Was it easy for you to make new friends?
By beaushell
@beaushell (339)
Philippines
September 9, 2009 12:53am CST
People have different personalities. They respond to people and situations in different ways. Some people would find it easy to approach stranger while for others it is a struggle. Some people find helping other with so much ease while for others they would need to think for lots of reasons before they can step out and finally do it. How about you? Are you the kind of person that easily befriend other people? Or in the presence of stranger you tend to shy away. Or are you the one that wait for people to approach you first before you talk to them? Are you content with how you approach new people or you think you need improvements?
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31 responses
@Jackie2009ws (113)
• China
9 Sep 09
Generally,I'm a person not so open-minded,but that doesn't means it's not easy for me to make new friends.I think maybe I'm the one that wait for people to approach first,if others act friendly to me,I'll be glad to be a friend of them,I'll try to know their hobbies,customs,likes or dislikes,etc.The point is,I always feel,to show a sincere heart to others,then you can get the same.If I find same hobbies ,we'll often become close friends because we have more issues.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Finding things in common is one best way to make new friends! Because there is a starting point in conversation and so on. I guess it doesn't matter if you approach first or not as long as you open yourself to new people, friendship will begin.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Sep 09
hi jackie2009ws,
yes, establishing rapport is not that easy but as soon as you find that common thing in you the conversation will be fine...and everything will be history hehehehe. goodluck!
@Jackie2009ws (113)
• China
9 Sep 09
Thank you for your advice!
I'll have a try next time I've the chance to make new friends.
@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
9 Sep 09
It is somewhat hard for me to make new friends. Usually I feel a bit shy and I'm not sure what to say. Then I feel dumb which makes me feel even more self conscious and then I totally chicken out when it comes to approaching new people. I am okay if people approach me usually but not always because again, not always sure what to say. So I think I need improvement in that part of me and I have had some counseling and it did help me a lot. I am not as shy as I once used to be.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Recognizing your weakness is an important step to improve it. Knowing what you are not good at and asking help for it is noble thing to do. I commend you for that horsesrule!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Sep 09
hi beaushell,
it is easy for me to make new friends and approach or interact with strangers. i don't have any problem dealing with them. please allow me to humbly say this...i am happy to say that i have excellent people skill and my job and exposure helped me lot to reach this level. with every encounter i make it a point to give my best (it may be the first andf last encounter) and make it more meaningful---and hoping that...both of us created an impact in our lives.
just make sure to maintain your personal spere/space...make it a friendly but professional encounter!
cheers to more friendly meetings and encounters!
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
That is really cool! Do not hesitate to acknowledge your strengths. You will be able to develop it all the more too. And your being excellent with people skill is a gift to many. You are touching their lives in a way more than you imagine. So keep it up! God bless your heart!
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I still lack the social skills I think. I don't find it very easy to make friends. I can approach people no problem, its usually sustaining a conversation that gets me.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Well, the key as I mentioned earlier is to find something that is common between you. From there you will be fascinated where it will lead you.
@pandayu (18)
• China
9 Sep 09
It's a little difficult for me to make new friends, because i spend most of my spare time at home; i know it's not good, but sometimes i would rather stay at home and watch TV than get out...I think i should try my best to make more friends to make my life rich and colorful.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Hi pandayu! Yes, friends make life colorful and rich! I suggest you go out once in awhile and when you have friends to share with, you can take them home and visit you. Many people out there are having as much fun inside the house as some are outside. So all of you are going to have lots of fun!
@chismax2603 (69)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
hello beaushell, i belong to the kind of person that easily befriend other people. because I'm a jolly person for me being jolly is one of the advantages to be friendly. And it depends the situation if i am the one who approach or i am the one to be approached.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Yes being a jolly person is a sure advantage. It attracts many people for many reasons. It could be because they want to be happy, so they want to be around happy person or they are sad so they don't want to be with gloomy people too. Keep it chismax! You sure will brighten up many lives around you!
@ladymingler (182)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
It is easy form me to befriend with strangers.. I can approach people easily (especially when asking for direction, hehe) and also people find me easy to talk with.. Just by waiting in a line for a public vehicle I made friends! but then I regret this one time cause I fell of scam because of this.. So now I am more careful when talking to strangers.. We really need to choose also which we will befriend with cause there's a lot of bad people waiting for his prey..
