is it rude to tell an annoying person they're annoying
@thenaturaldiva27 (178)
United States
September 9, 2009 6:25pm CST
so i know someone really annoying, but i wont' tell them they're annoying. i try to stay away from them and not talk but they find me and start conversations. it is awkward and painful.
5 responses
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Rude or not; it won't do any good.
There is a person where I work who is exceedingly annoying. You know the type - she knows everything and she is always right (even when there are facts that say she is wrong) and she makes sure that everyone around her knows this too.
I do my best to ignore her and not take the bait when she is spouting her ignorance to the world; but, when she started on a case I was working on (even though she had no idea what the case was about). I finally told her to "shut up, turn around, and mind her own business". It didn't do any good. She just kept on "babbling" until our supervisor went over to her and told her to stop. Even when the supervisor steps in; it only stops her for a little while.
Annoying people do not take hints; and, they do not take direct statements either. So, being rude and telling this person they are annoying will only remove the stress that you are feeling by keeping it bottled up. It will not make the annoying person change.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
when i find a person annoying... i would best avoid him/her.. i could not tell that person outright that he is annoying..i feel it's not right.
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
10 Sep 09
But, sometimes you cannot avoid them. The person I am referring to works in my section (same days, same hours); and, while we all have our own desks it is a big open room with no dividers. The only way I have avoided being rude to her more often. is the fact that she is not seated next to me - there is another person between her and me.
The only bright point in our existence is the fact that she is pregnant and plans to quit working after she has her baby so she can be a stay at home mom. Hurray for us; but, we pity her child.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
i know of one very annoying person in my workplace. i know other co-workers find her annoying too. she is too loud and always boasts of anything.
what i do is go out of the office for a while (she holds office in the other room) and come back after i feel she is no longer around.
one very good technique i have done and still doing when this happens is i plug earphones and listen to music.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
ooopps, the above should be telling us that it is rude to directly tell her she is annoying... i guess i would suggest that this topic be dealt with in a staff meeting. i just hope she gets the point.
@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
10 Sep 09
yes, this is a same situation with me also, even I cant say that person to stop and let me sit undisturbed.i respect him as he is very seniour to me as a guardianbut is very annoying.
I never said him that he is like that as I dont want him to feel bad and instead i will feel bad too that i have made him feel bad.
@alexaeluna (134)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
i guess it's rude if you approach them on a rude manner. just talk to them politely and explain to them that there's something about them that bothers you. and if they still don't change, just stay away from them.
@Metabie (32)
• Belgium
10 Sep 09
It is rude and not rude , i was once in this bus when i was younger and there was this boy who was singing out loud with the music in his ears and he was annoying everybody so i tapped his shoulder and asked him if he could be a little more quiet , politely , and he kept on singing and he sung louder .
