Do we need a relationship to be happy?
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (166718)
Boise, Idaho
September 8, 2009 12:18am CST
Is a relationship with someone else whether it is our biological family or our husband a necessity for us to be happy and fulfilled? Or are some of us actually happier on our own?
9 responses
@nearpoint (33)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I have been a lone wolf most of my life. I am comfortable with my own company.
I have been in a relationship and I have lived by myself. I find that having a person around makes life more enjoyable. I didn't say I need someone to live, survive, exist, etc., just to make life more enjoyable. Being able to talk to someone, do for another and of course intimacy are all part of being in a relationship and these qualities enhance our life. Of course, you need to take the time to find and cultivate a good relationship with someone who respects you as a person.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Sep 09
Yes, better choses I am sure. I would rather be alone and the ole lone wolf as you call it rather than in a relationship with someone who is disrespectful and/or self absorbed. And I would even rather spend time with afew rather than one if they were of good value and had qualities that would enhance time spent. I think I am begining to fall off the romance wagon and look more toward realism. Sad, but true.
@nearpoint (33)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Please don't fall off the romance wagon! Make sure you aren't confusing infatuation with real romance. Romance is one of the things that makes life wonderful. I went through 3 intense romantic relationships. When they failed, I told myself I was getting off the romance wagon. The 4th time I fell in love, it lasted 25 years! And it's still going strong. Be careful who you fall for but don't stop falling in love. That would be a shame.
@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Sep 09
I have had my family around me. I have had issues with them and co-dependency as well so I think me getting away atleast for awhile will be good for all of us. I hope as much for them as for me. And I am hoping I will have met some nice guy during the winter and then I will go meet him in the Spring. I am spending this nex six months doing some meditation, yoga, losing some weight, figuring out my make up, etc. It is sort of exciting. And if nothing else I will go travel somewhere. Who knows until I set out in March 2010! What an adventure, huh?
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Sep 09
I do believe that relationships help us to be so much happier. If I wasn't with my fiance, I don't think that I would be as happy as I am now. I don't know if I'd be miserable if I was alone, but there would definitely be something missing in my life if I didn't have the relationships that I have now. It just wouldn't be the same without these relationships, in my opinion.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Hey celtic! I have spent many years on my own, not in a
relationship and I was perfectly happy and content. I used
to go out with my girlfriends and go to restaurants, shopping
or whatever we wanted to do. I was still working then so I
was also content to just stay home on the weekends and relax!
You have to be happy with yourself before you can be with
someone else and I really needed to work on me! I have been
in too many really lousy relationships and found out that
I was much better being alone!
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Sep 09
For me I have been taking care of my daughter [due to her bi-polar disorder] and had guardianship of my granddaughter for 14 years and now am helping my daughter raise my grandson. This Spring I am venturing out to points and person unknown. I have been waiting along time. Was in a bad marriage and left it in 1996 so am ready to try again. I am one that wants this though. I didn't for a long time. I am a Scorpio and passion and romance run deep. We'll see what happens.
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
12 Sep 09
There are many factors involved. For instance if one is in good terms with the family members, then one would like to be in their company. There are people who don't prefer to be in a relationship. They become friends with whosoever they meet and are able to let go of them easily.
If a person gets what he wants then he/she will be happy. If a person is wants money and is getting it then he will happy with it.
So it depends on the person.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Sep 09
Yes, it very much depends on what makes aperson happy and what type of person you are. Thanks for your input.
@jenniely (41)
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12 Sep 09
In a relationship there is no such a happy ending. In our life we encounter problems and that is normal without problems or trials we can never be a better person or a strong person, sometimes it helps to feel sad life is boring when it's always happy no challenge at all. In order to be happy to something right to yourself and to others.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Sep 09
Has to be best for you or stress and real problems start up.
@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Sep 09
Yes, I agree. I hope I have that again with someone. It has been along time. Seperated from my husband in August 1996 and haven't had a close intimate and committed relationship with anyone since.
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
if you are an introvert and feel more good to be alone then maybe its not an issue.but if you are a person who is fun-loving and loves interactions with different people then i think you would probably prefer to be with somebody regardless if it is an intimate relationship or just pure friendship.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Sep 09
I agree totally. I am sort of both types but mostly introvertive. My emotions run so that I am not sure I could have just a friend or just a intimate relationship. Not sure. Hope to find out soon though.
@sage09 (35)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
As the song goes,no man is an island no man stands alone.Everybody needs and longs for a relationship.We are social beings by nature.It is programmed in our DNA to find company,friend,or just another person to be with.Even the most loner person longs for someone who would understand them.theyre just too shy to take the step in making friends thats why they end up alone.
