Some one please help me!!!!!!!
By Thorn679
@Thorn679 (111)
United States
September 9, 2009 10:44am CST
Ok So I started university on Monday and during recess I was in line to buy a drink, looking around and I saw a really pretty girl and she waved and me and I got shy and turned away, then I realized that she was the daughter of my father's friend and so I waved back. Then I got out of line and went to talk to her and I said "Hi" and she said hello and that she was looking for me in class but she couldn't find me, and I told her I was looking for her as well, then we found out that our classrooms are parallel to each other and so she told me that she saw me in line and that she wouldn't hold me anymore and to go buy what I was going to buy, so I asked her if she wanted anything and she smiled and politely said no.
Then on Tuesday(yesterday) I found out that the university was having a play/concert on the 17th and I really wanted to invite the girl from Monday on a date to the play, but I was scared of what she might say. So once again I was in recess in line to buy something and I looked back towards her class and I saw that they were coming out to recess, then I saw her and she smiled and waved at me and I did the same. then I told the lady that was serving me to give me two cups on Coke. then I went to her and told her that I had bought a Coke for her and she looked at me with a sad face and told me that I shouldn't have and that she already bought a drink and that next time I should ask her before, so than I don't end up wasting my money, and I told her that it's not a waste of money and that I will just drink her cup as well and we started laughing. Then I asked her if she had heard anything about the play on the 17th and she told me yea, the one at 5:30 and I said exactly. And then I said "Well I just wanted to know if you would like to go with me." and she said "Yes" right away. I was shaking soooo bad and I was so nervous and I couldn't believe that she said yes. And we agreed on a place that we would meet up.
Now here's the problem. I really like her and I think she likes me, but I don't want to lose her cause every free moment I get I think about her and she makes me feel special and makes me forget things, a feeling I have never felt in my life. SO I was wondering if it would be ok to tell her on the 17th that "Ever since the moment I met you, I couldn't stop think about you and excuses me if you see this as an insult but I just had to tel you." And wait to see what she says.
Some one please help me, I'm open to any ideas or suggestions. Thank you and have a great day =]
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10 responses
@growingupthree (54)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I doubt she will see that as an insult but as flattery. She might think it a little too strong though. Try to relax when you are together. The most important thing is to be yourself and be honest. You seem to be doing a good job already. It seems she likes you and is wanting to get to know you more. Good luck on your date!
@Thorn679 (111)
• United States
10 Sep 09
My plans got ruined today =[ cause the university changed the date of the concert to today and when I told her she looked at her friend and said "Well I can go if it's going to be today cause I have to be at my house by 5:00" and then she said goodbye to me and left, and I was just standing there thinking to myself "What about me?"
@growingupthree (54)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I wouldn't take it too hard really. She might not have thought about the impact it would have on you. It also sounds like she was in a hurry however it seems a little rude the way it handled. You could always try to reschedule the date with her for something else if you are really interested in getting to know her better.
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 09
Hi thorn,
That's one sweet thing to happen.. Hahaa,good for you..
But I think it's a little too early for you to say that, more to come I'm afraid your words will shock her and will make distance between you two..
If I were you,I'll say something softer like "you're such an incredible person and I'm interested to know you more"..
I believe that's something more approachable and won't make your girls shocked and ran away, lolz
Good luck for you thorn,
Looking forward for a good news from you.. :D
Thanks !!
@Thorn679 (111)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I have been thinking about giving it more time, and I think that that would be the best thing to do that way I get to know her much better and I would know enough about her to know if the relationship would be one worst getting into. But only time will tell and I must be patient.
@ivygrey (550)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
You know thorn, I think most people would give you answers like, go ahead grab the opportunity, You never know someone might steal her from you. Or some might say no, take it slowly, You don't want to rush on things, you are just starting to get to know each other, only fools rush in. Alright, here's my view. Either is OK, but what is important is you have to weigh in things, Ask your self some questions, each day. What could be her reaction? Is she the type of girl who will easily say yes to a guy? Is she the type of girl that would like a long courtship? you know things like that, In short It's really up to you, Learn every thing that might help you decide. Goodluck! and Godbless!
@Thorn679 (111)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Thank you everyone that has posted, The reason I have posted this is to see everyone's view on the situation. I was planning on asking her if she would like to have lunch with me today, seeing as the past two days have been such a success, but I don't know if that would be pushing my luck or if it's ok. I really don't want to make a mistake with her lol
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
10 Sep 09
hey just be your ownself and you two will have a great time together. Try to know her more and just be patient with her. Congrats.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
I know you're excited but i think you should hold your horses and slow down. it's best if you keep introducing yourself and getting to know her more than just jumping to the big "O". because based from my friends stories about them doing the same thing as you did, things didn't well after a few months.
@magickat (381)
•
10 Sep 09
See how things go on the date, if you rush in with lines like that straight off you might scare her! I know it's difficult but just try to relax and chill out. Think of things to talk about before you go on the date so you won't feel awkward. Have at least three questions to ask so you will seem interested in her and really listen to her answers, this is the best way to get to know someone and to help them relax too. remember she will probably also be feeling nervous.
If things go well between you and you see more of each other you can tell her what you want to say at a later stage. It will mean more to her if you are honest about how nervous you were and she will appreciate it more once you have got to know each other better.
Good luck!
@tdemex (3540)
• United States
9 Sep 09
That's a little strong for an opening line, even if she feels the same, it might scare her off! I'd lighten up a little, women are very perceptive and she all ready knows this, trust me! Just try your best to be yourself and nature will take it's course, don't rush things unless she gives you the signal to! tdemex
@piya84 (2581)
• India
10 Sep 09
Congratulations you have got crush on her. Well dont rush in anything.Spend little time with her.I am sure the way she behaving she likes you too.But it takes little time for ladies to get comfortable with someone and trust them.So take it easy.Late her give you signals too.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
I would suggest that you keep it cool for a while. Enjoy her company as casual friends at first. continue to be nice to her but not too much as that can be annoying sometimes even if she likes you. Do not be too overly concern as to not give her enough space. Leave a little space for her to show you that she likes you as well.
You will know somehow when is the right time for you to tell her.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
For me, I think you should pursue more in making her feel that she's really important and special to you. You don't have to rush things. Just focus on doing good things to her and showing your true self to her. So that if ever you get to ask her if you could to be in a deep relationship, she will love you as you are. Just be yourself and keep on making her feel special. That's my main point.