Do you get drunk when you have huge problem?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
September 11, 2009 2:00am CST
For me drinking is a typical solution to a problem that most people rely on when they felt too much pain. I know that it's not a better nor good solution to any problem. But sometimes when you're helpless and despair you tend to crawl to something even an illusion just to forget everything.
How about you, do you tend to get drunk when you experienced a huge problem, or you simply face your problem squarely?
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30 responses
@kapilmahi (23)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hey there..I do not drink...n I think Drinking is not a good solution..although many people tend to drink in stress or frustration..but to me It is not right solution.It can only damage your health..
Whenever I feel stress..I go to the roof of my apartment and look at the surrounding,at the sky..eventually trying to get peace and praying God to provide me the strength to tackle the situation..n I tell u It does wonders to me..really...
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
11 Sep 09
well it will only make the problem go away for a short time. i've never been overly fussed on drinking and don't see the point of going out and getting drunk. i usually just get s..... and listen to some music for a while it helps me. then i wonder how i'm going to fix what ever the problem is.
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@bianca0531 (427)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Hey there. i don't believe that drinking is the solution to huge problems. it will only make things worse.
Whenever i have huge problem (mostly financial and emotional problems, that is), I usually pray as if I was talking to God. Sometimes I would talk to my closest friends or family members. That way, I won't have to drink to make me feel better.
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@charlies2805 (777)
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11 Sep 09
No, I will never get drunk even if I deal with such a big trouble. Quite frankly, getting yourself drunk just add another additional trouble in your life. First of all, consuming liquids which can cause you drunk is not good for your health. Under drunk circumstance, you can even kill your partner without realizing it. That's why I wrote 'just add another additional trouble in your life'. If you're facing a proble, and already been fed up with that, just give yourself a little rest, or try to share your problem with your partner. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Drinking too much was never good for our health. It's really hard to face problems and reality in life with all our might. We all need other people to help us get through the difficult stage. But sad to say the greatest fear of most people is to appear to be WEAK. To accept the fact that we can't make it. We know our self but we don't love and understand the way other does.
Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
11 Sep 09
I sometimes do get myself dunk whenever problems arise, but it seldom happen because i can face my problems squarely too. Drinking won't solve our problems, though for a moment we can forget it but-- it's not drink today, gone tomorrow cliche. Once we are sober, we need to face the problems again. I guess people drink because the short oblivion we experience is quite good enough than nothing at all.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
12 Sep 09
Yeah that is human nature. We resort to something that will help us to forget things even for a moment. We need some sort of help and the oblivion we feel if we are drunk is already considered a help. So no wonder why so many people get drunk if they have problems. Have a nice weekend..
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hi,single sentence answers won't fetch you either in monetary benefits in mylot or in long run.Try to give response at least 3-4 sentences containing with meaning.
@ShirleyBillingsley (1544)
• United States
12 Sep 09
No, i don't drink. I don't like the part of being sick and waking up with a headache, so normally i do something else, such as work, study, or read.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Ah, that's a good option, you'd better do other things to make you occupied and solved problems instead of drinking. Life is wonderful so it's better to hold on what is good and stay away from any temptations.
Thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
12 Sep 09
Many will be tempted to solve the problem with drinking, that is natural. I might do it if being drunk can solve the problem. However, does being drunk solve the problem? It only helps us to temporarily escape the problem. Besides the hangover and perhaps more problem arisng out of the drunk stupor, the problem remains unsolved. It is better to face it squarely.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
12 Sep 09
I used to get drunk to "avoid thinking" about my problems. Then one day someone asked me a question. And I started thinking and thinking...so I got drunk to avoid thinking about it...but it started nagging at me during my hangover...then I decided to stop drinking to avoid problems and instead invest that time and money into solving problems and fixing my life so they could not re occur.
I am sure you are wondering what the question was..."When you drink, what do you really accomplish?" "Does it make the problem go away?" "Do you really forget?" It was that more or less in a big long sentence. From a very dear friend of mine that cared about me deeply.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
You must be very grateful to your loving friend. You're indeed one of the luckiest person to have someone who never leave and continue on loving you. During those times of troubles when lights seems to be elusive, we all need someone who has the ability, courage and love for us to bear and guide to where the lights shine. We have to admit in our self that we can't live alone. We all need each other in order to survive in the classroom of life.
Thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I usually do a balance of the two. I don't get super drunk and forget about the problem, but I may have a couple drinks to relax before making a decision or to distract myself for an evening before facing reality again. I found a long time ago that getting drunk doesn't actually solve anything and in many instances, makes things worse.
