Do you ever feel like everything about your life has worked against you??

a big yes on that, just some days when things just don't seem to be going right. like now i've got my horse ready to compete this show season, and she went lame early int he week and not showing signs of improving any time soon. looks like a vet trip, and i'm hoping it's not going to be to serious. so i'm rather p..... off about it, same thing happened to me a few yrs back. i get really down when things, just seem like there is no end to the problems at times, like how your going to pay a few bills, get something done. all i do is keep going and hope for the best.

Hey, Yea I know, sometimes it just isn't fair. As you have just said, a kid posts that he gets 5k as his weekly allowance. Sometimes they are just born with that, and they have a much easier life. I always feel like everything about my life has worked against me. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!

I think it is part of the circle of life. The ups and downs of life. It is more on surviving that feeling of being low and nobody and useless.

Hello mellisa, it's such a grace for one person to still learn to be thankful despite the many heartaches in life. Yes, all of us, as human beings, can feel the weight of the world all upon our shoulders. And guess what? A lot of us know how it feels to have problems. This week had been entirely hell for me too. I remember myself crying again and again until I felt like my tears have dried out. It's like I got bombarded with all sorts of attacks on all aspects of my life, family, money, lovelife, self esteem, career. Thank God my health so far has been ok despite all these attacks. According to my friend, she's surprised why I was still standing. With all the problems that I got right now, I would have just dropped and collapsed! But I didn't! SO where the heck did I get this strength from? That made my day. Maybe what we need is a little time.....2 minutes will do...to pause and think about the things that we have rather than the things that we dont have. Think about the good that something or someone brings instead of the bad that it brings. Sometimes, negative thoughts are all in the mind. I am a very pessimistic person too, mel. So things for me are always BAD! But each day I try to give myself that two lovely two minutes to pause and think: Im still breathing Im not in any pain I can still talk I can still write I can still smell I can still hear And wow, I can move my thumb I have hair I have a roof t keep me from the rain I have a pan where I can fry my bacon! Etc Etc Etc And then I feel better....try it.

YOU should do the first thing that is to do deal with yourself,to please your mood and heart and soul. and what you do is to do deal with you well doing to your all things,your body,your heart,your souls,you do not anything that is very difficult for you, and do it unwillingly.this is very dangerous for yourselves and it is very injury for your psychological for your heart and soul.

It's not hard to be happy with life and you adopt the right attitude. I too have had many ups and downs in my life. I kept on praying daily and God has brought me through all my situations. I believe that what I have experience in my life has made me a stronger and better person. Life is not crappy. It is wonderful. Learning to be thankful is the first order to being happy.

its truly bad but i can understand.since past few years life had been a lot of struggle for me too and the worst part every move of mine to settle things out had gone to the drains .i am yet to find my life partner ( which is a necessity in my society), careerwise nothing working out for me,my financial liabilities and familial responsilities are beyond my capabilties and on top of that my illnesses due to overstress. i seemed to go no where. it had been a very bad phase but i tried to have patience by constantly reminding myself to take up only those pressing issues which i am ready to handle and not think of those which i can't help.i continued with my routine and am still doing the same. things have not got better but they have not got as overwhelming as they had become at that point of time... so just have patience and keep doing your things. may be you will learn to adjust ,if things didn't change..tk cr

I feel like I just read something that I wrote myself not too long ago. I have often felt that way. This is what I did to help turn things around for me and make myself feel a bit better. First, I sat myself down and took a good long look at everything in my life. I looked at my financial situation, analyzed it as much as I could and tried to figure out what I could personally do to try to improve it. I looked at my marriage and tried to think about what our arguements were really about, what was the underlying cause. From there, I tried to figure out what I needed to do to make that better. Then, I looked at the kids' behavior. I thought about their actions, my reactions, and vice-versa. Once again, I tried to figure out how I could make a change there. My conclusions were that my finances were horrible, I was not over spending, I just didn't make enough money for the things that were needed. I decided to try to use some of my talents to make extra income. My agruments with my hubby stemmed more from insecurities than anything else, my own personal insecurities from past experiences. Some of them resulted in his insecurities. Solution there has been to openly communicate with each other and take time, even if it is only 10 minutes a day, to just talk. As far as the kids and the way they behave, well, that one has been a little more difficult. I know that when I am stressed out, my kids always seem to act out more which is probably due to the fact that I am not as attentive and patient when I am stressed. I have found that they have been a lot better since I have made it a point to talk in a calmer voice and not yell much at all. I have also found that they are a lot better when they know that my husband and I are united in decisions that are made. We have worked hard to eliminate the ability for them to manipulate us to get their way and that alone has made a huge difference. Overall, I think that the biggest and most effective change I made was within myself. I made it a point to think and speak more positively and look for that one reason to smile. I have been at the very bottom. I remember a time when I had absolutely nothing and I mean nothing. I lived in a shell of a trailer, no electricity, no running water. I had to go fishing every day to feed my kids, and I had to cook outside over a fire, heat up water to wash up with over a fire, basically, I had to live off the land and I felt lucky that I at least had a shelter for my kids. At the time, I was also pregnant with my daughter. My boys were very young, my oldest just old enough to help carry fire wood and think it was fun, my younger son too young to do anything but be carried around because he couldn't even walk yet. That was probably the hardest, financilaly for me, although, I had been pretty close to that before. Eventually, things got better and I vowed that unless we were camping, I would simply do what I had to, if it meant working four jobs, to not be in that position again. My point is that no matter how far down we get, taking a step back and really looking at the situation and looking for the positives in it as well as a solution can really help. Hold your head high, things will eventually get better. As far as your marriage goes, there is a reason that you got married and I bet that you still love each other more than either if you realizes.

There is something I always tell some one that might tell me to try to be happy to the fullest and that is “the day that I might be 100% happy that day might be the last day of my life”. I do try and want to be happy with everything and everybody but there is always something negative that has to ruin it for me. Yes there are people that might have the money that we need but they are not happy and there are people that have more happiness than others but they lack on something. I don’t know why it has to be that way but that is the way it is I my self would love to have everything I need and want I do try to have it but I don’t have it. I see my family going true economic problems and also some personal problems but what I have noticed is that they have good health even if they lack of other things and they know that I care for them and they care for me so in that part I am ok. Yes my dreams are to have a house so I don’t have to pay rent enough money so we would always have what we need and the obvious good health and happiness.

melissa let me start by saying the world has not come to an end, you woke up this morning with the gift of life because there are those who went to sleep last night and are not here today. Thats something to be thankful for. Next there are those women who wish they could and pay alot of money just to conceive a child and you have more than one. Third lets say this even though you and your husband go through sometimes and seems as though life just couldn't get any worse think back on the day you married him and why you did. After being alive for almost 40 years i have come to this one conclusion that is true, no matter your situation or what your going thru at the moment, just look around there is i guarantee you someone else worse off than you are. Remember this everything is subject to change nothing remains the same day in and day out thats why its called life because it is continuously revolving, evolving, and never stagnant. the harder times make us stronger individuals and allow us to grow. As for the marriage i will pray for you and remember its never too late. its all in how you look at life.

I know how you feel and I can say I've been there before. My suggestion is stop lingering on the bad stuff. start your day everyday with a smile.Do your own thing and don't bother people around you with negative comments.Always make positive statements/comments even if something pisses you off. I have read that when you pretend that your happy, positive results will follow and eventually this pretension will become a reality.