Are you a man or a mouse?

Hi Humbug, I am definitely a man, well not literally of course but yes in terms of your question. I enjoy a friendly arguement with friends but do not mix with confrontational or aggressive people full stop as they are of no interest to me as lack manners. I hate people getting in my space. I also have a special eye I give to keep people under control, it's worked for years because no one expects it and they don't want to be on the receiving end twice, a look often says more than words to the crass. I've never been a pushover and it's too late to learn it now.

I really like women in skirts Humbug. Because I can hide behind them when things get rough! I will "do" what is necessary if I have to. But I try to avoid confrontation in the first place. I have discovered that the best thing to do with an angry person is to let them talk on and on - I just stay silent. Eventually they run out of steam and I can talk. Quietly and (hopefully) sensibly. There is the occasional time when nothing will work. That's when the skirt comes in useful! LOL.

Hi Humbug, Like you I will make a stand when things matter, like health issues, the school, companies etc but usully if someone bumps into me I say sorry although it was them that type of thing. I guess I am a pretty passive person until pushed or anything to do with my children then I not to be taken lightly. Huggles. Ellie :D

mouse... except when it really, really counts....

I am a woman not a mouse & i can stand strong w/the best of them.

For me it's really weird. I'm generally a shy person, or actually it's more due to social anxiety, so I can't even order my own food or have a conversation with someone I don't know that well, but I have a horrible temper, and if I disagree with someone or if someone makes me angry I can be really scary!

It depends on the situation, sometimes it's just best to walk away with your head up and it's just not worth the aggravation, I guess each person sizes up the situation and then either goes in head strong or shrugs it off, sort of flight or fight syndrome. I can understand your viewpoint when it comes to our children then we will fight tooth and nail to protect them or stand or for them. Other times it's just not worth all the hassle. I hate confrontations and will shy away from them, but then again I am not a people person and I can take them or leave them. It also depends on how people treat you too, my ex for example, excuse me for harping on about it, but I was a damn big giant with my ex and would give as good as I got. No one is 100% mouse or 100% man, you just have to search inside yourself for the hero at times ;0)

I'm a bit of both hummy.. I tend to be timid mostly, but in the right situation, i'm a giant lion! if someone where to harm or talk badly about my children, i too wouldnt hesitate to step up.

Hi Humbug, well I am much like you at home, with friends my family except my Dad, the last thing I hate is confrontation especially if I know someone can be verbal and hurtful. Like you if I am nudged by someone it is always me who says 'sorry' and that goes to my family who get annoyed that is what is said so frequently. Now my children are grown up I let them live live their own lives, so don't have the need to apologise so much it is nice to hear them say it to me for a change! So a lot of the time yes I am a push over...hugs LoLo

humbug25 I am also a mouse or a wuss just about the same thing . I just hate confrontations and avoid them like' crazy. I dont post to discussions about poitics or the ones'about smoking not hurting you. They get so nasty and insulting I cannot handle it. just too darned mean for me.I canstand strong over important things just like others but the bumping and pushing I just apologize and move away. I am a wuss.

It depends, I stand strong for the things that I think I must. It is not bad to first to oppologise when people knock into you, but I think you need to stand strong for something also.

Well I'm definitely not a mouse, lol. but I dont like confrontation ether, but if I happen to get in to a confrontation I usually stand strong, and it also depend on the situation, like in the situation you described I would have let it go, but when it comes to other situations I tend to be strong and deal with it with diplomacy.

I'm definately not the mouse. Don't get me wrong, I don't go pick fights or punch out bad guys, but I do stand up for myself if I feel I've been wronged and I do tend to hold grudges. If some one were to knock into me in a busy store I wouldn't appologize unless it was my fault. I would more likely say "excuse you" and go on my way.

Hi Humbug, We are the same kind, I am also a self confessed mouse and I did not like to push over. Every guy has their over personality and character that surely they would liek to expect the respect. But in our daily life, I am aware that if you behave friendly and eat humble time daily, they will work up over you at the critical point, of course just some kinda people will do it. We should stand strong if you think that it is reasonale and no need to give any concession.

My friend often tells me that I am a big push-over and that I let too many people take advantage of me. Personally, I see myself as flexible and easy going. Really, why bother getting all worked up over something that really isn't that important or really doesn't have a significant impact on my life. Something really has to bother me in a big way for me to actually confront someone. Now if someone confronts me about someone, I have gotten very good at defusing situations and really talking and finding out what the issue at the heart of the matter is to solve the problem. Yelling and stomping around usually doesn't fix anything (even if it does make you feel a little bit better).