Are you a good Adviser or listener?

I am more of an adviser but i do listen to people and consider their advise.

Hello again dolmitta, I guess I am more of a listener than an adviser. But I do both role with my friends. When they have problems, I would just let them talk at first. I would let them put out all their rants, I would be listening patently. It's because some of the people would want to speak first before asking for advice, so if my friend ask for my advice that's the only time I would speak my thoughts. I just want to let my friends now, that I am always willing to listen to their problems. Have fun!

I am more of a listener than an advisor. Many of my friends and family members have given me the certificate that I am good listener. I advice people depends upon the relationship I have with them. I don't advice whoever I see. I advice only if I am close to them and I know their situation and the problem. I don't force anybody to take up my advice. I also hate somebody forcing me to take their advice. I give advice, but I know my limitation and I hate to enter to others personal space.

I am a better advice giver than listener. I find that I must do both in situations requiring one or the other anyway. I love giving advice when needed or when asked. I hardly do when not asked though.

Many times, i can't keep quiet when my good friend show their troubles to me.I can't help but to advising them how to copy with their problems, though i know that listening is better than advising in that time.

I am a good advisor. No doubt about it. Most of my family members listen to my advice and they feel great when they act accordingly. I do not throw an advice unless it is really required. No person should feel that if they approach me I will start advising him / her. I like advising people and if it brings a change in their lives then I am the happiest person on Earth.

Hey there dolmitta I do love to advise my friends and be there for them but I do know it is important to listen to them too I find that I bit harder to do I must admit and wish I could learn to do that better.

I love to listen and try to help people. Ever since I was younger, family and friends would come to me for advice. I find it much easier to give out advice than it is to be able to tell myself what to do in certain situations. My mother is usually my advisor :)

I am always a listener.I like listening to my friends.I want to know what they had experiented,what they think.And it makes them feel comfortable,sermakes them feel well.Sometimes I am also a adviser,I speak out what my opinion.I think it can helps them.

I am definitely an adviser. I would much rather give advice to people after listening to what they say than just let them load off to me. I have recently been trying to change that because I've noticed that people tend not to like it when you constantly load them with advice. They like it much better when they can just tell you something. It allows them to calm down instead of lengthening the situation and keeping it up in the conversation by discussing it and thinking of what to do. I, now, try to just take their mind off it and help then think of something else.

Hi Dolmitta, I tend to make most of my friendships on-line and so listening is a big part of what I do since it is all in e-mails so you see everything at once. Usually the hard part is getting anyone to be that honest with me, but when they do I feel great because of it. When it comes to actual advice I am not sure how well I do. I know that when someone advices me I tend to react really badly. I like to be able to rant about my issues without having someone tell me things I already figured out (I tend to have thought a lot about things before saying someone to someone else, so chances are I do know what to do, I just needed to vent before doing it!) Because of how I react to advice though, I am never sure if I do it right to people myself. I tend to like to tell people what I thought after reading what they said, and most of the time they say they are happy, but even when they do I almost sense that they are just trying to be nice. Oh well, hopefully through time I shall become a more restrained and better adviser to go with my listening skills lol! All the best, Dranz

well mostly I am a good listener. I sometime also give advise but generally I like ti listen people and observe them.

I find myself always being a listener when it comes to my friends. I often let my issues go by the wayside and don't look for support from my friends because they often have something dramatic going on in their own lives. They never seem to really care much about what is happening in my life. They just seem to need someone to vent to or a shoulder to cry on. I have found myself, over the last few months really taking a step back from these moments and trying to figuare out how to stop them. It can be very overwhelming and daunting to do things with certain friends because they are always the negative nellies. I work in Social Services and deal a lot with people who are down and out and need lots of emotional support. It can be very difficult to return home, after a long day, and learn all about your friends "hard day". I often wonder where I might go to vent. Perhaps I don't really need to since I choose not to!

I think that I am both. I give advise to my friends when they are doing something wrong or having some trouble with something. But, I also do listen to what people say and respond.

I'm both, I'll sit there and listen to what is troubling my friends and then advise them on what I would do.