breaking up

i know its a difficult situation to be. but if you have decided, i don't think you should delay it any further.the earliest lesser the pain.don't do it over phone or using texting? if you had truly loved him and he were good to you. give him time to explain his version too when you do it in person.take care not to harm his esteem.all the best

Hi, the other name of love is sacarafice. When you are in real love, you will be happy in others happiness (to whom you love). But in real life you have to be practical and take the decisions accordingly. Think of how much from your side you can comprimse and how much you expect you lover to do so. And sort out the things between both of you and take the decision. That will make your relationship healthy and good for both of you in future. From what you have told, if he is not ready to settle with you where you are, can't you think of settling where you lover want. That will be sacrifice on your part, but I feel carrier and opportunities will be plenty in future. What you are getting right now, you may get far better in future. I would suggest just give yourself some time and think calmly and then take the decesion.

What a desperately tough situation for you. I know when you truly love someone the idea of being apart is the hardest thing to imagine. But you are also incredibly mature and wise to know that you have opportunities and abilities that will be pushed aside if you commit yourself to this person. You really just have to be completely honest with him and do what you feel is best for your and your life. I wish you the best of luck!

hello bluehibiscus, need you need to talk to him regarding this matter. tell him that finishing your studies is so important to you. that you have a better future when you are done. that if he really loves you, he will let you graduate. it's the best for both of you. if he can not understand that, then maybe you need to let him go no matter how you feel. if you are not ready getting into marriage life, then it will never work out for both of you. being honest to one another is the best thing that you need to do. good luck to both of you.

Really it is very difficult and sad to break up with someone you truly love. I you are planning to marry with someone and suddenky you feel that there is some problem and it would not be possible then you will really feel very sad and its very pathetic at that point of time.

The decision to break up with your boyfriend has to be your decision alone unfortunetely. See if he is willing to compromise with you first because you don't want to make a decision that you will regret later on. I would personally finish school over anything, just because I want to acomplish my goals in life. If I were you, I would definitely put a lot of thought into this decision before I made it final.

hi bluehibiscus you are so right that you cannot marry him when you two are polar opposites on your education and your opportunities,either he loves you enough to settle there and work to'suport your dreams or he does not. Love has to be there along' with a willingness to compromise, talk to him some more as he is trying not to hear you so the problem will just go away.you know it wont.

Good day.. Love is essential but for anyone to be able to love completely must first be able to complete themselves. We complete ourselves by finding our worth and most of us if not all do so by achieving something we want or need like education. If you love your education then by all means finish it. Love can wait a little longer if you ask me, I mean true love would wait, in reality does 4 years sound a lot and with what technology can offer us like webcam and chatting it would be a breeze. Plus there are vacations right? so that would be an inspiration year after year. When you finish your education and he finishes his or what his endeavor is then you can take life and love more seriously and plan for more permanent things.

i am sorry to hear your story. it's hard to break up with someone whom you love. it happened to me when i was still in college, and my husband and i were not just married. we broke up with each other it was because he had stopped and rest for schooling so we had to be far from each other and don't know when to be with each other again. i love him and he also loves me so much, so he just went back to school for me and so we ended up with each other until we get married. if we never have with each other right now, i know that i would regret for the rest of my life because he is the only man that i love the most until now.

hi blue, that is very sad, you love him but you can't marry him?? well maybe it's not the right time.. maybe you need to think more and in the future if you are ready, of course you can marry him because you love him.. janebeth.

Your situation is hard, I understand your feelings because i also broke up with my boyfriend because I think i dont have a good future with him. he doesnt even have an ambition, he is contented on what he had right now. It's ok to think about your future but bfore you made a decision, tell him about your feelings. If he really loves you, he will change. but if you doenst see any improvement with him I guess you should leave him.

I can say that it is a hard thing to do. You should have a lot of time to think that one out and I should tell you that you should think carefully because you certainly do not want to regret your decision later on. I guess it is not throughly a fact that you could not marry him cause if you love him so much there are thousands of ways you could do to fix things and work things out. Love has to have sacrifice within it. And of course, love could wait. Why not finish your education first I'm pretty sure if he loves you he is willing to wait otherwise he doesn't love you at all. In a relationship you must make the mind and heart work together and not the mind alone. :)goodluck!

the strangest things happen in life doesn't it? well if I were you I'd take a break....but after talking it out....sit and talk about the problem with him...and explain it to him....tell him its really hard cz you really do love him....but in life everyone must grow right? try make him understand and u never knw...you guys might come up with a way to make it work...where it will end with marriage...dn't give up on love tht easy girl!

Tell him how it is. If he really loves you and wants to be with you then he will understand.