Staying Married For Children

that is a wrong reason to stay married exspecally if you are not happy

The first time around, I was married twenty three years, and sometimes it was for the children, sometimes it was for security, and sometimes it was for truly deep love that was like being plugged in to my husband's life/heart/mind. For various reasons I reached a point that I was resolved to fix or end it, then he became terminally ill. I took care of him, we knew he was ill for one year. I really appreciate hearing from my kids what and how they remember their dad, and our marriage. Some things I would have done differently, but the whole thing was a blessing, and I really learned a lot. Proved how strong I was, too. Sometimes even when you love someone, you may not like them. I would not have stayed if there had been abuse. No one needs to stay with someone who hurts them or the kids.

I'm not a parent but my parents tried to stay together for me, they're still trying. It tears me apart to see them together, they practically hate each other. Sometimes, depending on your situation, its better to split especially if you guys are fighting or useing your kids as a go between. My parents do that, they tell me to ask the other for something and I hate it. They also complain to me about each other. Thats all I hear when I go home from college and I just want to yell at them to grow up!

In my opinion, people think high of family in China. Especiallu for chinese married women. Maybe they thought it is very important for children's growing to have a harmonious family.

i guess it really depends on the ages of the kids... if still young it would be better to stay married for a couple of years and see how it goes. if the r/s between the couple did not improve then maybe it would be time to move on. that's my personal view =)