We have this young kid at 17, a problem child...

Hi stormWind, we've been doing that a lot of times. He would just keep on blinking his eyes, no words from him you could hear. And if you ask if he understood he keeps on saying yes..but nothing happened no progress..I would just pray I could hold always my temper...thanks for responding..

That kind sounds like my cosine xD And well i dont know what you could do then, but i hope you find the answer soon :) good luck

Thanks for that idea zhuhuifen. I guess we already done that and yet no progressed at all. What I suspected with this boy is he's having a psychological problem. He needs a psycho therapist...thanks for your concern ...I appreciate it...

You know what my friend? We've done that already for several times but nothing's good, no progress at all. What I concluded with this kid is that, he's mentally disturb and he needs a psycho therapist...thank for responding..

i'm just curious if the situation is any better? and, i have to disagree with the problem child being the parents' fault. yes, there are some parents you feel like slapping, because they don't teach their children anything and they never require anything of their children. in that situation, i agree, it is the parent's fault entirely. on the other hand, i have known quite a few parents that my heart just bled for because they did "everything right" and they had one or two children who just turned out "bad." [people make their own choices no matter what they are taught!] and, now i am one of those parents.......some days i just don't know what to do, but keep going on...........we've got a child right now that we don't want back in our house. out of our 6 children, she is just bad to the bone. the small children still at home are afraid of her. she's done some crazy things and no one likes her. we managed to get her into job corps and she came home after 2 weeks---we didn't know who she was!!!!!!!! she started smoking [she's 16 and not supposed to do that at job corps, but manages to do it anyway] her manners were so bad, you couldn't believe she'd been taught any! she was dressed in men's clothes;was bragging about wearing a "wife beater"; had the mannerisms,walk, etc.like a boy; told us she wanted to be a boy....embarrassed us every time we went in public---she was like an animal.......running the streets at night; having relations with everything 2 minutes after she met them...boy,girl,street people.......she was definately raised better!! the whole family is in shock!!!it's like the badder it is, the more she enjoys it! it's horrible to feel this way, but no one wants her home for the holidays and since we found out she had been abusing all the little children in the family [7 of them] in various ways.........well, you can understand. the police say we are legally responsible for her until she is 18 and we are trying to figure some way "legal" to keep her from coming home. it has everyone stressed out!! we've done the counseling thing and the counselors advise us if she ever touches another child to pick up the phone and call the police ---- seems to me that's like letting a poisonous snake run around in your house and just call the doctor should anyone get bit!!! anyway, wish you luck in your situation. it's sad that something that should bring us such joy sometimes brings such pain. i'm open to any suggestions...........

I understand what you mean my friend...thanks for that but we've done it already several times but still no progress at all...thanks again..

The next step is to kick him out. If he isn't going to contribute to the household he should go! I hate to say that because I know it's family, but you have to draw the line somewhere.

Hello my friend your right. That's the first option I suggested to this kid but he never likes it...the problem is my wife instead of this kid to work for just simple job she pointed it to me..it is really frustrating..she never teach of something that make this kid useful in our home....yes I will hold my temper as long as I could...thanks for responding..

Thanks for that advised. Yes we will talk first with my wife on this matter..thanks for responding...

Hello my friend..sad to say, my wife tolerated this guy. What I observed is still she never teach him some even simple house chores he could do until now. Whole dayt just watching tv, dvd etc etc..sleeping, eating... I could not complain anymore because it would spark a big quarrel...thanks for responding..

Thanks for the best response. Even though you may think he isn't responding you can still affect him. Keep on talking with him. Perhaps you could watch a movie with him. That would be nice, perhaps he need to see a therapist.

Hello my friend Pablo...I appreciate you for trying to help me solve my problem. Sad to say yes we'd done this already but nothing's change progressively. I just concluded that whatever advises and ways to solve this problem would just be wasted because he has mental problem, mentally disturb. He needs a psycho therapist..thanks for responding...

You know what my friend robert? This advises of yours were already said and explain to him several times, everything what you suggested were being done already, but still nothing good happen..what I suspected with this kid is he has a psychological problem that needs a psychologist for his mental therapy..that's what I think..well anyway thanks for your advise and concern I appreciate it...

You have an idea my friend. Yeah what he's best is for being a computer (games) addict. The allowance that been given to him during his school days were all went to computer and he never reported to his class....well we'd tried it already for being with him at his mastery but still its no help...I just concluded that this boy has mental problem.He's mentally disturb and of course the only answer for this problem is psycho therapist...thank for responding...

Has he seen a psycho therapist yet? Perhaps he needs an evaluation...

Hello my dear bonita mia..you know what? You're boy has normal way of thinking unlike ours. This kid of ours has not. In my conclusion this kid has mental problem. Mentally disturb that the best solution for this is a psycho therapist...if his parents surrendered to him how much we? Well, i will try my best not to let this kid stay longer here in our house. I will find ways to let him fly to the moon... thanks for your advise and respond...

Wow I appreciate that. That would be a good advise if this kid knows how to understand.Believe it or not, we've done already all the best solution to his problem but nothing works well. What I concluded to this kid is he has a psychological problem, mentally disturb and he needs a therapist...that for all your advise and concerns and also for this wonderful respond...

Hello my friend This is really sad to hear, I really hope for his sake some miracle will take place and things will work themself out, going to a therapist scares me what happens if they medicate him and things get worse, I wish you all the best, I feel so bad for everyone involved, more so this young man that needs something but for some reason will not tell you what it is, maybe the therapist will be able to get it out of him, I only hope he opens up. Good luck, again I am so sorry.

Yes you're right but only for those normal people like you whom have same age with our kid...there were already lots of people advising this young stubborn guy but still nothings change progressively...what I understand is, he needs to have a psycho therapist..thanks for your concern and respond..I appreciate that really

Yes my friend I appreciate that idea. We've done it already several times but nothing's change. What I just concluded this kid, he has mental disturbance, he needs a psycho therapist..Thanks anyway guy I appreciate that ...

I hope it all works out so you dont get disrespected in your own home. Best wishes and happy mylotting.

Well you have an idea. That's suppose to be. But the problem is my wife because she never help me imposing it instead she's very lenient on imposing discipline to this kid...I just concluded that this kid has mental problem, he's mentally disturb and he needs a psycho therapist...thanks for responding...

I understand that my friend. But, you can never find good to this kid. What I know that makes him good are eating and sleeping and watching dvd movies and that's alll..thanks then for your advise and respond...