Confused with relationships.......

My father's brother is my sister's nephew who is the cousin to my mother's aunt and is also an uncle to my grandmother's cousin whose son is my daughter's niece... yep that's definitely a ball buster right there...

you got it right. relationships can be very confusing. but then that's just the beginning. just wait till when you come across their expectations. some of them can really be very demanding. good luck with relations (you will need that).

Gosh dbu! Ican't work that one out straight after lunch... but I have a question for you. If a couple marry then divorce, do they still remain related to their ex-spouce's family?

hi db. i know what you mean. sometimes, with a lot of relatives in one occasion gathers, you will not even who he or she is a relative. the best thing to do with it is just call them "kuya" or "tito for a male relative or "ate" or "tita" for a female relative. that's how we do it here in our place.

Hi dbu, by one chance relationship I am permanently stuck with alleged family members that no one can ever clearly explain to me why we are related. Try this one on for size and see if you can work it out, don't worry it's a short chain but does not make sense to me. My son's godmother has a husband who has a brother who has a best friend. Why am I now considered related to the best friend. I can understand the papers which show I'm now under Greek law related to my son's godmother and thence her husband, I can even accept that said husband's brother is now also related to me, alone with the other three brothers of the husband, but why the best friend of the husbands first brother?

Hi dbutheking This thing often happen to me too, especially when I attend party from my father's family. I really dont' know most of them, there are hundreds of mhy relatives and some of them I never talk before. I find it's difficult to remember each name and face when there are no longer communication with them. At first, I ask about the relationship too, but then I found it's useless! I won't be able to remember someone who never talk to me before and I know will rarely or never communicate with me after. I have two grandfather. One of them married twice, so I have 3 grandmother, 1 of them my step grandmother. Each of my grandmother have 8 or 9 children. Some of them married twice again, so I have step aunts. Some of them married once and have average 3 children, and some of them already have a granddaughter HOW can I know all of them? They spread anywhere and I don't think I can recognize if I meet one of them accidentally on the street,,hehehe. I rarely go to that kind of party, it makes me tired. Try to chat with unknown people and my parents sit in other parts of the room because have different "status" compared to me. Even the place to sit is arranged too. I don't like those kind of party. Only if it's placed near my home and I'm not busy I will go, even I only stand in that situation for maximum 3 hours. I only close with family from my mom's side, because they are not too many and none of them married twice or more. They only have 1 or 2 children too, and all of them live in the same island with me. Most family from my father's side live in different island.. Have a great day too

Sometimes having relatives is very confusing! I have one brother who married a woman, his second marriage (first one ended in divorce). The woman, his wife, has a daughter who is my brother's step-daughter. My brother loves her like a daughter and she loves him like a dad. The girl got married and had a baby. So then, what is my relationship to that baby I wondered. I was calling the girl, my brother's step daughter, my cousin but that is wrong. She would be my niece. Okay, so what about HER baby, I was thinking it was like a second cousin or second niece. Then someone told me no, the baby would be your great-niece. I don't think so but I have no idea. So yes, I can understand how your relatives relationships would be confusing or too complicated. I know mine sure as!

no, I didn't get that either - happily, none of my relationships are that intricate, they are either cousins or they aren't related

I get the point in your discussion here; sometimes when I relate to my own life, I myself am confused with certain status relationships in my family. Too complicated to go through. The idea is to get along well with one another, and a friendly encounter on the rare or regular occasions that we are able to get together. My best advice to myself and I think you can use this as a guide too: Don't try to figure it out, just go with the flow..

That would be really confusing. My family is not that big, I am sure there are distant relatives I don't know but I will probably never see them. I have one brother and one sister and 4 cousins on my mom's side, and 2 cousins on my dad's side, and 2 step cousins on my dad's side. Each of them have kids. They live in a different state than I do so I have met some of their kids but there are a couple that I have not met. I see one of my cousins once a year he comes here to visit. The last time I saw my other cousins was 3 years ago. I do occasionaly write to one of my cousins, and one of her sons who is closer to my age, because my cousin is about 10 years older than me. I have one living uncle on my mom's side and 1 living uncle by marriage on my mom's side, I saw him 3 years ago too, and then there is my parents, that is pretty much all the family I have left. Except for my two nieces and 2 nephews, and then there is my husband's family which is bigger than mine.

Yes the explanation you were giving got me confused too. I have to say I've never had a situation like this in my family xoxo Cyne

oh! so confusing indeed specially with all the relationship words roaming around. lol! our family is a big one also and i can still make it to my grandfathers relationship to us and our grandmothers and everything else, that is with my fathers side. while on my mothers side, i am not that too well known. but i love knowing why i am related to such people and persons and how we could just all connect to each other! jhelai

Wow.I am dizzy and confused.What a complicate relationships you have Lol.I try to figure out this.It's really need take time.Haha.Well.In my memories i don't have many complicate relative.I belive that i can recongize them.So i think it's a little kind of awkward if someone thought that you know him/her

I have the same issue. It's confusing like mother's cousin's son's grandson blah blah blah. I just think that okay, you're a relative. Period. Even if they tried to explain, sometimes I still don't get it because there are so many people in the family that I haven't even met. So if they say, I am the son/daughter of ______, I still wouldn't know. I just go, "oh okay".

my close family i have no problem with-it's the cousins i get confused with. the one part of the family there were 14 kids,72 grandkids and a few great grandkids,so exact order gets muddled after awhile.i usually have to guess by last name how they're related.

hi bdutheking oh I get confused once people tell me they are my'second cousin then someone else said I am your second cousin once removed, and here I was still trying to find'out'what second cousin meant as for removed that lost me completely.'I havent got many relativesleft and am only close now to my son and one cousin.

I have a pretty good handle on it. But I'm not actually in touch with too many distant relatives. We used to have a lot of family parties, but we've moved away from most of the relatives, so we don't see them that often any more.

Hi dbutheking, I always confused with this relative relationship source. I had a lot of people that knows me because of my parent and they always told me that they are related. The place where my parents live, almost everyone in the village are related. They prefer to married with someone from the same village and that why this family relation keep strong and stronger. But the young generation would prefer to travels and have married with someone from the other villages or states. The relationship will be more boarder and this will make some confusing when someone totally strange to you claim that they are related to you. By the way, I believe we are all sons and daughters of Adan and Eve. So, we are all related after all.

I do not know all of my relatives. Sometimes, I would just be surprised that a person would came to our house and my mother would tell me that that person is my aunt, uncle or cousin. I really am not very familiar withmy relatives since all of them reside in the province and we are residing at the city. I just go to province whenever I have time or during vacation. I love going there because it has fresh air unlike in the city. I have contacts with some of my relatives and I am close to some of them. I would want to know them more, though.

I am also confused with relationships many time i just go for any functions are to my native place i face this problem i can't get this relations , it is very difficult to get this relations for me