Do you have a friend that won't grow up?

All I can think is, that lifestyle's fine for a person who doesn't have children, but she does. I feel badly for her kids. Actually my own little motto is "I won't grow up" but that just means that I can be silly and enjoy "childish" things, not that I feel I can be irresponsible about things.

I don't have any close friends like that, but I have known a few that are like that. I worked with a girl who was like that too. She has 2 kids I think to different fathers and she is constantly out drinking or doing other things. You are a great parent! I know what you mean though. Seeing people like that makes you feel a whole lot better about the kind of parent you are.

Do I know you? Just kidding. We all have friends like that. I have a brother like that. He loves his kids and he is a good dad but is still so into the partying...still dreams of being a rock star. He's 52. it is not going to happen. The worst cases are the women that abandon their kids for the party life. I mean in many ways it appears to be better for the kids and maybe it is in many ways but still...It is one of those lose-lose situations. Kids need their parents...both of them. I don't mean to single out the women. Men are famous for not being involved in their kids lives but women do it to. Can't wrap my mind around it.

I am so glad that you are nothing like your friend at all. partying, smoking pot, getting drunk (if she also does that), etc are all really dumb to do especially if you are a parent. She does need a lot of growing up to do and one of these days, she should not be surprise if all of her kids got taken away for child protective servies due to her being unreliable on taking care of them. And letting them do whatever the hell she wants while she does all the really dumb stuff. That is so wrong there. I am a mom of three girls with another on the way. I will be 30 next month. But anyway, just like you, I use to have a friend whom I thought was cool and once consider her my best friend. Long story short, earlier this year, I made her mad so bad where in the end due to me realizing that I don't want friends like her anymore, we went our separate ways. even her own aunt disapprove of whom she had become. And yes. She is a mom herself with three kids where the last child is with her. The first two was from the last guy I used to know. The guy she is with is a total loser where of what I was told, he doesn't go out and earn income and expect her to be bringing home the bacon while he sits on his butt doing nothing. He does sound like a deadbeat. Sorry if I am going off on a somewhat different subject but you get the picture. I have been a mom since 21. The kind of friends I would like are successful or even trying to be successful with no obstacles getting in their way of course.

Hey kats! Sometimes it takes looking at someone elses screwed up life to realize how much better off you really are! You have so much more than this person ever could possibly have because you are grounded by a wonderful husband and wonderful kids and you are the one you makes it that way! You did the right thing all those years ago by pulling away from this person. And you are also right that some people never grow up! Some people just never seem to get out of their own sh!t as the say! I knew many people like that when I was growing up and thankfully I also made the right decision to cut them out of my life too!

Its that what people want to do whole life thats fine.But they should not give birth to children then.Motherhood is something different.You need to become much selfless for mothering kids.Its not a easy job.I feel sorry for her kids who are getting enough sleep at their own home.

I have a 18 year old niece with 2 kids and she doesn't have either of them because she refuses to grow up. First one I could understand she was only 13 but the second one she was 17. I was married at 16 because I felt more mature and was often told I was mature acting for my age. I have another niece who is 17 who acts like a 8 year old. I know a few that needs to grow up and start acting if not their age..at least a bit more responsible.

One of my relatives by marriage was like that until she got into a really bad car accident that almost killed her, and she was forced to grow up. Hubby and I were sad because of the accident, but we and she also realized that at the point she was in her life, that was the only dang thing that was ever going to slow her down.

Yes I do. LOL. I don't know how to say this, but actually she really acted as if she is already a grown up. She THOUGHT she is grown up and she is mature. She never knew that what she has done so far is so childish. A self centered childish girl who wants everything to be done just like what she wants, and she's been like this like forever. Now when she's in the need of money, she doesn't even want to work. See, how she never grown up.

That is the way that it goes isn't it. I have friends like that who really do not want to grow up. When you in your teens or even early 20's I guess having a little wild fun every now and again is great, but there needs to be a time to grow up, and move on with life.

GREAT QUESTION! :) I'm sure most of us can relate to this topic whether it's us, who are still that unchanged person or we know that unchanged person. Does it bother you that she is still this way? Would you have liked for her to be more than "that" after so long?

You are indeed very lucky that you found your husband and have a regular life and normal living. Grass is always green on the other side of the mountain and our routines tend to bog us down, but it is still a blessing to have a normal routine living. However it was nice of you to get connected with your old friend. Just hope that she picks up some inspiration from your life!!

well i'm still young but even i see this problem , 2 friends of mine still go around laughing with people and making fun of you for the littelest thing , yet they constanly depend on the people who they make fun off , not very smart i assume . They do stuff irrationaly and don't even think about the consequences of their action to their relatives and friends

Yes, my friend that is 20 years old is still acting like a junior high little punk. It is very frustrating. Errr

Since I am older my friends have grown up.....and now I think sometimes the opposite happens....they grow old too fast! Yup....they finally reach an age where they could be footloose and fancy free and they slip into being couch potatoes etc!

I used to have a friend that would still prank call people, even at 18. I guess I have to admit I did from time to time but still felt guilty about it. I know there's such thing as still having fun, but that to me was just childish. I guess it was awkward being around her when she'd do that. I stopped being friends with her, but not really for that reason. It was actually because I met my fiance, and changed back to who I was and wanted to be before I met my friends... or before they changed me, or I changed myself... I'm happier this way, and though I do think of them from time to time it's usually followed by guilt for thinking of them. They hurt me, and I've gotten over that... I just don't think i could ever be friends with them again. I'm also more mature, I've been thinking of having children since 16 if not before. I know that's every little girl's dream, but besides monetarily I feel I'm ready for kids. I know there a lot of work, but I know it's worth it too.

As I have grown and matured, I have just stopped communicating with those people. I figure that if they don't want to grow up and get their act together, I don't need them around while I am trying to do things in my life.

I do and its actually hard to believe because she was the one who studied psychology and the oldest among our group of friends. when we were younger, it was somewhat fine since a lot of people our age were even more immature..but, recently when we met again, I couldnt believe she was still showing the same sense of immaturity in her. We were talking about old stereotypes/perceptions regarding people from our past and she couldnt grow out of them. it's really sad