How Big Is Your Family?
By markodoom
@markodoom (243)
United States
September 8, 2009 4:34pm CST
I am married with three sons. I am the eldest of five siblings and my wife is the youngest of five siblings (there is a discussion waiting to happen on just that fact alone- for a future date). So I'd say I'm part of quite a big family. I try to stay close (well, in touch, they're all on a different continent) as much as possible as family is very important to me. How about you?
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@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 09
I have four girls and I come from a family with four children too. I'm the second child. My husband is the fourth child of 7 siblings. My parents have large families. My father has a step-mother. And my grandfather probably was married more than twice. And with each wife he has I think more than 10 children. I have many aunts and uncles. My mother however has only 7 siblings. If all of us were to congregate, it'll take up quite a bit of space.
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@trceydian (141)
• United States
9 Sep 09
it was 250 that turned up but more were invited darling, my father was one of 11, so when all of us get together were like a city!!! lol
@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
8 Sep 09
I have a small family. They are also very important to me.
Unfortunately I had to move far away, so I don't see them very often anymore.
But we keep in touch.
It is me, my Mom and Dad. Then comes my two children, they are 22 and almost 24 years old. So just the 5 of us. I am the only child.
Right now I am in a relationship with a man, who has two sisters and a brother.
He also has a son of 12 (little soiled brat, hahaha!) and his mother and father.
One niece of 11.
His family is a little bigger than mine.
They are also very close and keep in touch.
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@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
12 Sep 09
Thinking of your question of people from large families gravitating to someone from a large family, I wonder if this is more of a generation thing.
People of my age group are most likely to come from a family of about five, and our parents to have had 7 - 10 siblings. People in their 40s are more likely to have 3 siblings and today's young people are most likely to have 1 or 2 siblings. Of course, there are always exceptions to a rule.
@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
8 Sep 09
I think that would be just coincidence.
As for me, I am not really into big family stuff.
As it brings lots of expectations.
All those family gatherings you have to attend.
All those gifts you have to buy.
Sure I love to visit family and give gifts.
But, not when it is laid on me that I have too.
To me that is no fun.
But then again, I am not use to big family s. hahaha!
@markodoom (243)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Again very interesting...and it raises another question for me: Do people from large families gravitate to other people from large families for relationships and the same for people from smaller families as this appears to be the case here in our three examples so far.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I am the oldest of 3 and my husband is the youngest of 2. My mom is the middle of 3, my dad is the youngest of 3. I myself have added a higher number to this. I have four. I am happy at that number we are not currently planning on having anymore children.
@markodoom (243)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Well again that seems to suggest people from smaller families gravitate to others with smaller families and vice versa. By the way ladygator, not a fan of Florida by chance?
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
i belong to a huge family. We are 8 in our family. I am the eldest and i have 6 siblings. My father is the 5th among 13 children of my grandparents(father side) while my mom is the 2nd among 5 children of my grandparents(mother side). Actually, asians are used to have a big family. There are advantages and disadvantages of being in a big family. But we are not thinking of the disadvantages, the more important for us is that we are happy and we are helping each other. When you feel you're down, your huge family will embrace you and make you feel that you're not alone.
@markodoom (243)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Now that's exactly what I love about a big family jhenn....when you're down, there is a huge gang of people who will rally to support you and lift you up. It gives you real security, confidence and power. On the flip side, when things are going okay and we get together as a family- there is endless teasing from multiple sources...every silver lining has it's cloud!!!
@stephwrites (275)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I am the oldest of two but I have five kids too and my brother has none, nor do I think he will. So my case is the opposite. But it wasn't really my choice, I happen to be very fertile, grin. If I had the choice, I would have stopped at four but I love em all anyway.
I'm not that close to my family mostly because they wanted me to go to college and the career route but instead I got married and had kids! but I'm happy and that's what matters.
@stephwrites (275)
• United States
9 Sep 09
That's hilarious Mark! considering I am only five feet tall and am always telling my kids that it doesn't matter what size they are. It only matters what they do with it that is important. They certainly don't have the genes to be basketball players!!
@markodoom (243)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Jockeys maybe? LOL Just teasing...I'll have to add you as a friend steph
@markodoom (243)
• United States
9 Sep 09
That certainly IS what matters stephwrites! So it sounds like there's no rhyme or reason to it - ie who you connect with and how big their family is compared to yours. What do they say? Size doesn't matter ;)
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@much2say (55606)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Sep 09
You and your wife are part of a big family!! We have one daughter, with a son on the way.
My hubby comes from a family of 2 girls and him. His parents surprisingly come from a small family (for that geneneration) - his mom has one sister, and his dad has one brother. I come from a family of 2 girls. We don't know a whole lot beyond his immediate family . . . they are not super close.
I come from a family of 2 girls. My parents are from a huge family - my mom has 5 siblings - and my dad has 7 siblings. My mom's family were all out here, but about half of my dad's side were in another country. I'd say we were all closer in our youth, but since all the cousins have grown and have their own families, we only see everyone during big family events. I think it's too much for everyone as that's a lot of people . . . so we all tend to just focus on the immediate family, even though we do keep in touch. At least my cousin and I have the same age kids and we try to get together every now and then.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
12 Sep 09
I have a crazy mixed-up family where my brothers and sisters are cousins and my cousins are half-brothers and half-sisters and my aunt is my step mother. I was the last of five children of my parents, but my father (or his next two wives)had about six or seven more children after he left us. His second wife was my mother's sister, hence the mix-up.
I was born in England but left there when I was 11 and came to Australia to live. I hardly knew my siblings in England and only one sister came to Australia with us. I have never met any of my father's other children.
For the first 22 years of my life I suffered severe abuse. Firstly, when young, I was physically and mentally abused by my oldest sister for a couple of years, and abused in all four ways by my three "fathers". I cannot remember one happy event in my childhood, but my life changed dramatically and completely when I was 22 and since then I have lived a happy and most fulfilling life.
My husband is the fourth in a family of five. We have been extremely happily married for almost 50 years and have 5 sons. They are all adult, all have at least one university degree and are in highly responsible executive work. They married girls who are absolutely perfect for them and so far have given us five grandchildren. My one regret is that they live so far away, in different directions. Australia is a VERY large country.
I have wanted a family portrait, but it seems we will never all be together to get one taken. Yes, we do see one another regularly, but never all at once.