is it fair to judge people on their looks?

It isnt fair and I can relate to what youre saying. First of all, I'm female and I look young. I'm 23 but without make up and high heels, I look like I'm still 16. Even if I wear make up and heels, some say I look very young. I even get remarks like I still look as if I am still a school girl. There are advantages and disadvantages. There is a double standard for people like us. However, try and find ways to leverage yourself. For me, people assume I'm young and female which means I must be dumb because I work in a male dominated industry but I prove them wrong when I speak. In the end, most are impressed. I dont try to change their views by putting effort into it. I just work towards improving myself and making sure that I educate myself better to avoid mishaps and embarrassments.

I'm sorry to hear that. I've been there a couple of times. Only difference is that it's the other way around, people took me for being older than I am. I don't know if that's worse but it's also a bad place to be in. Situations like these just make you hate shallow people who succumb to the dictates of society which places peoples' character at face value. I wouldn't mind if it was just a brief impression but for most people, it lingers and no matter how you prove yourself, you're just not cut out for it...at least for them. But with your situation, I think the best you could do is perform your job very well beyond your capacity and show everyone, including your senior, that looks don't matter, it's all about how you could present yourself. Besides, it ain't your seniors you're impressing, it's the big guys at the top of the company you're gunning for. Hold your head high, don't be fazed.

I would think that would be considered some type of discrimination. I believe you go by the person, what's in their heart and in their head. I thought this was going to be more of a racial discrimination discussion, and I would have said that it is not fair to judge one by their color. But to discriminate because of age is even worse. I have known people who were in their late 50's and were literally told they were too old for a particular job position. So what is it, now that we have gotten past the racial discrimination issue, now people are discriminating based on age. Where will it ever end!

hi one should not judge people basing on the looks.as lokks are always deceiving.we may get rough sketch of the person by the looks but its tough knowing athe attitude and character of that person by looks.some may look very decent but turn out to be frauds and vice versa is also true.to know a person ,we should atleast converse with that person to know them better. have a great time

To be honest ,in my opnion,it's difficult to judge a person with his looks.Sometimes someone looks nice,then he is nice,someone looks ugly,he is ugly,but sometimes it's not ture.If you are very good at to comuunicate with people and you have been contacted with many different people,then I'm sure you would be good at judge a person by his looks.but there is not only looks,it include their looks,langs,bearing and proclivity.If you want to judge a person exactly ,you should consider all of these things and take long time.There is a adage in china say :"As distance tests a horse's strength,so time reveals a person's heart."

yaa.. sometimes we judge people..from their looks..and sometime it's right...but all time it's not right..because..every people have different natures.. so you don't judge always them for their looks..

I really know what you mean. I am judged even by my family cause i have 11 piercings on my body. I had 13 but unfortunately two got infected and I had to take them away. But it´s always like that. My family keeps saying (more my oldest brother) that it doesn´t look good and makes it hard to get a job (oh, if I wanted to get a job, I want to work for myself and build my own business). Not only looks influence people, but also, when you want to make something different on the society everybody tries to disturbe. As all the girls on my neighborhood have normal jobs I am seeing as strange and people judge me cause I work at home from my computer, not even my family can accept that, they already tried to cut my net lots of times to disturb me to see if I get a "normal" job. You see, anything different has judgment, looks, actions, anything. If you don´t follow the pattern get ready to live a nightmare.

I think we should not judge people according to their looks. Many times I felt that my judgement at the first sight or physical appearance about a person went wrong once I started communicaating with the person. One of my colleagues said that she thought that I am a verious serious and reserved person when she saw me for the first time. Later she relaized that I am not a person as per her judgements.

Its not fair at all. Some people cant help the way they look. The only thing I kind of approve of is piercings. If a person has piercings all over their face, its their choice, but dont expect to get a job at a nice place. Go to Hot Topic or something. Most of them are unattractive to employers and customers. However, things like "looking mature" can't be helped. If someone is over or underweight should not be an issue either unless it directly corresponds with the job (fitness coach should not be either! lol).

no , i think it's nor fair to look at people based on how they look. some people who are not so pretty or beautiful are more intelligent than people who always just care with their looks. i could relate it to some of my students who are just so busy with the way they look and the way they dress but in academics, they're exam results are very ugly to look at. but not all pretty and beautiful person are like that, i just want to express that people must not judge the person with how they look physically.

i absolutely disagree with people misjudging other people upon their looks. it's not fair. looks don't have anything to do with a person's capability of doing a job or meeting a requirement, i think what's more important is if they would be given a chance to prove themselves.

I think most of us have a tendency to judge people on their looks when we are younger, but as you get older you realise they are not that important. I was made fun of for the way I look quite a lot growing up and it made me quite shy and lacking in confidence, especially around guys. But as you meet people who can see beyond the outside and get to know you as a person it makes you realise how sad superficial people are. If someone doesn't want to know me just because I am not conventionally beautiful then I have no time for them - life is too short! If you only go by appearances you miss out on so much and so many wonderful people and experiences.

Of course it is not fair. But unfortunately, most of people judge people on their looks. So what can we do? If he still doesn't change his views, I think you needn't change yourself any more. Just be yourself. You will meet one who doesn't judge you on your looks.

I do not think you should go by looks. I am a teacher and I see the same kind of stereotyping. I met a male teacher that had tattoos all over and he was denied a position because of it. It's sad because he is very good. I think people should be able to be themselves and still make an honest living without others poutting them down because they don't have the guts to be who hey are.

There goes the saying before you judge somebody walk a mile in their shoes, and when they do, you're a mile ahead and with their shoes. lol, just kidding. Although right now as you said you are sideline because of that reasons, don't push to hard to please them, be patience and be as you are, time will come they will notice your real value, don't stress yourself with that reason or you'll end up looking older than them. smile :)

Sometimes, bad as it may seem, the way we treat people is dictated by society. Some align themselves with people of higher stature. We prefer sometimes people whose names are well known in the society. We go for people whose looks are great. We tend to forget that looks could be deceiving and what matters really is what is inside the heart. I wish that the time will come that there will be no more barriers controlling ourselves to be close with each other.

no, it is never fair to judge people based on looks. a lot of good looking people may not be as sharp as the mediocre ones. i hope ur seniors' views will change in time. just continue working hard, be sensible and mature in any decision u take and be patient. this will pay off in time. or ... u said u want to look mature? why don't u try faking a gray hair, place some power on ur hair,

no i don't judge people on their looks, i think a person should be beautiful from inside. if a person is beautiful from outside and not from inside then there's no use of his/her beauty. a person should be beautiful from inside as well as outside. that's what i think :)

could u pass him a message from me! hes an idiot. im sorry to say so, but yeah he is.... This is totally stupid. why should looks matter and then what does work have to do with looking mature or not mature! i dont know if this happens alot around but i wont agree to this idea at all... i hope it works out good for you and just yourself ;) maybe show a little attitude and he'll know what u really are ;)

No it is not but it is human nature. Don't we judge other people, even unconsciously.