's pride' my family has that, so I know what it means to want to be recognized like that hehee.. I know it should need to be, but I guess they feel people should recognize them. A pity though, coz they don't need to do so in the first place.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hi there laydee..
my doctor friend..i must admit she is really doing great...if if she don't brag about it..she has what she says she has.. i guess she wants to be recognized... no body appreciates her maybe and she feels th need to be.
as for the others,i am not sure about their stories...
I never wanted to put up with any of them and went on and enjoyed my dinner...
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
yeah..i feel sorry she has to do that...
she may have the money...but she sure needs the reassurance
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Bragging is why high school graduates have class reunions, and also to see how much the other person has increased in weight and how they've aged.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
LOlz... i think you said it just right there 6precious....
I just gave you the BR!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
A nice experience my friend. Happy to read your story my friend. This really a great things if your classmates share their achievement in life and their success. Have a nice day!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Your very lucky to have a classmate like them. They can't forget even do they reach success in life.
Glad to talk to you again, my dearly friend. Your such really great! Hope we always be talk and exchanging ideas in here.
Will support you always my friend...take care
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
o yeah i am happy for them aerous (they didnt need to brag about it thoguh LOLZ)...
hey thanks for coming by...
glad to see you a lot around here!
take care my dear freind!
happy mylotting!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
you know my friend..i admire you...you really have a good heart..i know that as you always see the positive side of things...you are a positive person..and you should keep it up..it brings about good aura!
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I've been around people like that. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt that they are just proud of what they've achieved and want to share their successes with you, but it does get a little annoying. I'm more the type of person that if you ask, I will tell you, but I don't like to blow my own horn. Sorry about your class mates, maybe things will be better at your 20 year reunion.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
sure is great to see old friends...it's been a while..
the lip-flap was what i didnt like
but i'm fine... i surely enjyed the food!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
honstly i am happy for them yeah... but i didn't feel the need to brag... it don't much to see they're doing okay...
so it was a little annoying..but it's fine...i enjoyed the food!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
exactly sage..i was hoping more we would take about the kids..or our high school days...
i totally wasted one whole night of mylife..i could have done better things than listening to them talk about how much money they have,,
but thanks for the dinner...that was good!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
hey..you know what? you're actually right! not bad after all LOLZ!
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Get togethers like this are sooooo boring for me that I won't even go to my own reunions. Next time, take a book to read so you won't feel so tired.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hey thanks for the advise black..but i doubt if there ever will be a next time.. I might change my numbers LOLZ!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
14 Sep 09
Hello patofgold. I can understand how your old classmates bragged about the achievements they have made. So it is the same with my old classmate, who told me that he is now headmaster of a private high school and is making a lot more money than I am making. I don't mind what they brag because when old classmates get together, it is time for them to show themselves off. But I am sorry to say that I have nothing to show off. I am just so ordinary a person.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
it kinds annoyed me how everyone was trying to outdo one another... sounds so shallow to me... i do feel though tht thay might want to recognized or assured in a wasy..and it's apity how they have to brag to get the recognition... but i ws sure glad to see them..and for the great dinner..lolz!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 09
hi patofgold23 well I am glad for your friends but why do people'always have to brag dont they know others already
know they are successful? What they were all trying to'
do out doing each other is pure oneupsmanship. wow. Why
not talk about something else instead of the bragging.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hey hat...
well one started it... so i guess nobody wants to be left behind lolz!!!
i was eating, and eating while they were talking and talking...
that was okay, a little annoying though lolz!
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
15 Nov 09
People tends to do it nowadays, at work, people bragged about what they done before, and no one ever beats that. Some people simply want to show off without quality. Well, I simply laugh it away and shrug my shoulders off. I don't intend to associate with people like that.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
hi there jdy!!
i really believe the success or failure of a person depends on his or her own perception of happiness...\if for me being happy and succssful emans having happy kids... enough money and peaceful life...then i believe i have made great success...
if you choose not to be hapy with the things you have and where you are now..then you would be miserable.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
this is one reason why i hated going to reunions; not that i felt like I would be lagging behind. I too have achieved much for myself as they do too. It is just that bragging about the wealth you have would start bring up others' wealth as well; hence it is not such healthy topic. It might even end up for some others to pity themselves.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
yea..it kinda ruin the essence of being together after all these years...
not all of my old classmates are like that though...
@fan_philo (227)
• India
19 Sep 09
At least u had a wonderful dinner if i was in u r place i think i would have selt off lol.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
too bad i didn't have a car that time...
i had to wait for everybody and enjoy myself...lolz.....
besides i dont want them to think i'm rude...