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
That is really as sad thing. I have known some friends who like you because of being friendly was took advantaged of and was deceived. Yes, we need to be careful whom to trust too. But may it not hinder you to be a good friend still.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
9 Sep 09
hmm beaushell i have to admit i am a shy person, and i don't make friends that easily i mean i don't make much friends by approaching them myself, there are many people i know who were once a stranger to me, but they had some work with me and they approached me and that is how things started and that is the way i have so many friends now, they initially were also hesitant as how to respond to me coz i didn't really talk much at the beginning but well they got to know me better as time passed by, there are many people like me who are the 'silent types', i am an example... i happen to play drums and so many times it so happened that some of my seniors who played guitar needed a drummer and some people referred me so then i went and that is how i meet new people mostly, i meet most people with some work or the other seldom casually... i don't talk much to strangers, well i would reply them if they ask something but i am conservative and only talk when necessary, i think some people really think weird about me, they think i have some kinda attitude and all but it is not the case, it is only because they haven't talked to me much to know me... that is where the problem lies, nobody can know what i am unless they talk to me.... i am quite content as to what i am except for the fact that sometimes i find it hard to express in public places or places there are a lot of people... that's it, nothing special... have a nice day beaushell!
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would be glad to know which side you are on.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
You said you are a drummer, therefore artist in a sense. I heard and knew quite a number of people with the same orientation as yours. I guess it goes with your personality as a whole.
But amazing how you seem to express yourself with ease on writing.
I'm the opposite type, I approach people as easy as I can talk to them. I am interested to people who do not speak much because I learned early in life that they are people with a lot of sense oftentimes than those who speak much. I guess I am challenge to know people who are quiet or "silent types". It does not interest me much to go near people who love to talk about themselves though.
Thanks for your response
@joezon50 (378)
• Hong Kong
12 Sep 09
I think its easy for me to make new friends..
Because im a person who easy to get along with.
The improvements i need to do is dont be so
close to them so they wont hurt my feelings.I have
lots of friends but i notice them,they just
take my kindness for granted.Yes we do also
very carefull to make them as a our friends.
happy posting.
@mohdehtesham (140)
• India
10 Sep 09
Well according to me it is somewhat difficult to make new friends as they are strangers to us , and i am a person who wait for others to approach and talk to me coz we dont now how they are by nature and thinks how will they respond etc..,, but its not good i must improve myself.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
I am very shy person so I wait for the person to approach me before i speak out. Maybe i am afraid that she will just snobbed me when i will be the one who approach her first. I only have few friends because i dont trust someone easily, before i consider them to be my friend they have to gain my trust first because i was fooled many times already.
@forfuture20 (55)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 09
Honestly in real life i cannot make new friends much better than in virtual life. I know the people when i access the social network. So, it's seems stranger but that was the fact. I need some idea to make some new friend. In my experience, in every time i just introduce my self by my blog and i introduce my personality when i have meet some people. I usually meet the groups of social network and make some appoinment if we want to meet together in somewhere place.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Well the modern world has sure new ways of finding friends. Yeah, I believe there is some security in knowing whom you are approaching somehow and once you get to talk/chat with the person a few times there is some kind of familiarity that makes meeting them in person easier.
@satan88 (584)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
9 Sep 09
Nope i've always had a hard time making friends in the real world. it's much easier to make them on myLot though. I feel like an outcast most of the time because i'm actually a very shy and reserved person which is even worst since i'm a guy and girls like tough macho men.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
How we approach people sometimes also depend on our attitude towards ourselves. You know many people see themselves as outcast or do not belong. But the probability that it is real is very slim. If you see yourself in a negative way, most often people will see that too and will not treat you the way you like to be treated. And then you will be disappointed. Not everything people say about you is true too. Sometimes our concept with ourselves comes from a remark we hear from a significant person in our lives. And then it stuck! But the problem is it is not always true.
Try to rethink about what you think about you and then see if there is truth to it, if not forget it! And then open yourself to others!
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
10 Sep 09
it's not easy for me to make new friends at all. i'm really shy and have a hard time talking to people in person. i know i need improvement on my social skills but i don't seem to get it. i don't get out enough to get it... at times it seems like i've gotten better or i'm doing better but it all depends. the more i get out the more i get better but if i stop going out i fall right back into shying away again and have to start all over.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 09
I am including hard to adapt to new enviroments. Usually, I just waited and waited to talk to
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
I am very shy person so I wait for the person to approach me before i speak out. Maybe i am afraid that she will just snobbed me when i will be the one who approach her first. I only have few friends because i dont trust someone easily, before i consider them to be my friend they have to gain my trust first because i was fooled many times already.
@hoho159 (55)
• China
10 Sep 09
I am the kind of person that easily befriend other people.you must have many friend in the world ,because you lived in the human world. you can share it with your good friend when you have bad or goog things. communicationn is the good way .
so i like make friends everywhere.
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I think it depends on the environment if its easy or not for me to make new friends. Online it seems very easy, ofcourse i think this is true for most people. In person its easy if its in a casual situation, if its more of the business type situation i leave my emotions out of it. I do tend to get lost in activities that i do by myself such as art or listening to music.