Online meet groups

@hug14me (123)
September 9, 2009 6:28am CST
Does anyone use Tagged? Its am online meeting people kind of group. My husband joined it and started talking to people. He said he wanted to make friends. One friendship developed into something more then just friends. She has a family but states very clearly she is not married. They then move on to MSN and chat reguarly. Then he lies to me and goes out and meets this woman. I called him as he was driving out to meet her and he tells me he is also meeting her husband. Later in the history I notice that the time they met was a time where the husband would have been working. When I question my husband he just looks sheepish and says "opps, caught me again." I have two children with this man and although they are not very young children they are still in their youth. School has started and although I have talked and talked to my husband, I feel there is a barrier between us. He seems distant. I had hoped that things can be worked out but I am wondering ..... Just watch the groups you join.
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6 responses
• United States
10 Sep 09
I think you should openly talk to him about it without coming across like you would be mad. It may be that something is happening between you that he feels like he really does need a friend. THere is a chance he is being honest. Your husband should always be your best friend and maybe he feels like he has to go somewhere else. I think at this point you will find out if it's something you should worry about. I have experienced a similar situation and the one thing you can't do is ignore what is happening. Online can be a scarry situation for couples.
@forptc (287)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
I, too, have a Tagged account but my main purpose for joining is networking...and playing Mafia Wars. Ha ha. I'm not one who easily gets involved with people online, specially since I got in a relationship roughly a year and a half ago. I'm supposed to say you can't blame your husband but the truth is, he's such a big JERK!!! Getting involved with any other person on certain levels and aspects is a decision to be made. It's definitely not an excuse for someone to say that "it's who I am" or "I can't help it, I'm just human". That's just the thing, you're human, you're gifted with the ability and privilege to decide...free will. I mean, why get in a relationship if you couldn't even make sure of fully committing yourself to it? Why get a woman pregnant when you just intended to leave her and your offspring eventually? Men like him give other men a bad reputation thus leaving women to generalize that all men are dogs. There's no excuse to infidelity and disloyalty that would make it seem like the right thing to do.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Sep 09
Yup I do have a tagged account, though it's been a few months since I last log on. Wonder what is happening already with the site. But I heard there are lots of games there nowadays, like Facebook too. Awesome. I've not really been too interested in the dating scene there. Looks like too many guys and girls; cramped! LOL.. but the site in general is awesome, I'd say. I used to join online meet groups when I was in MIRC. But I've stopped since..too complicated, lots of relationship issues, admirers, fights and the likes between different people and I just don't wanna be a part of it all.
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Hi I use tagged for sometime now and I have many friends listed but I'm not sure who are real LOL. I just like it because there are many features like giving tags to friends, wink at them, smile at them, send messages too but I chose whom to answer. Mostly there are invites to join the games but I don't like the games. I have not been to the chat rooms lately because there are people who are crazy over there LOL. I have friends who says they are married in their profiles but I'm always careful so as not to be more than friends with them. Anyways, I am just out there looking for friends nothing more. I hope you can patch it up whatever misunderstanding you have.
• United States
9 Sep 09
I can see how easy it is to become emotionally involved with someone online. Ive been in the social communities and virtual world environment for awhile now. Yes i am married and have children. I dont like to tell someone this I dont really know but honest, be cautious and continue to question your spouses activity online. I know for myself I couldnt take any emotional connections to real life because of the fact im married but alot of people do. Its so hard on the real life people that love them and continue to try to make things work in their marriage. Online can seem very perfect, the emotional relationship doesnt have to deal with the everyday stresses of life....money problems, hecktic schedules, kids, spouses ....so they get drawn into the thinking that its so much better. I wish you all the luck with your marriage and i hope your husband sees the fact that you are real and this online friend and him dont have a history or kids together and makes the right choice.
@MiMi50 (2)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Bless your heart. This is my first time actually doing this so thanks for the advice (female.