what's wrong to be a single

I have experience being nagged by family members on why I don't have a boyfriend lately.I don't really care;let them nag me for all they want.I just smile and say,"I am still working on way to become rich".personally I would like to be a workaholic,rich single girl rather than stuck with someone who is stopping me from achieving my dreams.my dreams are more important to me than finding a partner.if I don't get married,then I'll have dogs and cats.

Ya, this is exactly what is happening to me now. My ex left me 3 years ago, and until now I am not married yet. I think most of my friends at my age are already married. I am one of the outlier. This is going to be concern soon for my parents, because they are worried that I might end up being single for my entire life. I think this is normal for parents and friends to have such opinion. It means they care about us and we should be glad, instead of being frustrated. Although being single is good, but being married is not too bad at all. At least we have a companion when we are old. Good luck to you and myself on soul mate searching quest. Have a nice day and all the best!

I don't think that there is anything wrong with being single. I have been living alone for a long time now, ever since the age of fifteen. I really love my independence and I experience a tremendous amount of freedom. I do admit though, there is no one to share my thought with in the evenings and I guess I do a lot of thinking during those evening hours. The good thing is, we are all free to choose how we live and what we want for our lives. I generally don't mingle with those who have a partner as it does start to feel a little uncomfortable for me. Andrew

Hiya adiel35, I reckon that probably like a lot of people of that age my sons may stay single too. They have a girlfriend and they don´t want to have any children they just say no and a big no. At the moment they do not seem to be very bothered that their friends have got babies and they live together or are married. Being single is what they want at the moment so I just let them get on with it. I would think your family just wants you to be happy like you say. A lot of people between twenty and thirty odd in this family are still single and not interested in marriage or children. I have a niece with five children and she is not married either. Same goes for another two that I know of children and single. It´s never too late to find someone if you wish. Take care now.

I'm not single but of course, at some point in my life I was. I don't think there's anything wrong with being single but I agree that there are people who think that if you're single then there must be something wrong with you. I've had that experience a few times in my life. At the moment, I'm 23 and I'm not married. Some family members ask: "Why?" like it's odd. I think it's none of their business. It does get on my nerves but well, there are some people who are unfortunately, narrow minded.

hai adiel, I'm single for more than 5 years now..and I'm totally happy with it..and for your info, I'm the only son in the family...so yes, they desperately want me to get married...and not just my family, my close friends also didn't wanna miss the fray.. though relentlessly ask the same question over and over again, I never felt annoyed, or even the urge to find a girlfriend...to me its batter to let the Love part to come naturally, rather than regretting a decision which is made to satisfy everybody..

Well I am newly single after a very long, and pretty tumultuous relationship. My mom is extremely happy that I am single now and not in it, but my dad and my brothers have kept asking me "so what are you gonna do now?" and I have no idea why they keep asking me, and no idea what to respond. I think they don't like the fact that I am newly single, maybe they are just being overprotective that I might jump into the dating scene again, but it still is very annoying

I am single too and I know just what you mean. I've had so many people try to hook me up with someone. I am not concerned by my status....I choose it and I like it at this point in my life. My really close friends know how I feel and they don't judge me for being single. I don't let the ones that try to hook me up get to me anymore altho they used to. They mean well. Some people just can't imagine that there are people that actually are ok with their single status.

Hey, Yes well as I am also getting older, my parents keep on asking me if their is any girl that I like. I think that their are a few girls that are nice and all, but if I tell my parents, they will DEFINITELY tell that girl! But more and more, my friends are all starting to have partners, I don't really feel left out though. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!

Yes sometimes it is annoying when someone asking you why up to now I'm a single. They mistaken me that I'm not a straight. Sometimes I hate when my relatives going to ask me if I have a boyfriends I always told them I don't have any. I hate when they comparing me with other people. I think if it is your fate to be a single forever you should accept me all of your heart.

Just saw you discussion adiel. I too am single and never want to get married. There was a time when people kept asking my mom why I was not getting married and that used to bother her, but not me. I don't really care about what people say because being single is through choice; I love the freedom of being able to do whatever I wish or don't wish. So call me selfish, like most people do, but i don't really care because its my life and I can do whatever I want with it. But there is a downside, and thats when you have to attend a wedding or go to some function in the night, when its always best to be accompanied by someone. Apart from that, I'm fine as I am and I don't want to change my single status for any reason at all.

sorry,are you male/female?how old r u?i`m female,will be 33 and still single..do i worry?of course,i do..especially all of my friends are already married with kids (some of them even are already divorce).do i want to get married?of course, i DOOOO!!!but i don`t want to get married just because people say that you`re worthy or-sorry-sold out..i want to get married with a man with same religion,eligible,available,nice,can understand and take me as i am,who loves me and i love him too..just enjoy yourself,join community that suits you,explore your potential,make friends,but still be selective..welcome to the club!may God bless us always

Yes I have experience before people don't understand why you still a single that's why they criticize you. And the reason is they want that you belong to marriage life also they can't wait for that time in our life.

When I was still single, it was a dream of mine to get married. Especially if you see other friends have gotten married already. But from a married mans point of view, i would strongly advise you to remain single for as long as you want, don't get pressured by your friend and do not get married just because the pressure is too much and you feel like giving in. You see, getting married is another chapter in your life where everything is different and you have to be prepared both financially and emotionally for this. Getting into a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship is the same, you will get into it because you are already prepared and not because some of your friends are in it. I'm not saying that getting into a relationship is bad but if you enter into it unprepared you'll only get hurt in the process. Besides, you have to enjoy your freedom while you still can, since entering into a relationship tends to limit that. Just take your time. Cheers!

Hello adiel. Like you I am also single but it doesn't really bother me. The only time that I get bothered by my single status is when friends and family bug me on settling down. Its as if it's that easy to find a decent husband and get married. I chose to be single because I don't want to give up my independence and having a husband may not be a good thing for me or my personality. By culture here in my country its a status symbol to be married. I remember when I was about to go to college. My snobbish aunts from my fathers' side told me haughtily why should I pursue higher education when in fact all that I would ever end up was be a plain housewife. Well, I proved them wrong time and again, because even if I was not able to finish college, I was able to land very good paying jobs and prove to them that what they were thinking about me was wrong. Being single is not a crime. Happy mylotting to you. =)

I'm sorry to hear that you are still single but I am also happy for you if you are, about it. Alot of people like being single and they are in no hurry to have a relationship. I think people should just mind their own business and let you do what you want to about it.

Personally, I remember that pressure, I was "late to the altar," as they say. By the time I married, some of my friends were already into their second marriage! There is nothing wrong to be single. You're accomplished, like your job, do interesting things, and have good friends. Continue to live your life and make it as meaning ful and special as you can. Reinforce your belief that this is not something you can make it happen. Love comes along when it's time. So prepare the way. Other people's pressure is usually about them and their own fears. Stay far away from their "stuff"

Hello I was with someone that did not make me happy at all people told me to stay with him just so I can say I am in a relationship, I did not listen to them, I could care less what people say, some people stay with someone no matter how miserable they are, better them than me, I am happy being by myself, eventually I would love to be with someone that makes me happy, until then I will make myself happy

Tell me about it! My aunties look at me with pity at family get-togethers, I have had some people ask if I am a lesbian, and I have had neighbours try to fix me up with somone ugly they know just because we are both single, as though I am desperate!

I'm married, but was single at a time obviously, and I don't look down on people who are single, but in my experience being single sucks. Having no-one to share things with, being lonely, it's not a good feeling. By all means I don't recommend being in a relationship that you aren't comfortable with, but you ask for opinion and my opinion is it's awful.