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
13 Sep 09
in fact, i once got drunk twice, but all because of the happy things to celebrate.
after that i promised my mom not to be drunk any more. after all, i'm a girl, shouldnt be drunk a lot. that's bad to health and identity.
but when meeting the huge problem, no way, just to calm down and face it to find solutions. in fact, then, we can refer to our friends, relatives, teachers, internet, books, etc, to get help.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yeah, having a strong family foundation and active social life style would greatly helped someone to face the problems in the right way. You're right it's not pleasant for a woman to get drunk and wild.LOL
Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
That's good keeping your self busy is a good way to escape problem instead of doing others things like drinking. It's better to resort on food as well. I have known someone, every time she has a problem she eats a lot of ice cream and chocolates. It's fine than not eating at all.
Thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@markodoom (243)
• United States
11 Sep 09
Like many of your responders I do not or try not to take this route although when I was younger from time to time I would. Drinking can make the problem seem to disappear temporarily as people have stated here BUT it always comes back in the morning and the trouble is it's usually worse because now you have a bad head and/or bad stomach too and feel groggy and less energetic to tackle the problem and you've wasted some time you could have used productively to solve the problem. It takes wisdom and sadly for many of us the wisdom of years to really truly understand and appreciate this and that despite the temptation of some temporary relief, our lives are going to only be made worse by yielding to that temptation
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
Yeah, very well said markodoom. I'm glad to know that you didn't rely on drinking or any form of depressant just to scape the problem. Facing the reality and truth about life was the hardest part. We brought up in a different way, that's why we tackle problems in a way that our parents or peers taught us. And if you're on the wrong way, it would take so much wisdom to learned and accept the truth and walk to the path that is less traveled.
Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
11 Sep 09
This is how i used to deal with my problems ....after a long day i would drink more and smoke more. Now ive started making those changes in my life that i have quit smoking and have made big cut backs in my amounts i drink. Im sure after awhile i will quit drinking too. I just see this as drinking and smoking dont solve the problems , those issues are still there when you sober up and causes health issues too.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
10 Nov 09
I never get drunk when i have a huge problem.I will face it squarely.I will try to work out solutions to overcome the problem instead of getting drunk.I will pray to God to remove the problem as soon as possible.If i am not able to find a way out i will seek help from people who were there in the same situations before.
@babyjesus (277)
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22 Sep 09
No i don't believe that drinking will help me solve my problem. I had one big big problem that it gave me sleepless nights and really it gave me chills every time i hear that problems. the only solution that gave me to heal it was prayers and work to keep me busy
@sunstar402 (676)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hi There, Not all people use drinking support to get their minds away from problems. Some people do it casual, some do have habit. But for me i do it only if their is party at my office place.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Yeah, not all people resort on drinking when got a problem. It all depends on the person on how she/he release the pain and frustration. Some would tend to eat a lot, or nothing at all.
Great that you'd managed to face your problem in a rational way. Keep it up and have a great day!
@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
hi there! i drink but only for socializing. i tried that before but it made me more depressed. since then, i made a pact to myself that i wont drink if i have problems. i just go out and talk to my friends. i dont usually spit it out to my family specially if they are the ones who need me to deal with it. just had it few months ago. a big task was assigned to me. i cant even cry infront of them coz i really dont want them to worry. but of course, they're always updated. it's true. sometimes u wish it was just a dream but sh%t happens so ive got to face it. thank goodness we've overcome that test and waiting for the other one to go down. ive managed to face it and divert from it. face it and be ready when it's there. and think of another plan right after and before facing it again. then divert from it after so many thinking by going out, read, watch movie, be with friends around, play with the kids and joke around with the family to lighten up the environment because i dont want to end up like a damsel in distress. knowing that my friends are always there for me, no need for the talking coz they're presence is enough. as for my family, as what i have said eversince, last resort, BIGGEST COMFORT! :)
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
I'm glad to know that you'd able to made up your mind and face problem in the right way. It must be very hard at first. But you'd make it and you're a living proof that anyone could get through in every problem in life. As they said that everything shall pass away. The good and bad times in life won't stay forever.
Yeah, I agree with you, oftentimes it's our family the last one we can turn to, the one who would surely accept us no matter what. Especially our parents, even though we made so much mistakes and never listened to them, still they love us so much. It's all up to us, to humble our self and turn to them.
Thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
11 Sep 09
Hi,No,i won't drink when i have small or big problems.I used to drink when i am in happy mood and it was habituated since 25 years.The occassions like when i got good contracts,profits in business,functions etc,.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Oh, that's good habit. Drinking should be in the right place and occasions. Problem should be approach logically. But it's sad to know that there's so many people depend too much on drinking whenever they face problems in life.
Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I know a lot of people who share the same idea as you but personally, I don't believe it is the solution to any problem or a even part of it. I think if a problem is that serious then all the more you should be in the right mind to think of the best solutions. Even "a little drink" can cause someone to get a bit dizzy and out of control and it may lead to more serious problems. So i guess instead of getting busy getting drinks, people should just busy themselves finding the right solution to whatever the problem may be. My friends told me that my idea is too idealistic.. maybe it's because i am not really a drinker (i dont see the need to)..